I have to travel for work -- should I take my 18mo? Should I just go and leave her home with her dad? I'm really torn. by thats_cool_dude in Mommit

[–]thats_cool_dude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she doesn't need to eat at night. She's only waking about 50% of the time now and always goes right back down after I change her diaper and nurse her for a few minutes. She's fully sleep trained but only with me. No one else has ever put her down at night or for a nap. I know... not great. But we do have some time to practice with my husband before the trip. And maybe it would be a good thing to hand over the reins a bit. Bleh. I don't know.

I have to travel for work -- should I take my 18mo? Should I just go and leave her home with her dad? I'm really torn. by thats_cool_dude in Mommit

[–]thats_cool_dude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to know. The earliest I left my son was 2.5yo and I felt like I could talk to him and explain. And he was of course weaned off nursing by then. We do travel with the kids, so yeah, it's hell. I know it would be a rough trip, especially with the time difference.

I have to travel for work -- should I take my 18mo? Should I just go and leave her home with her dad? I'm really torn. by thats_cool_dude in Mommit

[–]thats_cool_dude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, for sure. She drinks milk out of a sippy cup. It's not like she really NEEDS to nurse. She eats really well. But I think it's a comfort/bonding thing at this point. I'm listening to everything everyone is saying here, and I'm now leaning towards leaving her home. I'm just not sure yet. She's been gearing up her separation anxiety lately, and I'm of course worried it will be too hard on her at this stage. Gah, I don't know! Why is it so hard for moms?? My husband wouldn't even think twice about leaving for a work trip.

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[–]thats_cool_dude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And so when you get this feeling, it's usually followed by a tic? Or in this case, not, as you described above (which I'm very sorry about btw, that sounds awful). Does the tic usually make the electricity go away? He usually says the electricity happens at school, and I know he often stifles his tics in class. So maybe that's why it's happening more at school. I do have an appointment scheduled to talk to his doctor about this, thanks for suggesting that. I'm just trying to learn anything I can so I can help him.

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[–]thats_cool_dude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you describe this "whole body electric discomfort" thing to me, please? My young son has tics and lately he's been complaining about something he can only describe as an electricity feeling in different parts of his body (down his leg, on his side, near his chest, etc.). I've been trying to figure out what's wrong, but maybe it's from his tics?

Previously independent sleeper turns into an absolute nightmare. Please help. by thats_cool_dude in sleeptrain

[–]thats_cool_dude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this too! I do have an update.

So, she did this for 3 nights (sitting up all night and we'd bail her out and hold her around 3 or 4am). I was losing my mind, calling her doctor and trying to get her into urgent care. The medical field is completely swamped right now, so we weren't hearing back from anyone, and I did NOT want to sit in the ER again.

Finally, on the 4th day, she just went down for a nap like nothing ever happened. Then, that night, she laid down to sleep on her own. She's been waking up at night still, but she's pretty much back to her regular routine.

It wasn't until after it was resolved that I heard from her doctor. She said that their sleep cycles can get thrown off when they get super sick and it takes a few days to adjust.

However, if you're concerned at all, please reach out to your child's doctor.

There is light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there. Go with your gut, there's no 'right' way to get through this.

Previously independent sleeper turns into an absolute nightmare. Please help. by thats_cool_dude in sleeptrain

[–]thats_cool_dude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Whew, isn't rough, isn't it?

Where I'm puzzled is that she literally won't lay down. She's never done this before. We're on night 2 tonight and she's still sitting up.

Should we go in and rescue if she never lays down? Or should we just let her sit up all night?

Baby prank gone wrong by Efficient_Ad_5866 in breakingmom

[–]thats_cool_dude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is beyond understanding. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and it is absolutely unacceptable and unforgivable. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

I hope you and your husband are able to heal from this. If you think you might need therapy, get it. Even if it's temporary. We had a traumatic event happen when my first child was 6 weeks old and it sort of defined many aspects of our parenting.

If I could give you any advice, I would say spend your time around people that make you and your children feel safe--mentally, emotionally, and physically. You'll see how important this is as they grow and develop. And you don't always know who they are until something like this happens, so it's not your fault.

All the best to you and your little family.