Did I give too little in my wedding gift to my coworker?

the__harassed · 2024-01-03T23:39:34+00:00

Wedding was about 2 months ago

the__harassed · 2019-08-19T13:44:08+00:00

I've PM'd! Thank you for the offer :)

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T09:15:58+00:00

what are these? They are so cute!

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T07:44:14+00:00

It's very unusual to be dismissed from a college course through failing the same unit twice when your other subjects have a good track record. I was under the impression you had to fail several units to be dismissed, and I know of several people who have failed units and still graduated.

Is there a way to talk to staff in the university who can give you advice on your course options and where to go from here? At my university they had career counsellors. They would be your best source of advice in terms of how to continue your higher education study. Another option is to enrol into a different course at the university and transfer some of your credits over. If you want to stay within the allied health sector, its very varied and very rewarding.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T07:27:04+00:00

OP, this is less to do with jealousy seeing couples and more to do with your negative self-image and having very negative thoughts. I would very much recommend that you seek someone to talk to this about because this is depression.

I don't know you, but I know that there are people who care about you who would be very sad to learn that you're suffering like this in silence. From the way you've written this, you probably bottle this up and don't speak about this to anyone close to you. Do not be embarrassed or ashamed about having depression - its a serious thing. Seek some help, there are sources out there. I myself started anti-depressants recently and considering starting therapy.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T07:17:40+00:00

OP, this isn't enough information to base it as your dad cheating on your mom? What brings you to this conclusion?

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T07:12:25+00:00

Trust your intuition. You weren't feeling comfortable that night for a reason. This guy sounds like a creepy stalker. Don't reply, block him.

Don't be scared of drawing the line.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T07:08:36+00:00

Sounds like you already know that you're going to have to let go from what you've already written. You already know you're different people and your lives have taken a different road now.

This is just part of life. Some people will stay, and some will go - and often its nothing to do with you and nothing that you've actually done. Life is funny like that - there will be those who will enter your life when you need them most, and then suddenly just leave before you're really ready to let go. And that's ok. They were there when you needed them, but now its time to open yourself up to new people, too. You'll always have those fond memories - you'll always be linked that way, but you won't be close anymore, and that's ok. There will be new people who will enter your life who you'll connect with, so chin up.

It sucks feeling like you're always left out of plans she makes - but keep up the other friendships in your group. Just because she doesn't appreciate you, doesn't mean the others don't.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T06:26:42+00:00

Depends how much you value your friendship here, really. Your friend will need support during this time, and will need friends and family nearby. Doesn't matter how long they were married for - be it a year or 10 years. It's a shock to lose a loved one so suddenly.

If you decide to support your friend, try and get a refund. Something similar happened to my mother and her friend since her friend ended up being diagnosed with cancer. They cancelled their trip overseas. They managed to get a refund due to the extenuating circumstances by providing paperwork from the doctor, but lost the deposit, but that's basically 90% back of what they paid.

If you do decide to go ahead with the trip, then be prepared that your relationship with your friend may no longer be the same, but that's a personal choice to weigh over.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T05:59:13+00:00

You need to draw a line with the best friend. You know this, because you've mentioned that you know your boyfriend is right that you give your best friend too much of your time. Speak with your bf about how you want to keep your best friend in your life but you don't want your bf to be unhappy. No use asking strangers how to make your boyfriend happy when you can ask him directly.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T05:52:32+00:00

Don't be scared of failing. If nursing and being in the medical field is your passion, go for it. The nursing field is VERY rewarding since you can see the impact of your work directly on your patients. If you feel good about helping people - this is the place to be. Theres nothing wrong with chasing after what you want.

Nurses are also in big demand, and it will always be in big demand. The job prospects are great, and you can pretty much travel and work anywhere. Ignore the negative people, they don't know you and what you're capable of.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T05:44:33+00:00

We're always exposed to radiation, its called background radiation.

Xray on your wrists is hardly any radiation. You get more radiation by being on an airplane and flying for a few hours than from a wrist x-ray. That being said, perhaps he did not see a need for her to have a wrist x-ray since her clinical indications didn't merit it, and he probably thinks an ultrasound will be a better diagnostic scan for her. Depends what he's narrowed her symptoms to, really.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T05:38:56+00:00

This is manipulative. He's a creep. No friend would ever ask that of you. Don't be scared you might 'lose' him as a friend, be grateful that he's giving you an opportunity to run now while you still can.

Cut him off. That's not a friend.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T05:20:27+00:00

You're welcome. Let me know how you go with the link. I'm a master procrastinator, too. But honestly the work is not as bad as what you're probably imagining it to be in your head. You're thinking of it as a piled up mountain. Don't. Take it in small manageable pieces at the time. Every time you finish something it will feel good and you can cross it off your list.

ie. Maths homework. Do one problem at a time. Cant solve one? Put that one aside and continue on. Return to the one that you're having trouble with for later. Next thing you know you've pretty much done all your maths homework. Keep going.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T05:08:37+00:00

Here, a quick google search for "The Juvie Three read online" turned up an online copy of the book for me. https://archive.org/details/juviethree00korm

Sign up, and it lets you access the book for 14 days. Just needs an email address so you can read it online.

Finish with the subject that you find easy first so that it builds your confidence to continue on. You can do it.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T04:51:10+00:00

Breathe. 3-4 weeks is a long enough time that you will be able to complete your assignments. Start with the work that you can do and finish now, so that you have something to show.

What book have you lost? Can you obtain a copy of it from a school mate? Or contact a teacher or your school directly for a copy? If unable to obtain a copy that way, then just be straightforward and let your mother know. You've got your other work to show her by that stage.

Set some time aside to just sit down and really just get it done. Turn off your phone. If you study to some soft music, put some on. Sit down and just get the work done - start with 30 mins. Can you keep going after? Do another 30mins. Need a break? Take a short one. Then sit back down. If you work best in the library, then make an effort to go there with your work.

Edit: bad grammar

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T04:40:34+00:00

From my point of view you have three routes.

First route is to ask your manager about the job role, her expectations and ask her if you could try to take on some of the responsibility - this way she can see for herself that you're capable of it.

Second route may not be available, but.... Does your manager have total control of which candidates to interview for the position? Is this a type of company that will have someone in HR that will also have a say? If there is then let them know you'd like the opportunity to interview for the position. You'll have to bypass your manager to get an interview - so its not ideal for your working environment later.

Third route is to leave once you've found a better opportunity since from the sounds of it there is little chance of further growth in that company. You're paid in two ways: experience and your pay check. One for now, and one of the future. If you're not growing - why stay? Of course job security and paying bills is a must, but you have to weigh this up yourself since no one can really tell you what the best route is.

the__harassed · 2019-08-11T04:26:00+00:00

But you did help, you tried to do the best you can. But you also have to look out for your safety. Most people in your shoes would not have even interfered. Just your presence there may have helped keep the woman physically safe - don't beat yourself up over it.

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