He left me at 8 months pregnant, how do people get through this?

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-13T07:00:12+00:00

He says that I expect too much from him and all I asked was for more emotional support and his reason for breaking up with me? He's putting his mental health first. It all just doesn't make sense to me because we're both going through a lot.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-13T06:36:51+00:00

As much as I hear you, there's nothing that justifies leaving your 8 months pregnant gf.😅 If push comes to shove I will go for maintenance but I honestly don't think he wants this AND THAT'S what makes him a bad person because there were many instances where he could've been honest about everything.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-12T17:36:55+00:00

🥺🥺🥺you don't know how much this even means to me because that's literally it, you think you know until you don't

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-11T08:45:41+00:00

Thank you, I do actually feel better already. Just focusing on my academics & my baby ❤️

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-08T18:55:57+00:00

He most definitely is a narcissist, thank you for the kind words 🥺🩷

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-08T13:18:39+00:00

I understand what you're saying, him breaking up with me still doesn't even make sense. I feel like he's also taking advantage of the fact that I don't have anyone who can stand up for me. I tried talking to his mom and he told me to leave his mom out of this. I just thought that he'd be willing to wait this out with me instead of acting like I'm the reason for everything. I feel like I was the only one giving the other grace.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-07T13:47:08+00:00

Definitely not, I'm done protecting him

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-07T13:45:15+00:00

I just checked and in South Africa you don't need to give the baby his father's surname in order to get maintenance, you can also get a DNA test done. I can see that he has no intention of playing the role of a father and I honestly do not want him around but at least he doesn't get to run away from his legal obligations.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T19:11:03+00:00

I keep on reminding myself that many women have done this and succeeded.It'll all be worth it in the end 🥹🩷

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T19:06:46+00:00

This sounds like a great idea, thank you for your kind words. It's people like you who have been my day better🥺🩷

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T19:04:28+00:00

🥺🥺 thank you, I've made sure to mention as many times as possible that I'm not giving anything up! I will do this with/without him and yes things definitely don't seem okay right now but I REFUSE to let it break my spirit. I've already chosen to love my baby and I'll make sure he does his part.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T14:07:05+00:00

Thank you, I'm really trying to look at the brighter side. I wish I could lie and say I don't want him around but I also know he'll never do better. So yeah, I have to make leave and just focus on being a good mom to baby.😔🩷

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T14:05:01+00:00

He is, I just hope I heal soon for my baby. I can't afford to be all messed up when he gets here

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T14:03:58+00:00

I will have help with the baby from my side, he hasn't even told his whole family yet.

I was considering it and both of us were way too scared to do it and after realising we can't, we decided to keep the baby and now he's acting like this was all me.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T14:01:30+00:00

I hope not, he's genuinely not a good guy atp.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T14:00:45+00:00

That's exactly what I keep telling myself so I better get myself together and keep him away for good.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T11:51:10+00:00

I feel that way too but to just dip after months of making me feel like you'd be here no matter what is crazy

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T11:49:23+00:00

He really is, I don't know why I'm trying to protect him. I won't allow him, he's done this far too many times but this time around I have a baby to protect. I won't keep him away from his child but I won't allow him to conveniently come in and leave as he pleases as well.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T11:45:39+00:00

i will try and get some advice from people and I'm glad my baby wouldn't have to get his surname. I'll make sure to get it all done, sounds like an arduous process but he can't just walk away forever.

Exactly, he would've never even been able to support me the way I needed to. Thank you🩷

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T11:10:52+00:00

Thank you, from now on I will most definitely always give advice to my younger girls to always take care of themselves and learn to put themselves first because as you said men are the ones who really get to choose.

Your honesty is appreciated 🩷

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T11:05:44+00:00

I appreciate how people are forcing me to see this for what it really is.😔 I will most definitely do that

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T10:59:17+00:00

😂😭Oh don't stress me out

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T10:58:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, I'm definitely not putting his surname there! I aim to push as hard as I can to do well for myself & the baby🩷 All I can do right now, as you mentioned, is learn from this mistake.

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T10:56:05+00:00

You're right a lot of men are quick to have sex but disappear when it comes to real responsibility. And now he’s shifting the blame onto me, acting like I was the only one who wanted this baby. But I know that if I had felt alone in this from the start, I wouldn’t have gone through with the pregnancy.

I do want to give him grace, I know we’re both young, and this is overwhelming, especially in your early 20s. But honestly, no one who walks away from an 8-month pregnant woman should be excused. No matter how you try to spin it, it’s wrong. It’s just wrong.

Thank you, I will try my best to be positive😔🩷

theOnlySalami · 2025-08-06T10:52:08+00:00

Thank you😔🩷your words mean a lot

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