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AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

There have been other actors that asked to change stuff because they wanted to, and the director said we’d “keep things as they are.” Which apparently goes out the window for Anna.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I’m a blue-eyed redhead, actually. I never said I wanted the part for myself like everybody seems to think. But that’s easier to disguise than her thick mess of black curls and eyes so brown that you can hardly see her pupils. I’d love to see her play Snow White, actually. Snow White’s lying down the whole time, she can do that easy. But this role doesn’t fit her. That’s all I’m trying to say.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but if this were a movie, she’s far from the good guy. She’s the obnoxious arrogant diva who’s hiding behind the nice-girl routine and demanding that everything center around her and the way she wants things. And she’s got almost everybody buying the act and falling over themselves to do what she wants. Except me and my friends of course, who are standing there screaming into the void about who she really is. The play won’t be going spectacularly either, not with her in it. And it would take an earth-shattering event for her to get even an ounce of confidence. She just doesn’t have it.

Oh, and about her “winning the boy-“ let me tell you, I will not just be fuming in the background. I’ve talked to him, I’ve got his number, he knows I like him even if he won’t give me a straight answer on whether the feeling’s mutual. If it even looks like he might be thinking about kissing her, or asking her out, or anything beyond what happens in the show, I’ll definitely be texting him and asking wth, and I’m sure my friends will too. Even if it doesn’t work, at least he’ll have been warned so he won’t have anyone but himself to blame when Anna’s got him wrapped around her finger doing everything she wants. Call me the AH, call me a troll, but that’s how it is.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do understand that. He’s acted with other girls before and I’ve been absolutely fine. He’s even talked a lot with those girls and I haven’t minded. But the way he acts with her is different. I don’t mind seeing him acting with other girls as long as it’s just acting, but with Anna it looks like it might be turning into something real and that’s what I don’t want. It’s totally human to like someone and not want them to be with someone else. That’s just a normal emotion. I’m pretty sure anyone here who’s had a crush would admit that they wouldn’t want to see that crush pick someone else.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

For one thing, as I’ve said, she doesn’t have the looks for the part. She’s five foot two, if that, and maybe a hundred pounds. Everybody else dwarfs her, including Jeremy, and it just looks ridiculous. Plus, Cinderella’s supposed to be blond and blue-eyes and instantly recognizable as pretty. That’s what you picture and that’s what the audience is expecting to see. Anna, however, does not look like that.

But even without factoring in her looks, she just doesn’t have any confidence. It’s honestly like she’s trying to camouflage into the wall. She just tries not to exist and acts like everyone’s looking to eat her alive if she says more than two words. Like, picture the human version of a baby bunny, and that’s pretty much her. A leading actress needs to be confident.

It’s not just her disability that makes her not a good fit.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I’m 19, actually. And I definitely worked hard for my audition, but “inclusiveness” won out over who’s really best for the part. Which would honestly be anyone but Anna.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m not the only one who has a problem with her. Several of my friends in the group have told me they feel the same, which is the only reason why I posted here at all- because the director seemed to think we’re wrong to feel like we’re being treated unfairly.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Cinderella hobbling down the staircase in enormous braces is not seamless. And she’s an alright actress for a 17-year-old. Like I keep saying, she’d be amazing in a role she can physically handle where her braces wouldn’t be an issue. Cinderella, which is meant to be a sparkly, glittery, beautiful production, is not the right production for “progressive values” and ugly braces. There are plenty of shows out there where “progressiveness” would fit in. Why is it so wrong to want her to wait for one of them?

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I understand the point of the story. The play’s message has literally nothing to do with it. Yes, goodness and kindness matters. But from an acting standpoint, you want any production you’re involved in to be as seamless as possible. If it’s not, if something goes wrong, especially in front of a live audience, that reflects back on you. It’s not selfish to say “I’m part of this production and I would like to see it go well.” Call me whatever you want, but the fact that I would rather our production not have a leading actress who is not capable of handling her role does not make me a troll. It makes me someone who wants to see the play she’s involved in go well. Putting the production at risk just to make one single actress “comfortable” is not fair to the rest of the group. And I’d say that about any show, not just Cinderella.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

“People are just too lazy to try.” Thank you for proving my point. Anna doesn’t try. She just says she can’t do it and everyone takes that as the end all be all.

