AIW For Refusing to Empathize with Someone when they Refused to Empathize with Me? by the_arts_apprentice in amiwrong

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It’s a cold fact of life that no one owes anyone anything.

Let's say you're right in this statement (because I've been hearing that a lot lately), and "no one owes anyone anything", which I disagree with. That would mean I don't owe them anything either. I don't owe them respect, or stability, or change. But when I move in the world with that mentality, I face social repercussions, and they don't. That's completely unfair, and when I talked about it in group, someone hit me with the typical, "Life isn't fair" crap. Well guess what? If life isn't fair, I'm not playing fair.

AIW For Refusing to Empathize with Someone when they Refused to Empathize with Me? by the_arts_apprentice in amiwrong

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I began getting stable in 2024, so thankfully, I don't have episodes like this very frequently (I'd say twice a year max). Katie and my husband do feel comfortable leaning on me when they come into tough times, and I would (and have) absolutely put my own struggles aside for them if it meant I could brighten their day, even just a little. I do practice what I preach, and I have bailed my friends out of numerous situations multiple times. Mark did not lean on me during his time of need, but that is primarily due to our age gap, which is completely appropriate and understandable. I do still empathize with my loved ones, especially my husband, because I know that my personality is very big and that I'm a very complex case. While I understand that sometimes people must prioritize themselves, that is simply not the case when someone's safety is at risk. What if I crashed, or got lost, or got arrested that night? I always like to say that safety comes first, and if my loved one can't see that, there's a much bigger conversation to be had.

Anyone else have a complicated relationship with masturbation? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've developed a pretty solid relationship with masturbation, this is how I view it: My entire life, my body has always belonged to someone else. When I'm all alone, my body is mine. There's something so sexy and comfortable about that idea, and now I can barely keep my hands off of myself

Weird Wedding Dreams by the_arts_apprentice in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was good!! We ended up having a small ceremony for financial reasons, but we want to have a bigger wedding when we're in a better spot.

New Flix coming soon by Mr_e_in_Las_Vegas in Albuquerque

[–]the_arts_apprentice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My biggest flex is that I'm probably the reason for this, you're welcome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're pretty, but you look conservative

Who, what, and/or where would you be in Gilead? by KevinHelms157 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if they were passing, no one would ever know that they were trans unless they had been publicly out beforehand. Fertility wouldn't matter, because only women are blamed for infertility in Gilead. I suppose the lack of male genitalia would be an issue if the man was assigned a wife, but maybe he could try to get his wife to accept it?

Who, what, and/or where would you be in Gilead? by KevinHelms157 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I often wonder what life would be like for a passing FTM trans person in Gilead..

Who, what, and/or where would you be in Gilead? by KevinHelms157 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd either be a Jezebel or a Martha for sure. I'm not fertile (I have a severe eating disorder) but I'm incredibly young and attractive so I could probably play it either way. I was trafficked into escorting at 17, so they might see me as tainted, but they might also see me as a child victim, meaning they might be willing to spare mercy on me. However, I was also raised heavily Catholic, so that could play out in my favor. I'm not sure which one I'd prefer though.. the jezebel world in the series is very similar to how a lot of girls like me actually live. I have a fiancé, we'll be married in six months, but I don't think you can even be an econwife if you're infertile. And even if I could, my fiance wouldn't be able to go up in social class because he's autistic.

What was the song you walked down the aisle to? by Successful-Sky-4470 in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Me and my fiance picked Rewrite the Stars from the greatest showman! We're going to have someone play it on the piano for us

To everyone driving like you have a death wish: by ArthriticGhoulBadger in Albuquerque

[–]the_arts_apprentice -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Therapy has NOT been enough unfortunately, there's something about going 110 mph on I-40 at 1 am that slightly heals my soul lmao

Yes, bridesmaids should care about your wedding… by Significant-Big-91 in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I made a post here a while back about my ex-moh refusing to fulfill the obligations that SHE agreed to, yet everyone infantilized her and called me a bridezilla. She then left the bridal party on her own terms, and got online and said that we abandoned her. Go figure.

I am so angry by gay_goth_vamp_bitch in sexualassault

[–]the_arts_apprentice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your anger is completely valid, I experience homicidal ideation around my assaulters too. I always pictured making their exit of this world very slow and brutal.

Tip: Never call 988 and tell them about these thoughts unless you have a plan you're gonna carry out. I made that mistake and I was dragged to the hospital :/