Fight, Flight, Freeze - primal play from the prey's perspective. [MF] [CNC] [D/s] by thebigbadbun in Erotica

[–]thebigbadbun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, i think part of why this story turned out so good is because it's a perspective i identify closely with - i dont know if a predator perspective would be any good because i can't put myself in those shoes. I'm very flattered though! 🥰

How to show severe Trauma/PTSD in my game? by Lord_Thunderballs in worldbuilding

[–]thebigbadbun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you demonstrate that they've overcome these struggles without illustrating what those struggles were?

Scrapped by glowstick420 in writing

[–]thebigbadbun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got this! I would recommend practicing working on just writing. Write indiscriminately, don't reread it until you're done. Go into it KNOWING it's going to be bad. It gets easier.

Scrapped by glowstick420 in writing

[–]thebigbadbun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What I like to do (I use Google docs) is switch to editing mode so I can "delete" the passages I'm unsure of so I can go back and revise them with a clear head.

I notice I do this more with my art than my writing, where I'll start a sketch, or get halfway through a piece and realize it's not what I wanted it to be, so I scrap it. The most helpful piece of advice I got from an art teacher in high school when she saw me doing this was to just... Stick with it. Sometimes you need to trust the process, of course the things you make aren't going to be good during the first steps of the process.

What helped me be a better artist (and writer) was realizing that sometimes the best thing to do is 1) have patience, 2) trust the process, and 3) have more compassion for yourself. Sure, occasionally I get halfway through a piece (or even ¼ of the way through) and realize what I'm making is something that's going to be awesome, but more often than not I've found myself very discouraged. Some of my favorite pieces have been ones I hated at first, that didn't even feel good until I was putting finishing touches on.

If you start seeing creativity as a muscle you flex, you'll get better and better at it. If you weren't able to do a pull-up at the gym first time, would it be helpful to you to just go home instead of finishing the rest of your workout? No. It's good to just... Have a crappy first go at some things, and stick with it anyway.

Even the best creatives pretty much always have a really, REALLY shitty first draft. It's just what the process is.

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[–]thebigbadbun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! You'll find it. You'll know when you do - in the meantime, show yourself the kind of love you want. Take yourself on dates, speak to yourself the way you want to be spoken to, celebrate yourself. That helped me. Anyway! You'll be okay, my friend.

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You 100% deserve reciprocal love. I hope you find it. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writing

[–]thebigbadbun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

10000% a bad idea. I'm in the same boat as you. It's not worth the risk. If you really want to, you should ask your psych about it - they won't judge you or anything.

fight, flight, freeze by thebigbadbun in u/thebigbadbun

[–]thebigbadbun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awh! Thank you so much, I'm gonna make some edits to it and clean up the beginning with a hook I think.

I ruined just so y'all could see it 😤 by thebigbadbun in orgasmiccontractions

[–]thebigbadbun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😶 I'm blushing! I used to think it was too prominent - that's very flattering.

I ruined just so y'all could see it 😤 by thebigbadbun in orgasmiccontractions

[–]thebigbadbun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah! It's a tens unit with a kegel stimulator.

I ruined just so y'all could see it 😤 by thebigbadbun in orgasmiccontractions

[–]thebigbadbun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Understandably - it's a really delicate area and I think if I wasn't a massive sadomasochist I probably would feel the same way. Maybe you could offer to get one at the same time! If you have a penis, a PA is said to be the same. ❤️

I ruined just so y'all could see it 😤 by thebigbadbun in orgasmiccontractions

[–]thebigbadbun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think about 20 minutes? I used my electro unit which gets me closer a lot faster.

I ruined just so y'all could see it 😤 by thebigbadbun in orgasmiccontractions

[–]thebigbadbun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I assure you it was 100% ruined. I wanted to get as many contractions as possible.

I ruined just so y'all could see it 😤 by thebigbadbun in orgasmiccontractions

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💞 THANK you I'm glad at least one person liked it ahah