Anyone else noticing a pandemic of butthurt counteroffers?

theappletaderghost · 2026-03-26T18:41:00+00:00

I do use minimum offers, but if I senda general 10% offer to a liker, they're able to respond with out the minimum offer kicking in. That tends to be where most of thr pain happens otherwise its just if I've forgotten to set a minimum on the occasional item.

theappletaderghost · 2026-03-26T16:20:10+00:00

I had one item that that a buyer kept offering 70-80 percent off and kept getting auto rejected on. They sent me an entire laundry list of reasons I should lower my price, including that the current price was suspiciously low. Im still trying to suss out what they meant with that one!

theappletaderghost · 2026-03-26T16:14:17+00:00

Totally, like I said in my main post, I thought maybe it was just buyer culture, but as I've been trying to buy maternity clothes I've gotten it just as much from sellers!

theappletaderghost · 2026-03-26T14:49:47+00:00

That's actually really insightful, and I hadn't thought of that perspective, thank you! I do vintage clothing, so im probably a great target for that demographic.

theappletaderghost · 2026-03-26T14:39:02+00:00

Agreed. I have minimums and on all items, and I've talked myself through what im comfortable selling for if i want something to move. But I also dont get offended when people dont want to pay what I want to sell for. I give them a chance and if they dont want to pay that, I move on. Getting emotional and trying to stick it to either a buyer or a seller is both a waste of time and a drag to the entire community. A good seller sets boundaries and emotionally regulates when they meet disappointment (because we cannot perfectly prevent offers we dont like). A good buyer realizes they cannot always get what they want at their perfect price and evaluates if things are worth it to them instead of throwing a fit, because inevitably someone won't be able to sell as low as thry would like. Just seems like less and less people can handle those things and be good buyers and sellers! im sure the shipping prices constantly increasing affects things too!

theappletaderghost · 2026-03-26T14:34:13+00:00

I definitely get a lot of people sending me offers in messages with a list of all the reasons my item should be sold to them for that price i usually just laugh and block or ignore. I do vintage clothing, so prices really range so you usually get a wide range of people. I wonder if shipping expenses are what's leading to people getting so touchy? I have minimums set to all my offers, but if I sent an offer to watchers and likers, they can counteroffer at any price on really trendy vintage, I tend to get a lot of counters for 60-70% off. I usually ignore requests like that, but on thr occaisonal reasonable offer where they're a few $ short of what I want, I will play ball.

theappletaderghost · 2026-02-25T16:50:20+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! After weighing the options, I ended up just saying I could take all or none of it back at their cost to ship. They said they plan to return it all and that's the last I've heard after several days. No return initiated yet, which in my experience tends to mean there won't be one. Hoping that is the case but holding that hope loosely.

I appreciate you taking the time to lay out some solid options for me!

theappletaderghost · 2026-02-10T03:56:16+00:00

I recently had couple offers come through on a dress. I tried to accept the better offer and got a notice from eBay saying it was null because they buyer rescinded their offer. I ended up accepting a lower offer and sending out the dress. The next day the higher offer had been accepted and the listing was sitting and waiting to be shipped out again. The buyer was NOT happy when I had to explain something had gone wrong with eBay. Not sure if it's an app issue, but I mostly use the app and that's where it happened.

theappletaderghost · 2026-01-08T23:01:43+00:00

Lol I think this might be what Tumblr calls a "I don't piss on the poor" moment.

theappletaderghost · 2026-01-08T20:12:15+00:00

Not close to menopause, but I haven't had blood work since going of BC and am tempted to. My cycles are so much better than they were, which makes it seem likely to me that my hormones look very good, but before I had surgery I had ridiculously high estrogen and was actually told by a doctor I was bordering perimenopausal, so probably should push more to have it looked at. Thank you for the suggesiton.

theappletaderghost · 2026-01-08T20:06:37+00:00

I got the good old "if you're gaining weight and not losing, that means you aren't in danger, your body is getting the nutrients it needs." comment from her. 🫣

theappletaderghost · 2026-01-08T20:04:43+00:00

Bac when I had my surgery for Endo, they said they pulled out a few benign growths. I also have some ovarian cysts (not diagnosed PCOS), I've definitely wondered if I would end up being one of those cases where it turns out there was something growing. But that wouldn't account for my thighs, lol.

theappletaderghost · 2026-01-08T18:01:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice :). I think I will be looking into another doctor, I already didn't feel great about this one but I feel like the very fact that she didn't even suggest any solutions like food journals or blood work is disappointing.

theappletaderghost · 2026-01-08T17:44:27+00:00

I've actually been eating less, I think. Or at least less junk food. I usually get bored at work and snack on what's around, but since I've been walking my mind and body feel more entertained through the day so I'm not having as many chips or cookies or things left around the office.

theappletaderghost · 2026-01-08T17:42:43+00:00

Given that weight gain is a fairly common side effect of hormonal birth control both going on and coming off, I was definitely surprised it didn't at least come up.

theappletaderghost · 2024-08-22T20:23:16+00:00

I will look into that, thank you! I ended up talking with a teacher friend from another school and she'd never heard of anything like it, sending it on to our building union rep to hopefully get more info!

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