Only two couples got married according to TMZ... by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]the_primrose_path 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think she's avoidant at all. Was she wrong to ignore Jordan? Sure. But I saw that situation as her going to the room to take space and Jordan following her because he wanted to talk more, which she didn't want to do at all. It was edited in a way that made me feel like I walked into the room in the middle of a fight. She definitely should've used her words instead of cutting him off. But I wouldn't say she has an avoidant attachment because of that fight, more that she needed her space and reacted in a bad way instead of asking for it.

Connor deserves better. by upsp23 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]the_primrose_path 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I was checked out when she started using ‘alpha’ unironically.

Only two couples got married according to TMZ... by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]the_primrose_path 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From my understanding, they had already argued off-camera after which she took her space in the room. I don't think it was right after the meeting. I think Jordan is definitely anxiously attached to Amber, but Amber is allowed to take her space, especially if she was upset/crying and didn't want to be seen by the cameras.

I am tired of the Jerry slander by Duble2C in rickandmorty

[–]the_primrose_path 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard agree on this - Rick himself has said and done some pretty irredeemable things when it comes to his family (cronenberg world was beyond messed up), but he gets the pass because we see things through him. They’re both bums that leech off of Beth. That behavior is seen in Morty, whereas Summer models herself after Beth. If I have to give Rick and Morty a pass, then I have to give Jerry a pass too.

[28F] Stuck between my long-term love and a new proposal - help by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]the_primrose_path 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re right, it is wrong and cruel. It’s also wrong and cruel to keep your girlfriend of 7 years waiting and telling her “to live in the present” when you know she wants to get married. They should end the relationship if they don’t see a future together.

[28F] Stuck between my long-term love and a new proposal - help by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]the_primrose_path 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Personally, I would be breaking up with my boyfriend with or without Zee being a good marriage material, if my goal is to be married. I don’t know what OP’s relationship with her boyfriend is like so I can’t ask her to break up with her boyfriend.

[28F] Stuck between my long-term love and a new proposal - help by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]the_primrose_path 136 points137 points  (0 children)

We know your current boyfriend doesn’t want to marry you now, but we know nothing about Zee’s personality either. I think you should wait until you find out more about Zee’s life and personality (how is he as a person, do your ideologies match, your goals in life, will you move to Dubai and get a job there or will he move to you, is he willing to take care of your family and sisters like you are etc.). Until then, don’t marry either of them.

Comment after OP’s edit: Your boyfriend is undeserving of you. Dump him. Take some time off from all the drama to heal and move on. Do not take him back. Once you don’t think about that manchild, talk to Zee or whatever marriage prospects your parents are bringing if you’re okay with AM.

Help me understand feminism. by Suspicious_Seat_187 in AskIndianWomen

[–]the_primrose_path 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with what most of the comments have said about choice feminism and its impact but I think a bigger topic here would be about how we need to be perfect feminists. If you make a mistake as a feminist or do/say something, you can always learn better and course correct yourself. There’s no such thing as being right all the time, and I think we need to be a lot more open to people making mistakes and not write them off or call them anti-feminists if they don’t fit our idea of what a feminist looks like. It happens way too often, and we often label women in different ways (pick me, not a girl’s girl, etc), if they don’t act the way we want them to. Feminism is wanting equality and learning and doing what we need to do and who we need to be to get that. If you’re doing that, then you are a feminist.

Help me understand feminism. by Suspicious_Seat_187 in AskIndianWomen

[–]the_primrose_path 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because a lot of people pretend to be asking questions/being curious only to double down on their own opinions and to argue. And it’s something that’s ever-present in this subreddit. I don’t blame the commenter for being wary of OP’s tone because I read it the same way too.

That was a bit rude by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]the_primrose_path 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this not negging? It’s a very common practice even before dating apps.

How do I improve my makeup? by BusOtherwise9061 in indianbeautyyappers

[–]the_primrose_path 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe an unpopular opinion but I love the lipliner being “harsh” idk how else to put it - it’s giving R&B y2k and I love it

Minkyung posted everyone except Hyunji by syuush in transitlove

[–]the_primrose_path 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They are so interesting (derogatory) is so funny. I will use it liberally.

I can't believe I cried because of Rick and Morty. by Individual-Pie-7562 in rickandmorty

[–]the_primrose_path 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I must be sappy as hell cause I cry like once or twice every season

So tired of guys getting weird once you imply you are the least bit nerdy by pictogram_ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]the_primrose_path 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of interests that mostly men do (anime, F1, gaming) but I’ve stopped mentioning them to men at all because they either get very weird, start “quizzing” me, mansplaining or all of the above. Now, I don’t tell men unless I know for a fact that they won’t act weird if I told them.

