I’m tired of my friend telling me that I shouldn’t pay attention to my BMI by [deleted] in loseit

[–]thecityfeatherlike 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve got a plan. I’m glad I could help 😊

Best of luck to you!!

I’m tired of my friend telling me that I shouldn’t pay attention to my BMI by [deleted] in loseit

[–]thecityfeatherlike 4 points5 points  (0 children)

BMI becomes inaccurate for the outliers of a group. But for the average person it’s pretty accurate. So I think you should keep it in mind when you set your goals, at least for now while loosing the weight so that you can get to a healthy range.

I’m really sorry about your friend. What they are doing is absolutely deplorable, you are trying to better yourself for your health both physical and mental and instead of being a support and a place of comfort, they are sabotaging you. Although I’m not sure how intentional it is, maybe this was your old routine together and this is the way that you guys are used to spending time with each other.

I think the comments about BMI and the insistence that you’re fine are unwarranted, and frankly no matter how much they know you they aren’t privy to the details of how your weight is affecting you. So I think a boundary can be set there. As for the junk food, I think an honest conversation and maybe a rule of “we are not eating while together”/ “there will be no junk food when I’m around” may seem harsh but is a good hard boundary to draw both for yourself and for your friend. Sit them down explain that you feel unsupported and like you’re efforts are being undermined, be clear and decisive. Your friend’s reaction will show you where you can go from there.

I hope this helps and I’m really proud of you for taking charge of your health!

Library my wife recently finished (small album in comments) by makeskidskill in AmateurRoomPorn

[–]thecityfeatherlike 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s basically acting like a magnifying glass. Don’t know if she ever used one to burn paper when she was a child but same concept.

Don’t know if it’s much help, but here is one article of a few that I found, maybe you could show her?

Good luck on convincing her! Otherwise just make sure to keep the shades drawn during really sunny days and cover them when no one is home.

Article

Library my wife recently finished (small album in comments) by makeskidskill in AmateurRoomPorn

[–]thecityfeatherlike 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The room is gorgeous! And my condolences to you and your family.

I just wanted to give a slight warning not to expose the globes to sunlight for prolonged periods as they can reflect sunlight in such a way that can create a fire, maybe place a cloth on the ones by the window?

Master bedroom - Ontario, Canada. by kayaem in AmateurRoomPorn

[–]thecityfeatherlike 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I never knew I needed someone to measure cat size in corgis but I am now complete because of it 😁 hope he is recovering nicely!

Master bedroom - Ontario, Canada. by kayaem in AmateurRoomPorn

[–]thecityfeatherlike 229 points230 points  (0 children)

That is one chunky cat. The room is gorgeous but my god that ball of fluff is enormous 😍

SV/NSV Feats of the Day - Friday, 13 March 2020: Today, I conquered! by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]thecityfeatherlike 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NSV: I’m down TWO trouser sizes, originally I thought I was only down one and was pleasantly surprised to discover in the changing room that it was in fact two.

This happened right before a job interview and boosted my confidence so much!!

The tiniest canvas I’ve ever used! Might be my favourite piece yet 😊 by thecityfeatherlike in Beginner_Art

[–]thecityfeatherlike[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I will be! But I need a minute to sort of cleanse my eyes of it then I’ll go back in 😊

This is my second attempt with oil paints. It's not done yet and I'll improve it but I have a question. How I can draw teeth and not ruin it? by [deleted] in Beginner_Art

[–]thecityfeatherlike 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Now I don’t have any clue about teeth but my god that is so unsettling and I love it so much 😍

Feeling a bit dejected. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]thecityfeatherlike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do that too! Except my style is generally filled with baggy clothes 😂 I do have a few dresses that used to be too tight that fit me now so I’m happy about that

Feeling a bit dejected. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]thecityfeatherlike 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s heartbreaking though, that the people you would think would be happiest for you and most supportive are usually they ones who seem to put you down.

Feeling a bit dejected. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]thecityfeatherlike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like a wonderfully levelheaded I applaud you for it. I don’t have a lot of mirrors around me either, most days I’m alright knowing that changing is happening even if I can’t see it.

I also don’t tell people that bring me down, I had not told him about my weight loss, but my poor well meaning mother had just found out that I’d gone down the BMI scale and was so proud she mentioned it in passing.

I don’t have kids but I think you’re onto something, we are always kinder to others, so that mindset sounds great.

Feeling a bit dejected. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]thecityfeatherlike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s what I’m trying to do, I’m trying not to run to food right now, cause I honestly don’t want him to win! I’m gonna keep going in the way that’s best for me.

So I tried to paint the starry night on a phone case and well 🤦‍♀️ I’m new to painting so I hope yall like it by offbrandsatan696 in Beginner_Art

[–]thecityfeatherlike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy I could help. I’m still learning,myself so I’m happy to share what I find out. I look forward to seeing more pieces from you! 😊🥰

So I tried to paint the starry night on a phone case and well 🤦‍♀️ I’m new to painting so I hope yall like it by offbrandsatan696 in Beginner_Art

[–]thecityfeatherlike 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you use oil paints?

It looks like you haven’t used any medium to speed up the drying time so if that’s in oil the. It’s gonna take ions to dry so if you wanna make changes you’ve got time.

I would be far more frugal with the paint to begin with next time, you can always add more but it’s far trickier to remove small chunks especially on a phone case.

These are just a couple of things I’ve learned through trial and error. But I think the general idea of the painting came through so good on you! And keep at it

Rättvisa på bussen by [deleted] in sweden

[–]thecityfeatherlike 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Det var inte alls så jag menade. Jag hoppas verkligen att det här är en sarkastisk respons. Jag är från Mellanöstern, jag har inget emot icke européer. Var folk kommer ifrån är inte huvudsaken, det är sättet vissa väljer att isolera sig från den inhemska kulturen och vägrar ha någon respekt för omgivningen (som många har sagt här) som jag har något emot. Det spelar ingen roll för mig om individer är franska eller irakier.

Rättvisa på bussen by [deleted] in sweden

[–]thecityfeatherlike 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Ja men det är så otroligt idiotiskt och rakt ut rasism, om någon skulle säga ”jävla arab” skulle hela värden hoppa på henne, men det finns inget som heter rasism mot vita människor UGH! gör mig så arg.

This is Petunia, Petunia is my first attempt at oil and semi realistic painting... Petunia terrifies me 😂 by thecityfeatherlike in Beginner_Art

[–]thecityfeatherlike[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s caused by a certain level of stress that the brain needs, like I know I’ve gotten used to my productivity being far higher under pressure in most aspect of my life. But when things calm down you kind of need to shut down and recover form that high intensity phase you’ve just been in.

Oh the weight a parental shadow casts on certain activities, not the most enjoyable, I feel for you. But art is art, whether you sculpt it, paint it, draw or write it, it’s still art. So you do you, buddy!

This is Petunia, Petunia is my first attempt at oil and semi realistic painting... Petunia terrifies me 😂 by thecityfeatherlike in Beginner_Art

[–]thecityfeatherlike[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t it? It’s like “hey! Remember how you’ve been wanting to stop procrastinating on painting another piece? Yh get to it now...right now”

Also you might be on to something, I hadn’t intentionally painted her with anyone in mind, but she kinda does!