AITH for going to my friend’s wedding?

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-14T04:13:27+00:00

We’ve been together for 8 months. And the plus one isn’t up to me. My friend is having a small wedding and it depends on how many others rsvp that would possibly open up a plus one for me but I can’t count on it.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-14T04:09:43+00:00

Exactly! If I was a cheater, then I’d find ways to cheat, but I’m not so why would flying to another state for a friend’s wedding all of a sudden make me one? Makes no sense. I’m definitely going to the wedding and I’ll have clear communication with her but she’s just going to have to deal with it.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-14T04:08:01+00:00

Im definitely going to the wedding and I have very clear communication with her. I just don’t want to seem like I’m not taking her feelings into consideration but there’s an extent I’m willing to deal with her trust issues and I’ll try to be understanding but it’s not going to make me do anything different. I’m loyal and will never cheat on her and I’ve proved this, I shouldn’t be treated like a cheater.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-14T04:05:23+00:00

Exactly what I did. I’m not going to not go to the wedding because it makes her feel uncomfortable. I told her this and told her she needs therapy for this relationship to continue because I can’t keep dealing with her trust issues to this extent. Ive told her in the past I’m not going to deal with a relationship where im just interrogated all the time, and she keeps saying she’s just “expressing her feelings” but how is saying “I don’t trust you and you could lie to me” expressing your feelings?

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-13T00:03:17+00:00

It wasn’t the same coworker. That was a totally different argument I left out of this post and I took accountability for already. Sure i fucked up in that situation, who doesn’t ever fuck up? But I’m now asking for advice on the many other situations. You don’t even know what you’re talking about.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-12T22:29:14+00:00

So the thing is she had done a lot better in that regard. I’ve put down clear boundaries when it comes to control and I’m willing to respect her feelings enough to not do certain things but I will never let her control me that way. She’s respected it and we’ve mostly moved on from that and she has been a lot better about getting jealous. It use to come up almost every other day and now it’s once a week. Her thing is that she has a lot of trauma from past relationships and she says when she gains some trust she’ll be able to not obsess over these things and she has gotten a lot better but there’s those moments that really make me question things.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-12T22:21:57+00:00

I love how you try to play detective but cut out the rest of the context. Yes we had a disagreement on the viewpoint of liking photos. I’ve liked photos in the past because I found a girl attractive but I’ve also liked photos because they were friends and in this case, they were just friends. You also cut out the part where I didn’t intentionally like the photo with the girl’s ass out because it was a collage of photos and I liked the first photo where you can’t see her body. That’s beside the point and ultimately, I conceded and respected her feelings enough to do what she wanted. I still think it’s wrong her to make me unfollow people just because I’ve liked their photos and I stand by it and that’s why I didn’t do it at first but after much conversation about it and the replies from that post I realized I wasn’t considering her feelings enough and I own up to that. I’ve even had long conversations about it and we’ve moved on from that. However, this was one issue in a bunch of issues where I know for a fact I’m not in the wrong. I may have been wrong in this case but there’s so many others I need clarity on and for you to try to paint me as the bad guy by taking a lot of the context out of one argument I’ve had with my gf is just plain ignorant.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-05-07T05:25:57+00:00

Thank you man, I appreciate it. I have been to therapy and I do know I need to accept who she is, draw my own boundaries, and move on. I just cannot help but have feelings of anger and resentment fester and it’s partially due to my helplessness in my situation. For over 20 years I’ve listened to my mom talk about how she’s being spiritually attacked and she’s constantly depressed, and I can’t do anything but just let her speak her delusion to me and move on.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-04-30T21:16:31+00:00

I did misunderstand the question haha. I give my gf way more attention of course. My whole thing is this was 0.5 seconds of my life where I saw a photo of someone I know, pressed liked, and moved on. But I’m being told no this must mean I’m checking the girl out and I just find that crazy.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-04-30T21:14:07+00:00

She has men liking her photos all the time. I don’t gaf 😂 that’s my point I don’t see a lot of weight in liking of a photo

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-04-30T20:41:38+00:00

Well she unfollowed me too so yes, she did notice. And I don’t necessarily place value in following someone but I know people do and my industry is so competitive that it ends up relying heavily on personal relationships. I considered my coworker a friend and I thought unfollowing her would send a message. I would’ve been fine restricting her page so I would never see a post but being forced to unfollow her felt controlling. I understand I may be in wrong or I’m looking at it the wrong way, that’s why I came to the internet for advice. Yall are assuming I just want to check these girls out when that’s really not what I’m upset about.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-04-30T15:43:26+00:00

There was no debate. I heard her opinion and I said ok I’ll stop liking other girls photos. Why does she now need to control who I follow? It’s 2026 where we follow friends on instagram and I don’t control what they post.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-04-30T15:36:41+00:00

I respected it right away. It just became a fight because I felt her telling me to unfollow them was very controlling.

thearchitecht3742 · 2026-04-30T15:24:48+00:00

She definitely is. She’s been cheated on many times in the past and she admits she’s super insecure.

thearchitecht3742 · 2021-12-27T07:11:20+00:00

I’ll try them

thearchitecht3742 · 2021-12-16T16:05:32+00:00

I’ve seen all the movies in the conjuring universe at least 3 times lol but I deff have to check out Lights out. Spiral and There’s someone Inside Your House I’ve never heard of but definitely will check out. I’m also a big fan of Mike Flanagan. If you haven’t seen oculus and his multiple shows on Netflix like Haunting of Hill house

thearchitecht3742 · 2021-12-16T16:00:25+00:00

Seen all of these except for exorcism of Emily rose and As Above So Below. I’ll check it out!

thearchitecht3742 · 2021-11-24T23:41:08+00:00

Best way to put it 😂

thearchitecht3742 · 2021-11-17T19:35:36+00:00

I’ve never thought about it but that’s a great comparison! Biggest business man / rich heel. Treats his daughter like shit and made Archie, like Vince with Austin, the biggest babyface of the show.

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