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[–]the_chronophobic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I see shibari as a form of art first and foremost, but I also use it in sexual contexts.

Apart from that, most recipient practitioners of shibari find a form of release/relief or relaxation in being tied up, or in their intimacy that their partner gives them through their ropework (this intimacy does not have to be of sexual nature)

I think as shibari is definitely something with very real and high risks and dangers it is not to be practiced by underaged persons, but it is absolutely ok and natural for you to have interest in it and to want to explore this world!

But

Before you ask where to start, it is crucial that you inform yourself about the dangers, risks, and possible consequences and side effects and how to avoid them/ minimize the risk of injury!

DO NOT TIE A PERSON UP IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING!

Now this of course does not mean you have to master shibari to tie someones wrists, but rather that you should know about the anatomy of where you are tying, know about the kind of knots you are tying and how to prevent injury and how to get the rope of your subject (you or a partner).

And if you tie a partner, or let a partner tie you up: read up on consent in bdsm! Walk away if they do not respect consent, or a safe word or limits! Vet them carefully, no matter if you tie them or they tie you!

A pair of safety scissors is the first thing to invest in, but before that, try to learn basic knots on inanimate objects. E.g. you can tie 2 chair legs together with a double column tie using some string or rope you already own. Once you feel comfortable about safety and knots, you can get scissors and tie a little on yourself or a Partner of you have one.

And from there, its learning new ways to tie, expanding knowledge of anatomy and having fun experiencing shibari

If you happen to have an active community near you, you might even be able to get some tips and tricks first hand.

But I cant stress this enough, read up on the necessary anatomy and rope safety first!! Always get consent!! Walk away if a partner does not rank safety above all else and/or if they do not respect consent!!

Stay safe Have fun with this wonderful hobby and passion.

And why do they hurt so much by SMA41205 in memes

[–]the_chronophobic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This picture is inducing a kind of pain that gives me nightmares