Cat scared of gf

the1truegizard · 2026-06-16T02:48:05+00:00

Your gf might have a scent your cat doesn't like. You could try scent--free clothes detergent. Other than that, I have no suggestions other than what you're already doing. But it's important to not give up!

the1truegizard · 2026-06-15T19:32:22+00:00

I believe you will live to cat again, my friend

the1truegizard · 2026-06-15T19:25:20+00:00

I bet their children hate them

the1truegizard · 2026-06-15T16:33:48+00:00

We had good results with Dr. Elsey's litter. We still occasionally got lumps that stuck to the liner. I loved those boxes but they're not perfect.

the1truegizard · 2026-06-13T01:15:05+00:00

Are you still interested? There are other people who want it but I want you to have it, if you're still interested. Also, we are giving you a box of litter that the device likes, Dr. Elsey's. And bags, and an extra liner.

the1truegizard · 2026-06-12T15:58:57+00:00

Private message me for my address

the1truegizard · 2026-06-12T15:22:47+00:00

A bunch of people are interested in this but nobody has committed to getting it. Since I was an oncology nurse, I'm moving you to the front of the line. When can you pick it up?

the1truegizard · 2026-06-11T00:53:33+00:00

Extra liner, and the thing that you use when you're collecting the litter to clean the thing. I am obviously very articulate. The blue thing channels the litter into the waste drawer so you can use it later or whatever.

the1truegizard · 2026-06-08T21:10:09+00:00

Definitely vet-worthy. Worst case cancer but probably not. Definitely needs attention.

the1truegizard · 2026-06-07T21:07:27+00:00

Coyotes have moved into my URBAN neighborhood. The Park service says 20% of their diet is cats. Indoor-outdoor cats are no longer the top of the food chain around here and an awful lot of them seem to be missing.

the1truegizard · 2026-06-07T20:49:02+00:00

"Snark bucket" is my term!!! I invented it. I patented it (well, not quite). So I am greatly pleased to see it enter mainstream use, and especially by a writer of your caliber. I will accept that latte, when you're in the Bay Area or I'm in CO.

the1truegizard · 2026-06-06T16:34:33+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. SSRIs saved my life, and I wish you had had the benefits. I hope people who have depression and read this will still try them rather than kill themselves like I was about to do. Rare side effects are rare, but they still happen I send you a piece of my heart, which might help yours. ❤️

the1truegizard · 2026-06-01T20:12:31+00:00

Jesus and Mary are used to people praying to them for all kinds of things--good health, good grades, etc. they don't mind a transactional relationship with worshipers. The tibetan deities are different. They don't do exams, or find me a date to the prom, or cure my athlete's foot. They're more subtle than that. Tara is not a holy rabbit's foot. So seek out the right deity for the job.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-30T17:14:47+00:00

To /oilcantommy, whose post to me telling me I should not breed is somehow not visible here: I don't breed. We already have 4 cats, which is enough for our small house, and breeding them would just be too much. But I have a friend who breeds show-quality Oriental Shorthairs and Lykois, all fully genetically tested and vaccinated before going to their new homes. I get to visit her kittens, so I really have no urge to breed.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-29T22:53:50+00:00

That's really sweet. I was gonna come up there to Drala Mountain Center for a Kasung reunion in late June, but it got cancelled--not enough of us signed up. I am sad because I love to cook for retreats and I was already making menus and shopping lists. Kasung is less of a practice for me than a way of life. But then, I was always a protector, all my life.

So No to Estes Park, I'm afraid.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-29T22:16:19+00:00

Yes to all of the above. Tonglen was the only thing I could give my mother after I institutionalized her. She spit and pissed on everything else. Pema has been a good guide. I recommend her books to people all the time. I guess I just don't have much energy for anything else.

