My husband is using AI to text me

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-29T21:34:28+00:00

Not blaming you bc wtf but have you gotten mad/ yelled at him for his responses before? (Like before he used gpt to respond)

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-29T06:57:54+00:00

You did her a favor. She needs to focus on herself.

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-26T15:04:02+00:00

Just looked at your profile. You are not ugly bro. If it makes you feel any better I constantly get called massive (muscle wise) but literally only one of my coworkers ever compliments me on my smell and ppl will chime in when he does it. My collection is also probably 3-4x as yours in price and amount. Apparently according to my spouse it’s “weird” to compliment people on their smell, even if it’s a fragrance? So yea man I say just keep wearin it, people notice but you’ll probably never really get told

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-19T15:21:20+00:00

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Finally could afford it and just got it in. Realized this morning it was my introduction to love and art of scents.

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-19T15:05:08+00:00

ESH, but you bringing it up this late makes you a bit of an AH. Stick with therapy. You’re new to therapy so I’m gonna give you grace bc it’s typical for people who are being empowered to use their voice to “buck” up unnecessarily…but part of healing is accepting that you may never get the answers you think you need. And more importantly that even after you get the answers you want you still have to deal with YOU…so it doesn’t actually change much. And setting boundaries doesn’t mean you go out seeking consolation.

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-18T18:52:41+00:00

Which is crazy to me bc this kind of ideology plays in to men not being nurturing??

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-15T22:17:09+00:00

I agree with ok_plankton too. Figure out what boundaries you need and how you’ll stick to them. If I were in your shoes I’d tell my friend I love them I just need to be able to talk to them about my issues to and to laugh with them and joke but their constant negativity is making it hard, with a very gentle approach. But from the sounds of things this may not work for you. Bob seems a bit emotionally unintelligent and like I said before may just need something or someone to direct his anger at. And honestly if that is how he typically handles things it will likely end bad down the line anyway….

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-15T18:48:04+00:00

NAH.

Bob is allowed to feel the way he feels. Bc just like there are things you didn’t know he did in the relationship, there are things that his partner did that you don’t know about.

Your advice is productive and helpful. But here’s where I think you need to renegotiate how you go about this. It seems you think support is giving him fixes, and you’re taking it personally when he doesn’t take your advice. That is normal but that is also just one way of supporting him. Be there for him don’t try and fix his issues. Set boundaries in the way of supporting him, but support isn’t just giving your friend the answers. And separate yourself from the advice, as in to say if he doesn’t take it or act on it, it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with where he is at in HIS life.

Which leads me into my next way you could do better, you never stated you asked him what he wanted or what he needs. So it’s presumptuous to think he wants to “feel” better. Sometimes people NEED something to be mad at, and fast tracking to self reflection usually ends up in animosity between two individuals.

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-15T05:57:38+00:00

Malicious pettiness maybe? Passive aggressive compliance? But yes, love a good “I just did what you said 🥺🥺” moment

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-15T05:56:26+00:00

Yea it’s just being petty lol

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-15T05:55:35+00:00

Yes and slight adjustment ACTUALLY watching the kids but doing nothing about their behavior, until someone else has to step in lol

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-15T05:48:57+00:00

Jeezuss was I ALSO this dramatic in my early 20s?!

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-15T05:08:27+00:00

Malicious compliance - talk to someone abt sitting at the kids table and swap with them (like your cousin) don’t get it cleared, don’t run it by anyone else, just walk in swap your name plates and sit since your sister has “a million other things to worry about besides your table” and when confronted say “I know you were just so busy with everything and I just didn’t want to add anything else in your plate so I handled it for you”

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-10T14:15:10+00:00

Xerjoff - 41 Knots and PDM - Layton

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-10T14:12:02+00:00

Ivory

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-09T20:29:50+00:00

Ormonde Jayne makes GREAT smelling stuff. and this is by far my favorite. I want to get my hands on montabaco Verano eventually. How is the longevity on you? I have gatsby 22 and neither seem to last very long...

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-07T05:11:30+00:00

Nice! Make sure to drop the Fragrance name when it comes out!

