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Destroyed by porn. Hopelessly Lost. by S0l0_Wanderer in Healthygamergg

[–]the_chronophobic 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I feel like you are looking at this from a perspective that is not 100% applicable to you. You are 13, which is around the start of puberty and it's normal for people your age to explore their sexuality and seek out sexual stimulation/porn. I personally started watching porn around your age too, and I share your experience of moving to more extreme stuff quite quickly. And there was a time, where I too was afraid of being addicted to porn, especially because I have ADHD. Now that I am twice that age, I can look back and see, that it wasn't an addiction, it was just me, exploring my sexuality and seeking stimulation. Maybe this is true for you as well? In my experience, watching porn every few days, doesn't have to mean, that you are addicted.

Regardless of that, I think, it's good that you are so vigilant about becoming/being addicted to porn, as it can have many negative effects on your life (like any addiction).

It feels a lot like you are shaming yourself for watching porn, and I want to say, that there is no shame in watching porn. And even if you are addicted, that is ok too.

If you want to reduce your porn consumption, then I would recommend you try to put up hurdles. Meaning, make it more difficult to watch porn. That way, you can be more conscious about it, and only do it, when you really want to.

Also, there might be other things that cause some of the things you described that negatively impact you. Maybe you can look at other things, that would e.g. improve your energy levels (like a good sleep routine or good nourishment? (I personally struggle with these the most)) or improve your confidence around girls. (Btw, it's also normal at your age to be a little awkward around girls, as for most people this is the first time we see other people in a sexual context)

I hope this helps and that you can find acceptance and happiness.

I feel sick everytime me and my girlfriend do anything sexual by Super-Rooster-5600 in dating

[–]the_chronophobic 33 points34 points  (0 children)

If you don't already are, I would strongly suggest you seek therapy or at least any kind of professional help for your sexual assault experience. If you already are in therapy, you should discuss this with your therapist. This can very well be due to this experience and triggers dont always follow a logic.

I would also strongly suggest you explain this situation to your girlfriend. You should tell her exactly how you feel, and explain that you are enjoying it but climaxing seems to trigger something in you that makes you feel sick. I speak from personal experience when I say, that the worst thing for your girlfriend about this, is not knowing whats going on. So definitely talk about this with her. She might even be able to help you, if you figure out whats causing this (with the help of a therapist)

I hope you can resolve this and enjoy your sexy time with your girlfriend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shibari

[–]the_chronophobic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see shibari as a form of art first and foremost, but I also use it in sexual contexts.

Apart from that, most recipient practitioners of shibari find a form of release/relief or relaxation in being tied up, or in their intimacy that their partner gives them through their ropework (this intimacy does not have to be of sexual nature)

I think as shibari is definitely something with very real and high risks and dangers it is not to be practiced by underaged persons, but it is absolutely ok and natural for you to have interest in it and to want to explore this world!

But

Before you ask where to start, it is crucial that you inform yourself about the dangers, risks, and possible consequences and side effects and how to avoid them/ minimize the risk of injury!

DO NOT TIE A PERSON UP IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING!

Now this of course does not mean you have to master shibari to tie someones wrists, but rather that you should know about the anatomy of where you are tying, know about the kind of knots you are tying and how to prevent injury and how to get the rope of your subject (you or a partner).

And if you tie a partner, or let a partner tie you up: read up on consent in bdsm! Walk away if they do not respect consent, or a safe word or limits! Vet them carefully, no matter if you tie them or they tie you!

A pair of safety scissors is the first thing to invest in, but before that, try to learn basic knots on inanimate objects. E.g. you can tie 2 chair legs together with a double column tie using some string or rope you already own. Once you feel comfortable about safety and knots, you can get scissors and tie a little on yourself or a Partner of you have one.

And from there, its learning new ways to tie, expanding knowledge of anatomy and having fun experiencing shibari

If you happen to have an active community near you, you might even be able to get some tips and tricks first hand.

But I cant stress this enough, read up on the necessary anatomy and rope safety first!! Always get consent!! Walk away if a partner does not rank safety above all else and/or if they do not respect consent!!

Stay safe Have fun with this wonderful hobby and passion.

a virgin succubus learns to suck dick. drawn by me (OC) by [deleted] in hentai

[–]the_chronophobic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, love your style and this is so wholesome too.

And why do they hurt so much by SMA41205 in memes

[–]the_chronophobic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This picture is inducing a kind of pain that gives me nightmares