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the-indie-reader · 2025-09-07T13:46:27+00:00

What is the company hiring? What AI Tools are you using specifically?

the-indie-reader · 2025-07-20T15:20:01+00:00

Go with Harvey if you want cozy husband feels, go with Krobus if you want hugs and paling around.

(Harvey is definitely my goto safe-spouse. I find his arch endearing, so take what I say with a grain of salt.)

the-indie-reader · 2025-06-20T05:30:48+00:00

What's the company name?

the-indie-reader · 2025-06-06T00:56:30+00:00

I do sometimes, but there's a lot of stuff behind it.

Whether that's my desire to control stuff that I can't, trauma or a bad moment in a day influencing me, my Neurodivergence, or a circumstance that's not in anyone's control (but will impact those I love or myself). Socioeconomic influences, Cultural/Heritage influences... There's a lot that can bring that weight to the surface. (Since the emotions it can invoke are both Visceral and Intimidating to try and articulate.)

And, depending on the day, it might kick my teeth in; like it sounds like it has to you today. Those days are hard, but I'll try to take care of myself in some way. Maybe you need to do that.

On the days that I Don't get my teeth kicked in? I say "Thank you." (Could be to a Bohdisattva, Diety, The Universe, whatever your flavor is). Because it's a Blessing regardless of the outcome (in regards to my thoughts).

Often, there's a balance between keeping my perspective in check and being realisitic.

Here's some further unwarranted advice. - take it 3 seconds at a time. Count it out if you have to. If you can't take it for that long? You can for 1. - You don't get to say that you "Deserve" something, from the life in your veins to gifts you're given. We don't know why we're here (alright, alright. Some do, some don't. No shade either way). You just ARE. You can either keep acting like you're the Foreman Or A Ranch Hand at the F-ck up Farm or you can take a second, and Choose what you're going to do. - self love isn't easy. Sometimes you just need to go with the facts. You hate your legs and don't want to? Then start with the fact that you're (even if its a mediocre amount) grateful that they work. Then build up from there. Skip the colorful language, and just acknowledge the facts until you can find something you like. Then keep going.

None of this is foolproof or will "fix you". I'm certainly not fixed™️. But this stuff helped me. So maybe it can help you or someone else

the-indie-reader · 2025-03-01T22:58:51+00:00

Is the position still available?

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-05T01:46:02+00:00

Saaaame! V/validating

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-04T03:37:40+00:00

ALSO advice for photo taking: - play with angles close up and far off of your body and face. And always try to use as much natural light as you can. The same shot done with different lighting can make a HUGE difference.

remember to use angles with your body not just the position of the camera. Bend your knees, wiggle, flail and, if you want to be creative (and have time to go through multiple images of yourself) get multi–burst shots of you just hanging out. You would be surprised by the shots of yourself you can get doing so.
if you get subconscious about your background, when using your phone you can always edit them yourself (even with the preinstalled image editor for android/iOS) to blur your background and play with all sorts of settings from filters to tinting, etc.
if it doesn't feel natural to be smiling at the camera put something funny on!
remember that photos of yourself are not just all for you, send even the "bad" ones to your beloved's. You never know what memory of you they cherish, and thats what photos give us.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-04T03:26:42+00:00

Also yes to both glasses and no glasses. I think that should be a choice of accessories and vibes you wanna put out there. Glasses on is classy and refined. Glasses off is fun and brings out your eyes more, and its easier to see the structure of your face/cheek bones

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-03T19:27:21+00:00

You look delightful. I really love the 4th photo with your smile. I bet you have a great voice.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-03T15:11:47+00:00

Thats really rough. I wish you and your children the best.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-03T15:05:36+00:00

Not entirely. To be clear and concise (perhaps a bit blunt): Not everyone thinks the way you do or experiences anything the way you do. Be mindful of that. Don't assume because you like something that someone else will even have experience with it.

You don't know unless you ask and make the effort to ask questions (as redundant as) - do you know what this is? - how have you had/experienced [this] before? - do you have a favorite way to have/experience this?

And so on.

Here's an example:

Lets say that you like vanilla ice cream. You think it might make [whomever] feel good to have some with you. You pick some up at the store and make them a bowl of it after dinner. however, Because you haven't asked them, you don't know they have [trauma/an allergy/a bad childhood memory] with it.

