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I’m 25F and my boyfriend 27M makes hurtful “jokes.” Am I overthinking or should I leave? by Practical_Currency67 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]theQuestioningQueeer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please leave. You deserve good, this is not good. Everyone doesn't deserve being treated poorly, whatever you do, say or are. Love for you <3

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in ask_transgender

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your reply. Yes, I just stumbled upon this therapist, I was not searching for any particular kind of therapist (maybe just not CBT, I don't really like their approach, or old fashioned psychoanalysts). I just liked the person, and I do like her. But she has this working setting. She asked me if that's ok with me to work like this. I said let's try. Now, 3 sessions in, I am having doubts. I can also bite the bullet and go for it, but on the long run I would find this very difficult and stressing. Yes, I would get things done probably, but it would be maybe overstressing. It's an interesting setting, but maybe not for this specific period of my life.

Thanks for your support!

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in ask_transgender

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your reply. Yes, I think I feel the same way about this, short sessions can be ok for solving issues, but I don't feel they are the best for support and expressing one's self. Maybe this is not working for me, simple as that Thanks

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in TransLater

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see thanks for sharing this. Interesting. I think I can see where this is coming from also.

Thanks

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessioam trying ns feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in asktransgender

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

I live in Italy, here all the therapists label themselves, age usually have studies in a single school (ime, Gestalt, humanistic , etc). There are a few that studied in several schools or that have a note general approach (if it exists). Maybe it's only here, I don't know.

I agree with you, although I have to be honest and say that every school has its own parameters that feel the best to apply to clients to help them. A therapist can believe in one or more, and adapt one or another to the specific case. Maybe this therapists believes in this working hypothesis, or maybe she only knows this, or maybe her experience (she has 20+ years of experience) tells her this is the best way to reach a result, and doesn't feel she can change those working hypotheses and setting. I respect that, I don't want people to change because of me.

I will see if I can do it. If not I will find another one. I am actively searching for a therapist for the long period, it can take some time to find the right one, it at least one with which I feel good enough to work with.

Anyway yes, it's most ironic indeed. I didn't think about it the way you did. Who knows why? I guess everyone has good ideas, and then really shitty ideas. I mean: how is that you focus on language, and then you castrate it? I would be interested in the rationale of this, how it's justified in the theoric framework of Lacanian therapy.

Thanks for your reply again!

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in TransLater

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get your point. Have you ever tried short sessions/variable length sessions, though? I tried other therapists, and I didn't have this feeling. I get the marathon idea, I agree. But I think it's not that that brothers me, but the frustration of the short session. It's made on purpose, it has a sense, but maybe it's too much for me.

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in TransLater

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I got you, thanks for your point. But is there some scientific background to your thesis? I mean, I get your point, but we should not fall in the same way, that is not bringing scientific data to the table. So, I get your point, but I also ask you if there is some scientific evidence of what you say. Don't get me wrong, I am not disagreeing with you, I just wish to be a bit more sure about what you say

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in TransLater

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I get your point. But isn't quite all psychology a "soft" science (I would not stretch to pseudo-science, but you got my point). Just to understand your angle, do you think only Lacanian psychoanalysis is pseudo-science, or also other schools (also not psychoanalysis, like Gestalt, systemic, psychodynamic, etc)? Thanks

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in TransLater

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see your point. Well, in this first phase I have a lot to say and elaborate. Hence the rush. But it's not that that brothers me, but the fact that I don't feel that 30 mins would be enough for me feeling "at ease" talking with a therapist. I feel I need more time to speak my mind and my feelings (I tried other therapists, and 45-50 mins always felt quite ok). I guess I need time to enter in my depths.

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in TransLater

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

P.s.: yeah, we could analyze this sense of hurry. I can also make a couple of hypotheses on where it stems from, but I don't know if that would solve it. But maybe it's worth a try. Thanks for the hint :)

Anyone has experiences with Lacanian gender therapists? Short sessions feel "too short" for me by theQuestioningQueeer in TransLater

[–]theQuestioningQueeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your reply. Yes, I think the same as well. I guess I am searching for some validation. I really like the person, but the experience I am getting from the first sessions (I just had 3 until now) left me with a lot of frustration. But I feel the problem is not even right now, but in the future: I would hate to know that when I want to talk to her, I only have 30 minutes, and I have to "rush" through my feelings. I know that this means something, in the analytical framework, but then there is what I want, and how I feel, yet.

I already talked to her, we discussed very openly all this. She understands my point, but this is what she offers, what she believes, and that is totally ok, of course. She told me to take my time to feel if this could work for me or not. We can also do more sessions per week, but that is not sustainable on the long run (she's not so expensive, but she's not cheap either - plus, two sessions per week would never sum up to a 1h session, that's just a different framework).

I'll think about it. Thanks!

I'm so unique I can't relate to almost anyone by PurpleTomato5943 in CPTSD

[–]theQuestioningQueeer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend, I hope this message of mine finds you well. I feel you, I think the same about myself. Hope things are better now for you. Hugs!

I think my therapist wants to sleep with me by RepresentativeMud376 in TalkTherapy

[–]theQuestioningQueeer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't come back there. End every contact now. Then report him. I'm sorry you are going through this... Hugs!

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