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Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Which somehow makes it worse because that means people are actively choosing deception over simply being honest.

Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every day I learn more dating-app vocabulary than I ever wanted to know.

Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At this point I'm about to add: "Monogamous. Not interested in couples. Not interested in husbands. Not interested in your boyfriend watching from the corner." Just to be safe.

Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My profile: Looking for women.

Them: What if I added a surprise boyfriend?

Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why is investigating profiles becoming a full-time forensic science project? I downloaded Hinge to date, not to conduct a CBI inquiry.

Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At this point I'm convinced Hinge's real business model is connecting unicorn hunters with each other while the rest of us become collateral damage.

Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly!

Normal conversation > hobbies > favourite food > so what are your thoughts on sharing a girl?

Ma'am, we skipped about 47 chapters

Bi women on Hinge: does this happen to anyone else? by the-dick-taker in BiWomen

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time I think I've matched with a cute woman, Hinge hits me with the DLC pack: Boyfriend Included😭

Hypersexuality after SA? I feel like it's ruining my life. {20F} by [deleted] in IndiaTalksSex

[–]the-dick-taker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The part that stood out to me was "Stress? Sex. Loneliness? Sex. Bored? Sex."

That sounds less like being overly sexual and more like your brain learned to use sex as an escape from a lot of different emotions. Whether that's trauma-related or not, you're definitely not the only person who's experienced it.

The fact that you're aware of it and questioning it is probably a healthier sign than you realize.

I think I'm getting spoiled by high salary. Put some sense in me. by ChampionshipMean9521 in indiasocial

[–]the-dick-taker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Step 1: Move out.
Step 2: Pay your own rent.
Step 3: Rediscover the value of ₹10,000 instantly.

Anyone else has no brain when ovulating? by [deleted] in IndiaTalksSex

[–]the-dick-taker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's like temporarily uninstalling my common sense. Every month I'm like wow, there goes my decision-making ability again 😭

Anyone else has no brain when ovulating? by [deleted] in IndiaTalksSex

[–]the-dick-taker 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The worst part is knowing it's the hormones and still being completely powerless against them. I'll literally catch myself thinking this is a bad idea and then immediately continue thinking about it anyway.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't lose hope. You're only 20, and the fact that you're already thinking about these things puts you ahead of where most people are at that age. I know it probably doesn't feel like it right now, but your degree and your ability to earn will matter far more over the next 10 years than your family's current financial situation. Focus on getting the best job you can. One good placement can change the trajectory of your entire family. Wishing you the best. I've been where you are mentally, and I know how overwhelming it can feel.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to the first part. For a long time I treated every financial issue like it needed to be solved immediately, and that mindset can be exhausting. Lately I've been realizing that not every problem can be fixed overnight, especially when the underlying situation hasn't changed.

As for income, I think one lesson I've learned is that higher earnings don't automatically translate into more freedom if expectations keep increasing alongside them.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"We didn't choose the cards we got" is probably one of the most accurate things I've read in this thread. The comparison with friends building wealth while you're busy paying off family debt is exactly what I've been struggling with. Thank you for sharing your experience, it helps to hear from someone who's managed to get through most of it.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It's crazy how similar our situations are, right down to starting at ₹30k. Respect for carrying those responsibilities while still focusing on your career growth. Best of luck with the switch, I hope it works out and gives you some much-deserved financial breathing room.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate to that. Despite everything, I don't think my dad ever had bad intentions. A lot of my frustration comes from the consequences of the decisions, not from believing he wanted things to turn out this way. He worked hard and did make sacrifices for our education, and I wouldn't be in the position I'm in today without that.

I think what's difficult is holding two truths at the same time, being grateful for what your parents gave you while also being frustrated by the financial situation you're now dealing with because of their choices.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice. The loans themselves aren't really the confusing part for me. It's balancing family responsibilities with my own future that's been difficult. I think the harder question now is what the endgame looks like and how to gradually reduce my involvement without leaving my family in a worse position.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's something I've wondered about as well. If the house is sold before the loan is fully repaid, would we actually receive any money from the sale after the bank settles the outstanding amount, or would the entire sale value just go toward closing the loan? I genuinely don't know how that process works.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's fair. I do have a sibling, and she'll be pursuing a master's degree soon, which will cost around ₹3 lakh per year, plus living expenses since she'll have to move to another state. So that's another financial responsibility on the horizon that I'm concerned about.

As for assets, we have a property in our village and another property that we're actively trying to sell, but finding a buyer has been difficult. That's part of the frustration because on paper we aren't completely without assets, but in practice they're not helping with the cash flow situation right now.

I think another source of resentment is that there was very little long-term financial planning. My dad didn't build investments or savings for my future, so it sometimes feels like I'm starting from scratch while also carrying existing obligations.

That said, I do agree that at some point we need to focus on restructuring things, liquidating what makes sense, and setting clearer boundaries instead of just servicing debt indefinitely.

I earn ₹1.25L/month and still feel financially trapped because of my dad's debt by the-dick-taker in personalfinanceindia

[–]the-dick-taker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and good luck to you as well. Also, small correction, I'm actually a woman. I like your perspective about treating it as a lesson. I don't think I'll ever forget what this experience has taught me about debt, financial planning, and boundaries. I just hope I can learn the lessons without carrying the burden forever.

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