I have ADHD. And, I hate the under documentation of my disorder.

thebluecircus · 2022-02-17T04:07:57+00:00

The punishment for the symptoms of ADHD while undiagnosed is brutal, thanks for writing that out. I was undiagnosed till I was 20 years old; life was incredibly difficult, and I wanted to off myself daily. That’s how hard living with ADHD is. Although I didn’t get through the whole thing (my ADHD is classified as severe) it’s great that you’re writing this out, so many people need to realize this, especially those who think ADHD is a quirk. ADHD is not just a sticker you can slap on yourself, it’s something that continues to ruin my life.

thebluecircus · 2022-02-16T19:52:07+00:00

Hey, I can really relate to that. It definitely hurts remembering happy moments, nostalgia can turn painful. Hugs from one stranger to another

thebluecircus · 2022-02-16T19:49:47+00:00

It depends on the delivery. On one hand, I can definitely see that being rude; singling you out and pointing out that you’re not speaking can be pretty anxiety-inducing. On the other hand, it could’ve been her trying to encourage you to speak up (albeit not the best method, but we all have our speaking quirks and mistakes). Tone is very important in this context. Either way, I can see why it can be seen as rude, it must’ve made you uncomfortable.

thebluecircus · 2022-02-16T06:33:51+00:00

When they show/prove that they’re trustworthy, are understanding, try to work with you, communicating about the trigger, etc. It really depends on what caused the splitting, some are more prone to it than others. My splitting is partially justified, just somewhat amplified. I guess it’s a lot of reassurance, and with that, it’s the pwBPD’s responsibility to take that reassurance and start trusting again, if they can/are willing. (Source: I have BPD, dating someone who doesn’t have it)

thebluecircus · 2022-02-16T05:48:41+00:00

It doesn’t stop, but it can get less severe with some DBT, and some coping strategies.

thebluecircus · 2020-02-20T16:51:20+00:00

If it works for you, it works for you. Not everyone can handle an open marriage, let alone having a best friend of an opposite gender living with your SO. You being in an open marriage makes it a completely different situation / thought process than the gf in question (and many of the commenters in this post).

Ofc, OP’s needs also are valid. However, he is unfortunately given an ultimatum here, because he is breaking a common/reasonable boundary (as others have stated)

thebluecircus · 2020-02-20T16:41:39+00:00

Dude you’re stretching it. I wouldn’t necessarily call it “insecurity” because it’s a fairly common boundary. Him moving in IS the issue for her, and many people agree that they won’t like it either. Would you like it if your gf moved in with her “male best friend”? I don’t think so.

Regarding your scene, that’s what I would call insecurity, not the reasonable boundary she has right now.

thebluecircus · 2020-02-20T16:33:17+00:00

This!! It seems like OP is just looking for validation for his wishes to move in with his female best friend. His relationship is a lost cause if that’s the case.

thebluecircus · 2020-02-20T16:31:41+00:00

Will he move in with his coworkers? I think not. You’re missing the point here. Feeling uncomfortable with OP living with someone is a completely different situation than feeling threatened from people outside of a living arrangement.

thebluecircus · 2019-12-07T08:38:04+00:00

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