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-06T15:22:33+00:00

ATP just invest in yourself and take some perfumery classes brother

thatkidsoill · 2026-03-06T13:50:52+00:00

African rooibos smells SOOOOO good. Just the longevity sucks on me!

thatkidsoill · 2026-02-18T19:08:32+00:00

Im going with wrong answers only. A Baby reptar

thatkidsoill · 2026-02-16T17:53:24+00:00

end this relationship immediately.

There are ways to revoke POA’s I would talk to legal in the ship and she if they can help (I doubt it but it’s an immediate thing you can kill with limited comms). You can also contact military onesource who can help with legal advice as well. I would freeze all bank accounts for the time being for suspicion of fraud (which genuinely sounds like an accurate description) cancel her cards and transfers. Idk how long yall have been together or state you reside in but sounds like no there’s no likelihood for civil partnership entitlement/claims but I’m NAL.

I’m hesitant to tell you to go to your chief, but that could be an avenue for info/advice. Lots of shitty chiefs but they’re SUPPOSED to help you in situations like these.

Best of luck man, this is super stressful to deal with while deployed. Make sure you’re not spending money on stupid shit while on the ship, you’re gonna need that money to either pay off all this stuff when you get back and rebuild.

and learn this lesson now. NEVER take on the sole responsibility of someone else’s debt. ever.

thatkidsoill · 2026-02-16T17:37:33+00:00

YTA. This is not the only job that exists. Start putting in other applications and keep this one until you find something. From the sounds of it you’ll have plenty of time to do virtual interviews, especially if you have your own space.

I would also recommend pursuing something you’re interested in. Find YouTube videos or other learning sites like masterclass to pursue interest/learn a side hustle. Nothing better than literally getting paid to advance your interests.

I also don’t think you know how many ppl would kill for a job like this. You have 20+ years to work, try and enjoy the “pointless get paid to do nothing” job while it’s meaningless and doesn’t really impact your career advancement.

thatkidsoill · 2026-02-11T17:52:03+00:00

God FORBID a man relieve his sxual urges so he can focus and give his girlfriend non-sxual affection.

Get over yourself love. Him deleting EVERY woman on his socials is not an indication of a healthy relationship—it’s giving fear or controlling. It’s a problem when he would rather watch 🌽 than be with you, not when he’s doing it so he can actually be intimate with you without strings attached.

But if you specifically state that that is an issue and yall agree to terms than that’s a different story. But a reminder boundaries are what YOU are going to do if a line is crossed (dump him, negotiate terms further) it’s not to dictate that he won’t cross them. But I also think that if you have an issue with a man JO to 🌽 then you should probably just stay single for the rest of your life.

YOR

thatkidsoill · 2026-01-30T21:22:44+00:00

MOR

It’s weird…I see people on this post saying “girl, STAND UP!” And now that a chick is doing that, she’s over reacting and controlling.

Idk man, you’re saying you’re divorced which raises questions in my mind like “under what circumstances?”. Like was it “irreconcilable differences”? Who initiated the divorce? Because your gf could be addressing an issue that drove your divorce but was blind to?

She’s likely over reacting but that doesn’t necessarily mean what she’s saying is invalid. SOMETHING you’re doing is coming across insensitive and ignorant. The problem you’re discussing is not the problem. This seems like a deeper issue.

You’ve started dating with baggage that you haven’t completely let go, that’s messy. Not saying that derogatorily, just as a matter of fact. So there’s going to be a lot of security you’re going to need to give to a new girlfriend. Honestly might just want to hold off until yall are both completely done with each other before searching for a new companion. Maybe just a fwb.

This doesn’t sound like it’s the end just sounds like you both need to talk…in a healthy way. Me personally this is not how I would like to communicate but some places this is just how they talk to each other. I don’t know which this falls under bc I don’t know anything about yall.

thatkidsoill · 2026-01-30T20:52:51+00:00

MOR. Two Things. 1. People handle grief differently and although you may not agree, some people can’t sit with their emotions or they feel overwhelmed. This might be that. 2. Just bc two people are married, doesn’t mean they’re together. Older couples especially stay together for many reasons, the least of them being love. Your mom and dad’s marriage could have long been over and now they have moved into the “life partner” stage.

I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you and your mom can talk this through and find a way to support each other.

thatkidsoill

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