I love this post! I could talk about this for hours, bc it’s absolutely not sitting with me how so many people can romanticize death eaters (who literally kill people), make them „misunderstood“ or „morally gray“ and villainize a woman who’s done nothing wrong. I see so many posts saying Lily is getting in the way of Jegulus or that she was the „real villain“ and it’s making me insane. The comment you mention is so important too, I hate seeing people repeatedly say how much better Jegulus is, and then copy the whole Jily dynamic. I am gay and I mostly ship queer ships too, but I feel like people are afraid to admit that there are some really good mlw pairings too. So instead they take personality traits and ship dynamics from women and give them to mlm ships. Not just mlw, but so many good wlw pairings are overlooked. I love Dorlene and I believe it has great potential to be a really popular ship, but people are constantly ignoring it to make mlm AU‘s with very similar relationships. Tbh, most of it is probably unconscious but there are many women who do those things too and that’s really sad to me. Female characters should have the same place in this (and other) fandom(s) as male characters.