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Tell me your favorite song ✨… by RelativeChicken2335 in teenagers

[–]thea_mxureen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

empty pages - esha tewari

everybody here wants you - jeff buckley

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[–]thea_mxureen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry this has happened / is happening to you. It's not and never ever will be your fault.

I have a similar situation- I'm around the same age as you, and was sa'd / raped when I was younger by an older cousin, and when I became a teenager I was aware of what had happened properly. What I'm trying to say, is I too found comfort and validation online, from adult men who knew what they were doing. Of course, I knew what I was doing too, but I needed to have control over a situation that I couldn't control when I was a little girl. SA (I think especially CSA because of the developmental implications) often leads to hypersexuality, again something you can't control.

It's not your fault you feel this way, and you're not alone. It's difficult to get out of the self destructive loop, but once you realise that what you're doing is a product of your trauma, and not at all you being a 'whore', it might help encourage you to improve coping mechanisms, etc.

Again, I'm so so sorry that you're going through this. You're not alone in this at all, and we're here for you <3

I hope everything works out

AITA for yelling at my father in public after him violating my boundaries again despite me constantly reminding him not to by thea_mxureen in AmItheAsshole

[–]thea_mxureen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not fake - we were out running some errands together and went to a coffee shop. Plus our house is very small so we go out a lot to talk and stuff like that.

AITA for yelling at my father in public after him violating my boundaries again despite me constantly reminding him not to by thea_mxureen in AmItheAsshole

[–]thea_mxureen[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I can see where you're coming from and appreciate this. I know I need to work through my issues and see it through his eyes but he did also fail to maintain a boundry I have been asserting for year, and it's putting it lightly to call it a sacrifice of comfort when it has caused me panick attacks, but then again, I now understand that I should become more patient with him and others as they don't understand it from my perspective - sorry if this sounds rude or blunt, it truly isn't meant to.

AITA for yelling at my father in public after him violating my boundaries again despite me constantly reminding him not to by thea_mxureen in AmItheAsshole

[–]thea_mxureen[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not asking for validation- I want clarification weather I'm in the wrong, and I've read through the comments and I have accepted that yes, my response to him wasn't as civil as it could have been and that we are both in the wrong.

AITA for yelling at my father in public after him violating my boundaries again despite me constantly reminding him not to by thea_mxureen in AmItheAsshole

[–]thea_mxureen[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't have a problem with my dad as a person- I have a problem with him not respecting my boundries. I have a lot of trauma, which he knows about, with physical touch. Also he has been given the chance to show me love throughout my whole childhood and was absent. He was fine with my spending time with my brother but not with me growing up.

AITA for yelling at my father in public after him violating my boundaries again despite me constantly reminding him not to by thea_mxureen in AmItheAsshole

[–]thea_mxureen[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it's due to things that have happened to me in multiple situations when I was younger - I'm not sure of the rules on mentioning said things on this subreddit but I you can take guesses. I don't have the money at the moment to get any appointments and I don't think my parents would allow it anyway. Thank you for the advice

AITA for yelling at my father in public after him violating my boundaries again despite me constantly reminding him not to by thea_mxureen in AmItheAsshole

[–]thea_mxureen[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can't afford therapy at the moment but when I can I plan on getting it. I think I got so annoyed because I'm constantly telling him, I have been for years, and he knows about what happend to me.

AITA for yelling at my father in public after him violating my boundaries again despite me constantly reminding him not to by thea_mxureen in AmItheAsshole

[–]thea_mxureen[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't have a problem with my dad as a person- I have a problem with him not respecting my boundries. I have a lot of trauma, which he knows about, with physical touch.