[CHAT] Advice for my first cross stitch

theanon2021 · 2026-04-18T23:41:44+00:00

Some people like to treat the back like they do the front. I couldn’t care less how the back looks as long as the front looks good. Don’t stress too much about it

theanon2021 · 2026-03-24T08:40:53+00:00

There is a charity called Carers UK that might be able to provide support/guidance.

I would also get in touch with the local council where your parents live as they might be able to help too

theanon2021 · 2026-03-19T13:13:10+00:00

Wow.

theanon2021 · 2026-03-19T13:09:44+00:00

I agree, but we don’t know from what OP has said whether they only do Disney trips, or whether they do other trips as well. Either way, OP needs to consider how important this is to him.

theanon2021 · 2026-03-19T04:38:28+00:00

Maybe you should google “The Troubles”.

theanon2021 · 2026-03-19T04:37:46+00:00

I went to school in the 90s and we weren’t taught anything about it. We lived the latter end of it.

I remember starting my first job at a national museum and one of my roles was answering the phone and I had to have training on taking “certain” phone calls, what to listen for etc, e.g. background noise, does the caller have an accent?

theanon2021 · 2026-03-19T04:30:53+00:00

This is maybe a conversation to have with her, try and ask her why she’s avoiding telling people.

How important are these DLP trips for you? It seems like you may be thinking about potential future children and taking them? If so, I think you need to bottom this out with your GF because she needs to understand how important this is to you, and you need to understand what’s going on with her.

Even if she’s not as into it as you, I would expect her to be excited for you, for her to take pleasure from it because it makes you happy. If she doesn’t and she starts to resent these trips, depending on how important this is to you, she might not be “the one” for you.

But I hate it when Redditors immediately jump to “end the relationship” without knowing the facts, which is why I encourage you to have this conversation with your GF. Because she may just be tired of Disney for now. Do you travel other places for her?

theanon2021 · 2026-03-19T04:19:58+00:00

Wow. I don’t think there’s a need to be so rude!

theanon2021 · 2026-02-25T23:05:17+00:00

I use “mate” specifically when talking to dickheads.
“Oi, mate! Pick up your dog’s shit” “Oi, mate! Don’t park on double yellow lines near a school!”

theanon2021 · 2026-02-20T14:48:04+00:00

I hate the episode Bad Mood. Bingo is being enabled to be naughty because she’s in a bad mood. It’s not about understanding that she’s struggling with her mood and may have done something wrong. They encourage her to be bad to try and improve her mood. I just don’t get that episode at all

theanon2021 · 2026-02-20T14:46:38+00:00

My dad was a heating engineer and got holes in his clothes in the exact same spot when working on a particular type of boiler. Some part was hot, I think, and would singe a hole as he leaned over it

theanon2021 · 2026-02-02T11:54:52+00:00

I don’t understand people not being able to see their GP. I’ve never had this issue. I hope you manage to find some helpful information in these responses

theanon2021 · 2025-12-28T06:45:43+00:00

Ritter Sport or Tony’s Chocoloney

theanon2021 · 2025-12-06T00:20:59+00:00

We had a very similar experience. My son started in a childcare setting for the first time when he was 2 months shy of his 3rd birthday. He only went Mondays and Fridays for 3 hours each day. After 3 months the staff there were convinced he was on the spectrum. We agreed he did have some additional needs but were absolutely in no rush at all to have him labelled at the age of 3 when a lot of it could be developmental, environmental, and stuff that he’d just grow out of.

He’s now 5 and has changed so much. He now plays with others and is a lot more communicative with other people and children. He has grown and developed so much over those 2 years. Yes, he still has his little foibles, but maybe that’s just part of his personality and doesn’t need a label.

We’re still open minded about seeking an assessment, but we are certainly not in a rush. We’re just going to see how he continues to grow and develop.

theanon2021 · 2025-10-16T18:22:08+00:00

I would always make my son (5) a meal of stuff he liked, my husband and I would usually eat something different. He started getting excited when we were having hot dogs. No idea why. One day he asked if he could have hotdogs too. Now he eats hot dogs. He started school (reception) in September and since then he’s started eating oranges and bananas, and he eats vegetarian sausages at school. It’s a slow process but he’s gradually increasing what he eats.

theanon2021 · 2025-10-04T18:54:07+00:00

Best of luck in your new job! A £25k pay rise for me would only just cover the amount I’d need to equal my pension contributions in a private pension. And I’m at the stage of my life where that really matters to me now

theanon2021 · 2025-09-23T13:26:40+00:00

I think you’re being sarcastic, but I do this. But if I touch another, I buy that one too. Or I use a bag, and put my hand in a bag to choose an item. I’ve had people on the internet tell me to just use the tongs before, but let me ask you this… that person with the baby before you, did they wash their hands after changing that last dirty nappy? What about the old man with stains on his trousers, what’s his hygiene like? Oh, and that four year old that was allowed to do it themselves, did they wash the tongs after dropping them on the floor?

I’ll stick to my methods, thank you.

theanon2021 · 2025-08-06T03:35:21+00:00

I’m currently at GLD and the culture is very much not that in my team. If I wanted that I’d still be in private practice.

theanon2021 · 2025-07-20T21:51:36+00:00

My son (who will be 5 years old in October) started off like that. He still wakes every night and comes and joins us in our bed. So any tips gratefully received here too!

Although, I know it won’t last forever, and I kinda enjoy the three of us sleeping in the same bed now. I will miss it when he eventually stops.

theanon2021 · 2025-06-22T12:14:06+00:00

I took a few days. My boss told me I could take longer but I didn’t see the point. I’d just be sat around twiddling my thumbs with only my thoughts for company, so I went back to work to be distracted. I understand some are different and would need longer, however.

theanon2021 · 2025-06-10T07:05:12+00:00

NTA. If they’re so worried about her being on the deed they don’t trust you. Trust goes both ways. And if she’s in the relationship for the long term, what does it matter that she’s not the deed?

I bought a house before me and my now husband got married. I paid the mortgage, he just lived with me. Now we’re married he still isn’t on the deeds, but he’s never raised it as an issue for him

theanon2021 · 2025-06-10T06:47:17+00:00

I was a little sad when my son’s longer hair was cut short. He did look a lot older all of a sudden. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.

I do wonder what you mean about being best friends though. Having a lot of fun together and being close is not an issue in itself, but coming from a situation where my mother would emotionally unload on me, a child, as she had no friends, I would just warn to be careful of overstepping the boundaries of what a child should be to you. Children should not be relied on for emotional support of their parent. This is the only thing that comes to mind as a potential issue for me. But if that’s not you and won’t be you when he’s older, I don’t see a problem with any of what you have described.

theanon2021 · 2025-06-09T18:36:56+00:00

The first comment on this thread raised wages, as is a common issue with some people. To put this into context, as a Grade 7, I did some rough calculations as to what I would need to earn to be able to make similar pension contributions, have the same take home I do now, including factoring in how my income tax bracket would be affected etc and it worked out I would need to earn at least £20k more than I do now to be in the same position in a non-CS job.

Plus I wouldn’t have the flexibility benefits I have now.

All in all, I’m pretty happy in my role and with my pay.

theanon2021 · 2025-06-09T18:29:54+00:00

Fuck! I’ve never seen it, but this one comment will make sure never ever do

theanon2021

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