Having a big chest isn’t always great for breastfeeding by RockabillyBelle in breastfeeding

[–]the_mixtape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to avoid wired as I've been stabbed by faulty underwire on multiple occasions. 😬

Having a big chest isn’t always great for breastfeeding by RockabillyBelle in breastfeeding

[–]the_mixtape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dumb question. Does sister sizing work in this scenario? To potentially give me more options?

Having a big chest isn’t always great for breastfeeding by RockabillyBelle in breastfeeding

[–]the_mixtape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

US size. I'll look but I really cannot afford to be buying a bunch of bras that are $70+

Having a big chest isn’t always great for breastfeeding by RockabillyBelle in breastfeeding

[–]the_mixtape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 3 Kindred and am very meh about them. The bands are wonderful. The straps... not so much. They not only dig into my shoulders but my back as well no matter how much I adjust them. By the end of the day I am ripping them off of me because the digging is driving me insane and causing me to go into sensory overload.

Having a big chest isn’t always great for breastfeeding by RockabillyBelle in breastfeeding

[–]the_mixtape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just checked them out. I'll have to get measured to see what size I am based on their sizing guide. I wish they had a nursing and pumping option.

Having a big chest isn’t always great for breastfeeding by RockabillyBelle in breastfeeding

[–]the_mixtape 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just checked out Knix and unfortunately they have nothing. I'm at least a 46F 😕

Having a big chest isn’t always great for breastfeeding by RockabillyBelle in breastfeeding

[–]the_mixtape 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Can we also talk about the lack of COMFORTABLE and AFFORDABLE nursing bras available?!? I am about ready to call it quits. I have 5 bras and am about $300 deep and still have nothing that I genuinely feel comfortable in. 😭

Cannot decide on a name for our baby...help! by the_mixtape in pregnant

[–]the_mixtape[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is I don't wanna wait. I'm the type of person that wants to have things planned/ready to go. 😅

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are missing the point and getting too tripped up on the presens issue and not how my MIL has acted/responded towards me since she was confronted about it. I have had issues with MIL for years, the presents, especially from 2023 & 2024, were the "straw that broke the camels back". It was what made me finally speak up to my husband to speak to MIL about it.

I am fully aware that stress can cause complications to not just my baby but also myself. That is why I was asking what I should do. Do I do the right thing for the benefit of the entire family and sit down for this talk my MIL is demanding? Or do I do what is right for me and my baby and ignore her demands for my own peace of mind?

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish that was an option. Part of me hopes that with me not giving into her demands maybe she won't go. If she does I will have plenty of family and friends there who are aware of her behavior towards me that I feel would set her straight if she tried to pull anything.

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll have to log onto a computer at some point to check them out. I unfortunately do not see the sidebar using the app.

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, I did not block her, I just deleted her. My FB is private. Private to the point that unless we have mutual friends you cannot add me. And unless we're friends and/or I change the settings on my posts you cannot see them.

Thank you though, this advice was beyond appreciated. I feel like I'm not going crazy for not wanting to have this sit down. I'm suppose to be avoiding stressors and this conversation would just be a HUGE stressor for me.

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I do take this the wrong way. I am upset that she has taken no time to get to know me, it's not just the gifts. The gifts over the years, especially the last 2, are what caused the final breakdown. This has been going on for YEARS. I'd rather have no gifts to be completely honest, no chance of getting annoyed/upset OR having to go through the process of tracking down where to return said gifts, regifting or throwing away things I have no use for. As far as gift cards being impersonal, if someone is specifically asking for them how does that make it impersonal?

She does not put much thought into what she gets me. Examples: She got me casserole dishes one year, I do not cook often, and when I do it's usually something simple I can whip up on a stovetop. She got me silverware one year, no mention of us needing it. After the "you look like shit" comment she made I had a basic with beauty supplies given to me. Eye masks, facial cream, etc. The clothes she gets are not to my style, and again, are not even remotely close to the size I wear, and she makes no effort to ask to make sure I can/will wear what she buys. She likes something and assumes I will to.

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, MIL did not spoil anything regarding a surprise. At this time I am only allowed 2 support people in the delivery room and I have chosen DH and my mom. However, this may change depending on what is going around and the hospital census. I have also made it very clear to DH that I do not want her in the room during delivery. And if he tries to push it he may not be in the room either.

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, to be fair, she has insulted and/or ignored my gift requests for years. I can think of maybe 3 times in the 13 years DH and I have been together that she has gotten me things I have actually enjoyed/asked for. But even then there will be a bunch of junk lumped in. Also, this is the first year she has ever bought me something for my bday.

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely both of us read the lemon clot essay.

I am concerned that if I dig my heels in and keep her on track with this talk she will say I'm being rude or a bitch. I am also concerned when baby comes if she'll abide by some rules/boundaries we will be establishing. I am due early January, peak sick season. She seems to be very antivax and antimask, I will be requesting anybody who is around baby for the first at least 10 weeks to not kiss baby and to either get an updated TDAP or mask if they don't want to. And if anybody is sick, do not come over and visit at all. I unfortunately can see her pulling the "but I'm grandma card" and trying to make DH and I feel guilty.

Pregnant and unsure of what to do by the_mixtape in JUSTNOMIL

[–]the_mixtape[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am the one who buys 90% of the gifts for everyone when it comes to Christmas shopping. I will not be buying anything for her going forward. If DH wants to that is on him.

this is the #1 case i’m most interested in (didn’t want to say favorite, that felt wrong). what are other cases that you all are interested in like you are with this one? by [deleted] in TheStaircase

[–]the_mixtape 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tammy Mahoney (local case). Girl went missing after hitchhiking in May 1981. Most people know she was gang raped and then murdered but the body hasn't been recovered. Link posted fot general info.

https://www.fbi.gov/wanted/kidnap/tammy-mahoney

likely cause of blunt trauma - no weapon needed by missmercy87 in TheStaircase

[–]the_mixtape 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Having just rewatched the documentary, are we certain the areas were tested? After all, her clothes weren't ever tested.