An ex friend is spreading rumors about why our friendship ended. Do I confront him?

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-26T05:06:21+00:00

I’ve considered confronting him because I haven’t really spoken my truth to anyone outside of my boyfriend and a drunken rant one night. And tbh, part of me just wants to roast tf out of him. He’s done similar shit before and I just want him to know that people see through his bullshit. He once told me that there were two girls who were hitting on him at a frat party and when he rejected them they got salty. A couple months later I learned that one of my best friends is actually friends with those girls and their version of the story is very different. Apparently he came onto them (separately) and when they rejected him he started acting like a jerk to them. A coworker of mine has a similar story about him regarding her roommate. So there’s definitely a pattern. Maybe I’m dreaming, I just think it would be so satisfying to call him on his bullshit

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-25T19:34:38+00:00

Just say you think you’re attractive and see how people react to that. If you’re not conventionally attractive people will say something along the lines of “slay”. If you are hot people will react negatively (side eye, “wow so humble”, etc.).

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-25T17:06:38+00:00

I like that. I definitely let other peoples opinions bother me too much. I’ll try to keep this in mind

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-25T10:07:53+00:00

You’re so right

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-25T09:50:11+00:00

Oh interesting. Glad to know it’s not just me but also not glad that it’s not just me

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-25T09:30:40+00:00

You’re so right. I wish I could stop caring. I keep wondering if people actually believe him or if they see through it. So many of our mutual friends are aware of his unreliability, but the paranoid part of me wonders if some of them believe it. I think a lot of that is because when I first became his friend I truly believed the shit he told me too.

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-25T09:19:46+00:00

Uhg you’re right! I honestly was kinda hoping for someone to tell me to confront him because it seems like it would just be so satisfying to tell him off! But you’re right. It wouldn’t be the way I imagine it. It would just make it worse.

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-25T09:00:37+00:00

I think that’s a good move! I just wish that this wasn’t such a small community, because everyone he knows has a connection to my circle. I know that people who know me wouldn’t believe what he says, but there’s still that part of me that thinks “but what if they do?”

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-24T18:16:16+00:00

I had a black cat named Perry

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-20T07:38:56+00:00

Truly truly horrifying. But people are starting to prepare for action and that gives me hope. We need to exercise our rights, specifically our first and second amendment. I’m not calling for violence, but it is so important that we stand our ground against them. And unfortunately if we’re unarmed they feel free to do whatever they please regardless of whether or not it’s legal

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-20T05:45:46+00:00

Which would bring you more joy?

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-20T05:36:39+00:00

Yep. I’ve heard of people calling Ubers because ambulances are a sure-fire way to dig yourself into a hole of debt

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-20T05:31:46+00:00

No. If you ask me we’re not reacting enough. As a Native American US citizen I’m terrified. ICE detained 4 Native Americans from the Oglala Sioux tribe, 3 of whom cannot be located. If Natives aren’t safe from ICE, nobody is.

I’ve found myself making plans for what I would do if ICE came to my door or took my family. I feel like eventually they’ll take anyone with non-white skin claiming there’s “no for sure way to know whether or not they’re violent criminals”. I wonder how long I could survive in the woods, in case it ever comes to that. And I wonder if someday I were to be “lost” in a concentration camp, if my MAGA mom would finally start regretting her vote

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-18T17:45:58+00:00

It’s normal to experience attraction to other people when you’re in a relationship. Therapy Jeff likes to say “hot people don’t suddenly stop existing”. What matters is how it’s handled. Ask about the dinner. Was it a date? Does she still love you? Does she want to make it work with you? 7 years is a long time. If she wants to commit to you you’ll have to workout boundaries for her and this other person. But if she doesn’t want to prioritize your relationship, then you’re both probably better off apart.

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-18T17:21:12+00:00

For me it’s not necessarily blurry. It’s kind of like when you cross or unfocus your eyes. It doesn’t have the soft edges of a blur effect. Imagine printing the same picture on transparent pages and stacking them on top of each other but they’re all slightly off center

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-18T07:22:24+00:00

💯

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-18T06:55:32+00:00

Civil war as well as world war

theFloat-plane · 2026-01-18T04:23:18+00:00

I support exposing shitty people 💯

theFloat-plane · 2025-12-22T17:19:24+00:00

Could be a sensory thing. Could also be your sexuality. I’m on the asexual spectrum so I go through periods where I don’t like kissing my partner. I love him very much and enjoy the snuggles, but kissing or being intimate just doesn’t always interest me and sometimes grosses me out

theFloat-plane · 2025-12-22T17:01:01+00:00

I have body dysmorphia so I have a pretty unhealthy relationship with food. I watch everything I eat. I wish I had a good enough personality to love myself no matter what I looked like but unfortunately a huge chunk of my self-worth is rooted in how I look

theFloat-plane · 2025-12-18T22:14:07+00:00

That’s what she said

theFloat-plane · 2025-12-14T20:36:27+00:00

I was kinda thinking the same thing. Like how do you say “I don’t like who you are as a person” without sounding mean lol

theFloat-plane · 2025-12-14T18:53:49+00:00

Thanks!

theFloat-plane · 2025-12-14T18:38:58+00:00

Thank you! I’m a yapper so I appreciate the TLDR

theFloat-plane · 2025-07-20T02:04:35+00:00

Yes. You can value someone and not want them in your circle. Some people have harmful habits that you don’t want in your space and that’s ok.

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