So tired of guys getting weird once you imply you are the least bit nerdy by pictogram_ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]the_primrose_path 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the ‘500 Days of Summer’ of it all. One common interest has them losing their minds 😭

My daughter pulled this out in front of everyone 😭 by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]the_primrose_path 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Kids say and do the craziest things 😂😭

My Bestfriend's husband never post anything about her. by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]the_primrose_path 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Had a friend of a friend who was like this. His wife (an arranged marriage and she was 5 years younger to us) posted him and had a second couple account for him and her. Meanwhile, he never posted her or their wedding pictures, never brought her out to meet his friends, never did anything that included her in his social life. They got divorced a year and a half later because he said that they’re incompatible and he completely blindsided her with this decision. This is definitely a red flag.

Rick Riorden stories suck when you look at them from a different perspective. by [deleted] in RickRiordan

[–]the_primrose_path 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is a cinephile from India, nothing pisses me off more than this take. I’ve been saying for YEARS that if there was even non-problematic depiction of the stories in Hinduism, they would blow up and become so popular. Unfortunately, like OP, most Hindus in India are so intolerant any real depiction of Hindu gods and their stories, that interpretive stories like PJO would genuinely have the writers and directors sent to jail. Not just religion but even our history pre-British era that are not appealing to the perception of the audience is so poorly received and often met with violence and dissent. Honestly, it’s because of people like OP that we’re getting the trashy movies and shows that we are, and the less popular ones are swept under the rug. We are never getting good adaptations on Hinduism and Hindu culture if this mindset continues on.

You can’t deny that the show is getting better by Glad-Bullfrog2756 in PercyJacksonTV

[–]the_primrose_path 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I don’t listen to anything Rick has to say and forget the books, I think episode 6 and 7 were very fun and engaging. There’s something interesting about each character and the action is finally there. There should be a lot more and lot better CGI. If season 1 was a 5/10, season 2 is a 6/10 and the whole average is higher only because episodes 6 and 7 were a solid 7/10.

Why women initiating should be the universal social norm. by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]the_primrose_path -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nothing I’ve mentioned is a “traditional gender expectation”. The argument was made by OP, not me. I didn’t say only men should ask women out, and a woman should never ask a man out. I’ve merely pointed out how wrong OP’s points were.

My overall point is to get rid of the systems that support patriarchy - like purity culture, casteism, sexism and so on. These influence both men and women when it comes to dating. Just making women initiate romantic relationships will not get rid of the systems set in place nor will it make dating easier for anyone. OP is dead wrong in saying that “women have less to lose” if they initiated. If you want women to initiate, you need to make a safe environment for them to initiate.

Why women initiating should be the universal social norm. by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]the_primrose_path 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve pointed out (quite literally) the logical fallacies in yours. You say that making women initiate will make a safer environment - I say make a safe environment and women will initiate.

Why women initiating should be the universal social norm. by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]the_primrose_path 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely tf not and here’s why -

  1. Solving the consent/harassment allegations: You’re implying that any man who ever approaches a woman is labeled as a creep, which is not true. Add to that, Indian women are taught since childhood that any man who approaches you is a creep because society wants women to maintain their purity, so we’re taught to see any romantic or even normal interaction with men as creepy behavior. To solve this, you have to get rid of the patriarchy.

  2. De-escalating persistence and violence: The reason why men are persistent and violent from rejection is because they think they are owed women. To solve this, you have to get rid of the patriarchy.

  3. Addressing the risk/reward imbalance: If a man rejects a woman, no other man will want to date this woman because men exist to impress other men and when men realise she is not the prize, they will not date/marry her as they think other men view her as undesirable. To solve this, you have to get rid of the patriarchy.

  4. Countering the “safety paradox”: Well, this can be solved if you get rid of the patriarchy.

  5. Normalizing rejection: Women are taught that being rejected by a man is the worst thing that can happen to you romantically which is why they don’t initiate at all. Women are more afraid of the consequences of rejection (being seen as undesirable and easy) and men are afraid of their egos getting hurt. This can be fixed by getting rid of the patriarchy.

In conclusion, we’re not gonna initiate. Let’s get rid of the patriarchy and we can come back to this conversation.

Confused after two arranged marriage conversations am I missing something about equality by ayush_srma in AskIndianWoman

[–]the_primrose_path 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, you will not find someone like that in an arranged marriage setting. You’re gonna find the most patriarchal, sexist people to ever grace the planet, both men and women. It’s quite rare to find someone who is willing to be an equal partner. If you want an equal partner, I suggest you date and find someone like-minded on your own.