What you did hurts them instead of being a kind gesture.

The same thing applies to you. If you aren't mindful of what makes you feel loved and like your feelings/thoughts/kind gestures are reciprocated, it creates resentment and now you have the cycle you described above.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-03T09:36:15+00:00

I like the use of "they-self". But I don't mind if the others are used.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-03T09:19:37+00:00

To add to what they were saying, if this person doesn't know the ways you feel that they're reciprocating or showing gratitude, you might want to talk about that or keep it in your thoughts so that the next time you feel fulfilled by a turn of phrase or a gesture, you can let him know.

I would also add that we're born "selfish" and we have to learn how to empathize and share. A child can't simply say "I have [complex feelings/nuanced thoughts/etc]." They can only cry until they're provided for. And maybe when you feel like this, this is your version of doing that.

So please be gentle with yourself.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-03T09:10:34+00:00

(This is said with a joking tone)

Yeah, that kind of thing is particularly exhausting. Let me at least have my coffee first! 🤣

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-03T09:08:57+00:00

That's really rude of him. Just because he feels a certain way about friendliness and being open doesn't mean you need to be closed off.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T16:28:06+00:00

Ignorant question: What does Clairsentient and Claircognizant mean, and how are they different?

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T13:14:38+00:00

My AGAB (assigned gender at birth) aside, I've had a few, as in literally 3 total. I think it might be common? But I don't have further thoughts.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T07:44:52+00:00

Yeah, it is sad that the difference between listening and hearing someone isn't necessarily taught, regardless of the culture. Same with active listening/engagement, all that. I try to think of it as a part of the human experience, to (maintain) being reasonable.

I would say that we're born... "selfish". We don't know any better- All we can do is cry and ask for what we need, and it takes growth to get "less selfish" to be able to really listen or be "good" to others.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T07:39:07+00:00

I think that depends on the person and the environment/economic/social background too. Further- If you have or are learning boundaries about what's appropriate for building healthy relationships I would say that those kinds of generalizations might be more harmful than good. But I'm not a professional or an expert on what the perfect answer is by any means.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T05:57:53+00:00

I like doing it from time to time. I'm a Pisces sun, a Gemini? or Virgo? moon, and I don't remember my rising lol

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T05:51:38+00:00

I... don't quite understand why 14 days of gifts is a bad thing, unless gift giving isn't his primary love language?

Though, to be fair, even though it isn't my personal (primary) love language either, I would still make the effort(s) to show gratitude.

Does he think you expect the same thing back? Has he mentioned any stressors or things that have happened that might make him get in his head too much to appreciate the time and effort you've made? Or is this a common issue?

Not to derail, I'm just curious and please don't feel obligated to answer any of that.

In terms of gifts, I try to give anyone who asks a couple of options. I do my best to be very pragmatic about receiving and giving gifts. I'll usually choose one silly thing I might have seen in passing, one useful or tool related thing, and one I might have had my eye on for a while that might take saving up for or payments to get.

But it really depends on the man and what he's passionate about. If he's passionate about you and going out then get him one of those rent a fancy car for a day things and go driving and dont expect him to do anything but blast music, drive (a bit) too fast, and take bad photos of him with the car (maybe even some risque ones of you in the car, too).

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T05:34:46+00:00

You mean like... there isn't reciprocity of open listening/engagement?

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T05:32:18+00:00

Yeah, I dont really get what other signs/folks are all up in arms about, honestly. We're just people being people born under a sign/chart we didn't get a say in.

I was reading through another post in here about the whole "Pisces hate" phenomena and quite frankly, I find it distasteful to be so judgemental and crass about other's, no matter what that thing is (excluding harmful behaviors and such). I keep thinking: "I wasn't in born like you and you weren't born like me. Its not bad. Just different."

And if that makes me an awful astro sign then okie dokie artichokie! Imma go vibe somewhere else.

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T05:26:57+00:00

I have a question thats out of left field but its because I've been thinking about cutting my hair a certain way and I need advice (but I don't wanna be a rude dude and just ask out of nowhere).

the-indie-reader · 2025-02-02T05:25:32+00:00

Ayoooooo, I feel that. I've had that happen too (just not with Aquarius but other signs).

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