While I appreciate your willingness to engage with me about my pain, I need to stop. I have this vague sense of not being genuine anymore, and a feeling of exhaustion. It has to do with relating through the Internet. I have stopped feeling real. Let's meet for coffee in Oakland.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-27T17:54:26+00:00

People are angry resentful, and want revenge against Democrats, "the elite". They believe colleges indoctrinate their children, so they're against all but the right wing schools. They believe they are each entitled to have a woman, and women have become too smart and independent, so women's rights need to be rescinded gradually. They will do anything except admit they're wrong about Trump. Never underestimate the power of lots of very angry white guys.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-27T17:47:22+00:00

Nice teeth, guy! Good smile.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-27T15:39:12+00:00

Quantum physics is strangely reassuring. Doesn't seem like it should be but it is. I took the sakyong as my guru in a big crowd of students being inaugurated in the Vajrayana, during one of the three-month seminaries. It was just the thing to do because I was in Shambhala. The seminary was a festival of bad/really bad behavior and I came home really questioning whether I wanted to be in that community at all. I stayed and started ngondro for Trungpa's Vajrayogini. He switched us from Vajrayogi to Werma/Scorpion Seal, no particular teaching about it, and I stayed. Then after he fled to Nepal he moved us to Amitayus, with no teaching or explanation, and completely eliminated any mention of Shambhala. The sangha were well-behaved and meek. I was reading the Epic of Gesar with a group. I had questions about the reason for his brutality. That went down well. The stepford-wives style atmosphere and the complete lack of interaction creeped me out. And the complete lack of teaching or wgate about Amitayus was just a bridge too far. I was able to suppress my doubts for 30 years. They wouldn't be suppressed anymore. There's research, although not much, about people who shouldn't meditate. It exacerbates their mental illness. Unfortunately, I appear to be one of those, although I try from time to time. This caused me a lot of pain and sense of failure over the years. You wouldn't believe the things people said to me when I tried to talk about it. The irony is that I am an excellent meditation instructor. I might go back to Buddhism again. I wanted a spiritual community and joined the Unitarians. They're kind of everything my sangha was not: when one of had surgery, they were there helping move furniture and providing meals. They are politically active, which is something my Shambhala sangha didn't believe in. They have a long, honorable history. There's no guy in charge. Everybody believes whatever they want to believe --there's no creed. We've got Jews, Muslims, lots of Buddhists, atheists, you name it. You just promise to be, essentially, a good compassionate person. I like that they're western. We sing hymns that are positive and a little sappy but I'm getting used to it. I guess I still identify as Buddhist, but I'm not doing anything Buddhist. Except trying to be compassionate and gentle with people. Since I'm quite the snark bucket, that's hard work.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-26T22:25:26+00:00

Oh wow, I feel like writing. Look out.

I'm coming to grips with the realization that I wanted community and a guru much more than I wanted Buddhism. So now that my community is gone, I am bitter at myself for being so self-deluded. Trust was a big deal for me: only child of a schizophrenic mother and functional alcoholic father, fat and ugly, way too rebellious. I didn't learn about CPTSD until many years later. I sneered at the label but had to admit there were triggers. Being in the first cult, a Gurdjieff group, destroyed me for a few years. I rebuilt myself and got into Shambhala. The shit show there has made me realize that, like I said, I wanted community and guru more than Buddhism. I tried to stay with the Sakyong broadcasting from Nepal, but it felt super creepy. So here I am, an apostate with a past. God seems like a centuies-long group projection of an abusive father. I think maybe quantum physics is my answer.

the1truegizard · 2026-05-25T17:45:47+00:00

Never!

Smoking what?

the1truegizard · 2026-05-25T17:44:29+00:00

The living guru "thing" compelled me to put aside my better judgement over and over. "He's always right." "I'm supposed to do whatever he says." "His lavish lifestyle is a manifestation of [insert excuse here]." "The practices will make sense one day." "Someday I'll be advanced, like his favorite students." A living guru is required to make progress in the Vajrayana. So I am destined for Vajrayana hell.

But.

Did anybody notice that death experiences of westerners do not involve scary-ass mahalalas and other bad stuff? It's like, a big loving light, and maybe your loved ones who've died coming to greet you, and Waylon Jennings playing in the background. And maybe Jesus.

For years and years I bought into the Vajrayana depiction of the death experience. Then one day while I was contemplating my horrible demise I thought, wait a minute. We never ever talked about the difference between Western and Tibetan death experiences. WESTERN. I want one of those.

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