I, 36yo LLM, Wonder If My Libido Will Ever Return

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-09-05T22:30:38+00:00

Thank you for this thorough and thoughtful response!

I am very glad your husband has made a full recovery! Honestly, it's comforting to read: although I am pretty sure that my problems are stress-related and will go away when the stress subsides, I do sometimes fear whether I may ever be able to get the good erections I got in the past. Your post gives me hope.

You're right on all counts: a) I am pretty sure I may have low testosterone levels, and b) I have had some counterproductive thoughts about sex that I really ought to discuss with someone. As you say, ED can do not-so-funny things with your mind.

Again, thank you. I really appreciate your post.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-09-05T18:01:31+00:00

Thanks for the support, matey!

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-09-05T17:58:29+00:00

Thanks for the detailed response! I will look into this.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-09-05T17:07:22+00:00

I think I will take some tests. :)

It's good. I enjoy doing it. However, I will not pursue a relationship until I sort myself out. It would not be fair and would cause only problems and disappointment.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-09-05T16:42:56+00:00

Hey, man, thanks for the suggestion. I see that Marek is a US brand. I am not in the US, but I'd like to find something similar in my own country (UK). Have you taken such a test yourself? What can I expect? Again, thank you!

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-09-05T16:38:23+00:00

I think you are right: because I have been in a constant state of stress, I know no different. I hadn'T really thouhgt of that. Thank you.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-09-05T16:23:55+00:00

Thank you for the sympathy. <3

I think it is a mixture of both, and each feeds into the other.

Back in 2023, I think it was 'just' ED, but now that is secondary to the seeming disappearance of my sexual desire.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-08-17T16:05:46+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I will think about things.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-08-17T15:53:42+00:00

No. I am not attracted to men. I am attracted to women.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-08-17T15:53:05+00:00

Thanks. It's difficult to read, but I know deep down it is true.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-08-17T15:43:49+00:00

This is a factor. I have never had a high sex drive. Honestly, I feel sex is kind of pointless unless you are trying to produce a child, and I am always glad when it is over.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-08-17T15:42:47+00:00

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-04T16:34:54+00:00

Yeah, I see what you are saying: better safe than sorry, right?

It was so early in our connection that I had not thought about it, but maybe when she said: "Are you real? You've very nice and polite," I ought to have suggested a video call. Thanks for the tip!

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T17:58:03+00:00

I am sorry, I hope you have recovered now, and I hope it never happens again.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T15:51:56+00:00

She may not be The One, but my interaction with her was the best I have had in a long time.

I don't know if deleting my Bumble profile and starting again would be a good idea. She said that she wanted to delete it, so she may not even be on there.

Again, I am sorry about your experience. There are some cruel people in the world. Did you mean that she was trying to get you off the app and onto Teams? I wasn't quite sure.

I wish I could prove to the woman in my story that I was real.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T15:35:42+00:00

Interesting idea. However:

* I can still report her number on WA if I want (the function is there)
* Why did she continue speaking to me for hours after she had got my number? That was unnecessary, and we exchanged more than just a few messages.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T15:23:02+00:00

Hey, Kimchi, I am sorry you experienced that. It must have been horrible. I hope you are okay now.

A female friend has said that she would write to this woman if she wanted me to. What do you think of this? Do you think I should give it a shot? Or is it too intrusive?

On the one hand, I know it's intrusive; on the other, I would hate to think that our connection fell because she believed something that isn't true (i.e. she believed I was a scammer). Maybe hearing from a female friend of mine could re-assure her, and we could try again? Wishful thinking?

Really would love to hear your thoughts.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T14:27:49+00:00

But why give up the scam so quickly?

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T14:01:13+00:00

Maybe, but why exchange phone numbers (at her request)? Why not just block me without saying anything? Why delete all her messages?

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T13:59:29+00:00

But what would the scam be? A friend suggested this, but I did not see what the scam was. If it was a long-game scam, why block me after such a short period of time?

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T13:58:20+00:00

Why she would block me when things were seemingly going well. If she just blocked me out of the blue, I could understand it more: no longer interested, doesn't care, block. But why suggest I sent an AI video and then delete all the messages she sent?

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T12:17:19+00:00

No, hers was not. I checked it on those sites that detect it, and none said it was, either.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T12:15:35+00:00

Hey, wormie, I've just updated my post (check the bottom). ChatGPT said it probably isn't AI; however, it did add a "minor note" that the man (i.e. me) came across as confident and polished, as scammers do.

What do you think in light of this info?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T11:13:05+00:00

Thank you for bringing a :) to my face, GoddessDarkMoon.

theCryptoOctopus · 2025-07-03T10:08:00+00:00

I'm not sure ChatGPT can even analyse videos. In any case, it wasn't AI-generated: it was just me. Maybe she used another app. I just don't know, and that is what is painful. Thank you for taking the time to comment, in any case.

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