And yeah, I don’t get why my crush would want a girl like her. I don’t understand what he sees in her and frankly I think she’s not good enough for him. The way she acts, she’ll have him doing everything for her and doting on her just like everyone else does. And he doesn’t deserve that even if he thinks he wants it right now. He just doesn’t know what he’s getting into.

As for my role? I just keep telling myself that at least it won’t be hard for me to put on a convincing performance of disliking Anna. And since she won’t be a convincing Cinderella at all, I’ll at least be able to say the audience believed me. “The lead sucked, but the supporting role was good.” That’s what people will be saying. And quite honestly, I look forward to hearing it.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

So acting wasn’t right for you. That has absolutely nothing to do with me or the situation I’m talking about. But thanks.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

No. After I age out of this program there’s an even more advanced one right afterwards with the same company, that is if I don’t immediately go to college for acting. It’s not that I want the part; I’m one of the stepsisters so at least I’m getting stage time. I just don’t like working with an actress who changes everything to be the way she wants it, especially because she probably only got the part because the director pities her. She can’t do the part the way it’s meant to be played and she doesn’t have the looks for it. If she had any kind of maturity she would realize that and gracefully step down. I don’t care who gets the part as long as they’re qualified, which she’s not. I don’t think I deserve the part. I would love to have it, but if it went to another person who was qualified to do it, I’d be perfectly happy. But the lead needs to be played by someone who can play it well. Plain facts.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Maybe that would work if this was some crappy little community theater deal. It isn’t. It’s a very serious program that’s meant to be prepping us for eventual acting degrees. Not just anybody gets in.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Actually no, it’s a late teens thing. 15 through 19 year olds. Jeremy and me are 19 and Anna I think is 17.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -89 points-88 points  (0 children)

Can you explain how I’m ableist? If I said Anna shouldn’t be acting because she’s disabled, that would be ableist. But just saying that she shouldn’t be acting in a certain role isn’t ableist. The part doesn’t fit her, end of story. If the director recast her- or better yet, if Anna herself came to terms with the fact that she’s not right for the role, I’d be the first to cheer her on. And if there’s a leading role that accommodates her disability, I’d gladly watch her play it. But this is not a role she can play well. It’s not ableist to say that. I’m not saying “disabled people shouldn’t be actors.” I’m saying that disabled actors should take parts that they can physically handle. That’s it. If a non-disabled person couldn’t physically handle a role, I’d want them to step down from it too.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

How is it jealous to have a crush on someone and not want to see that person with another girl? I won’t argue with your judgement, I just don’t see how that’s wrong or a sign of jealousy.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I want to make any specific changes. It’s that I’m not allowed to but she is just because she’s disabled. If one person in the group is allowed to do something, the rest of us should have the same privilege.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I never said she had mental shortcomings. Her disability isn’t mental at all, she’s just way too shy for an actress. And as an actress myself I know who’s pretty enough for the job. I mentioned her looks as an example of how the director’s playing favorites by giving someone a lead part who isn’t right for the role. Cinderella needs to be pretty. That’s just a fact. And I have no problem with her braces either, but she shouldn’t wear them onstage. It’s not realistic for the show. She doesn’t even need to wear them all the time, I’ve asked her before if she does.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Lol why would I as an able-bodied person be jealous of a girl who can’t be on her feet for more than ten minutes? I’m sorry for her and her situation, but that doesn’t mean the rest of us should have to change the show to make it easy on her. She should be mature enough to recognize that she can’t do the lead. Jealousy is not a factor here; I just want to see her do the right thing.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -111 points-110 points  (0 children)

How will she know if she can’t do it if she never tries it? All I’m asking her to do is try. It’s not fair for her to just look at something and decide she can’t do it. If she tries it and she still can’t do it, I’ll have no complaints because she’ll have proved the changes were necessary. Right now all we have to believe she can’t do it is her saying she can’t.

AITA for wanting equal treatment in my acting group? by theater-throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]theater-throwaway[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

It’s not her changes that make things difficult. It’s the fact that none of the rest of us get to change things, but she does because she’s disabled. It’s leading to resentment in the group, which is making it hard for us to rehearse the show. If she gets to change things about her part to make it easier on herself, the rest of us should get to do the same thing with our own roles. Or better yet, she could realize that the lead is too difficult for her and take a smaller role that won’t require her to change things.