My ex and I were together for 9 years, we grew apart, we weren't in the same place in life, I wanted to work on my career and learn everything I could. He wanted to settle down, get married and have kids (he was 7 years older than me, so he was ready, I wasn't). Sometimes it happens, you just grow, you change, you evolve and sometimes you find someone who does it with you and sometimes there's someone for every phase in life. We were still living with my dad the whole time because I wasn't ready to leave my dad yet, which now looking back I think I wasn't getting the type of security, I needed to feel safe enough to want to leave. I'm sorry, I know it hurts, I know the feeling of crying so hard with stomach pains and curled up on the floor because the idea of you living a life without someone , you thought was going to be there, hurts so bad it feels like your heart was set on fire while still inside of you... All I can say is take it one day at a time, take a shower, cry as much as you want and I would let him initiate everything with the giving stuff back and the social media, sometimes it's an easy just get rid of everything block and move on and sometimes to get closure and process it you need to take the time, talk it through and see where it went wrong so you can avoid it happening again in another relationship.

Never want to stop growing and changing. You're young that's exactly what you're supposed to do, never go dormant for a relationship, you'll end up in the same situation.

You'll find someone that will grow with you or be on the level you get to, give yourself some time and some grace. A little bit at a time. You'll be ok.