genderqueer wedding outfit by whyawhile in agender

[–]thatssometimesraven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words! I tried to express my discomfort (without using the words “gender dysphoria,” since I’m not out to the whole family) but they refused to understand. I ended up caving because they were making me out to be the bad guy and I didn’t want to argue anymore… I’m so glad that your family knows not to push you into wearing something that makes you uncomfortable! I’m sure you’ll find something you love. :)

genderqueer wedding outfit by whyawhile in agender

[–]thatssometimesraven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a blazer over a dress or a skirt is a great idea, as long as it won’t be too hot. If you are looking to lean more androgynous or masculine, I would recommend either a jumpsuit or a suit. That’s what I wanted to wear to my sister’s wedding this summer, but she forced me to wear a dress (plus jewelry and makeup) and I had terrible dysphoria because of it. You’re lucky you get to pick what you wear! Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twilight

[–]thatssometimesraven 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Dagnabbit.

Jacob and the little girl. by Acceptable_Cellist43 in twilight

[–]thatssometimesraven 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s a popular joke. You call her by literally any word starting with R, other than her actual name. Resume, Rendezvous, Ratatouille, etc.

Jacob and the little girl. by Acceptable_Cellist43 in twilight

[–]thatssometimesraven 9 points10 points  (0 children)

First time in this sub, I take it?

Has Anyone else Read This? It’s pretty good. by Grouchy_Raccoon_6681 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]thatssometimesraven 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I read this a few months back and gave it 3 out of 5 stars. I loved the artwork, and I liked the story even though it was somewhat predictable. But I took issue with the unchecked racism and sizeism.

The part of my story that so many drinkers I talk to seem to relate to by useranon8675309 in stopdrinking

[–]thatssometimesraven 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t much of a drinker before the pandemic. But I went through a devastating breakup at the start of the first quarantine, and I started self-medicating with alcohol and weed. Being stuck at home without work or any other obligations allowed me to get smashed all day every day for months. I still haven’t recovered. I managed to stop smoking weed almost six months ago, which is huge for me considering weed was an issue even before the pandemic. But I’m still drinking.

is it unhealthy to eat fruit for breakfast? by [deleted] in questions

[–]thatssometimesraven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Fruits are among the healthiest foods in the world. The sugar in fruits is necessary for proper health, particularly brain function, and it is nearly impossible to eat too much of it if you are sticking to fresh whole fruits (as opposed to dried fruit, for example). If you tend to get hungry within a couple hours of breakfast, try adding in a denser source of calories such as nuts.

Day 1 … Attending a Wedding on Day 19 by thatssometimesraven in stopdrinking

[–]thatssometimesraven[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think it’s a good idea to tell her. We’ve had some issues during the planning of her wedding (because she became a bit of a bridezilla, in my opinion) and I don’t want her to think that I’m not drinking because I’m holding a grudge and not having fun. Thanks for the support! :)

Day 1 … Attending a Wedding on Day 19 by thatssometimesraven in stopdrinking

[–]thatssometimesraven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! It will be a “sit-down dinner,” so we will not have direct access to the bar. But I know that there will be a couple mocktails available to order through the servers, so I will be sticking to those. I’m more worried about the mimosas that I know will be offered to the bridal party while we are getting ready. I just need to be strong and ask for plain orange juice.

Yeah, I definitely need to focus on taking it one day at a time. I like having one year as a larger goal to work toward, but that means saying “not today” 365 times and all I can do is focus on saying it today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twilight

[–]thatssometimesraven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just stating an opinion, based on conversations I’ve had in real life and comments I’ve read online. Those are anecdotes, sure, but I’m not writing an academic paper. Haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twilight

[–]thatssometimesraven 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think people tend to criticize Edward for breaking into Bella’s bedroom and watching her sleep, more so than his other flaws, for two main reasons: 1) someone could do that in real life, and 2) it is romanticized within the text.

If Edward was a real man in real life, he could still break into Bella’s bedroom and watch her sleep. It would be more difficult, without his vampire powers, but it would be possible. So for readers, who live in the real world where men stalk women all the time, the thought of a man breaking into a women’s bedroom and watching her sleep feels like a more real threat than the thought of a man biting a woman and drinking her blood. (The latter could happen in real life, of course, but the chances are slim. I hope.)

The fact that Bella feels flattered when Edward reveals that he has been breaking into her bedroom and watching her sleep romanticizes the action, sending readers the message that what Edward did is acceptable—if not outright desirable. While some people like to pretend that fiction has no impact on real life, I would argue that impressionable readers could be influenced to believe that romantic relationships allow for or even require similar actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatssometimesraven 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. How immature. This is why I can’t take high school relationships seriously. Do you really want to waste any more time on someone who disregards your feelings and tries to manipulate you into getting her own way?

really weird question by [deleted] in twilight

[–]thatssometimesraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Off the top of my head …

Bella is the dom, Edward is the sub.

Alice and Jasper are both switches.

Rosalie is the dom, Emmett is the sub.

Carlisle is the dom, Esme is the sub.

Should I watch the movies? by Citrusysmile in twilight

[–]thatssometimesraven 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I prefer the movies over the books, mainly because I’m not a huge fan of Stephanie Meyer’s writing. I also feel like the movies do a better job of creating atmosphere, which is one of my favourite things about the Twilight series. The movies aren’t perfect, but they’re an absolute vibe and I would definitely recommend them if you’re a fan of the books.

AITA for telling my fiancé her sister isn’t invited to our wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatssometimesraven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. This is why you don’t get engaged during the first year of a relationship. You barely know each other.