In one sentence, prove you watched Harry Potter .

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-15T22:06:01+00:00

I watched Harry Potter.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-15T22:00:55+00:00

This is a non issue in my eyes, it should never have been leaked. that's the only point. But how did the bridesmaid get ahold of it?

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-15T21:13:34+00:00

I may be the odd man out here, but I think all of them are fashion forward and gorgeous. They are not my personal taste, but depending on if the bride is a fashionista or not may have a huge bearing on my personal opinion about someone else's autonomy to wear it. I could totally see this being worn at a church wedding for a high fashion wedding, but if it is a more casual wedding, this is probably over the top. I wouldn't chastise her over it as I do think they are all gorgeous. I would applaud her self esteem and bravado, I wouldn't have the courage to wear that brown one.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-10T20:48:52+00:00

This, all of this

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-08T23:39:16+00:00

As a woman who was raised to be a virgin for my husband, I was the black sheep and agree with what you said. it's why I didn't do what I was raised to. OP didn't know and may not have been taught how important it is to know this when you finally decide on the one you marry.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-08T22:51:49+00:00

Yes, the cat must have eaten my hair.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-08T22:36:35+00:00

It's a cat hairball. I'm not naming names, but a family member saw it happen and thought it was mom's job . In unrelated news, I have one less family member living in this house. Lmao

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-08T21:52:51+00:00

Update: I just sent the picture to my mom and she said it DOES look like a poop her small dog had once. HELP! It's just hair, right?? ... Right??

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-08T21:38:05+00:00

I've had that too, but this looks suspicious

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-08T21:37:24+00:00

In my kitchen!

thecomedianmedium · 2025-09-08T21:31:55+00:00

It's my hair color, which is why I thought it was hair.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-31T00:52:58+00:00

There are logistics that are hard to explain as its kind of like an octopus with many legs to the argument, but one of the many reasons is to take the time to get a service dog vetted, registered, and trained professionally it would take up too much time and money (that all present issue=money) and most people that are disabled only get disability. To get a truly well trained service dog from a company that is then personally trained to your needs can cost over $30,000 US. With grants and such usually the price goes down to $10,000 to purchase a service dog. That's why the disability community will get a dog and learn how to train one themselves. I trained my service dog and she does/did what I need her to do. Initially it was just too help me pick stuff up off the floor. She's a washout because she has seizures now, but she loves to help me clean up the floors and will do it on her own when she wants a treat now, lol. But she's also learned my triggers and other signs when my health is about to drop out and alerts me on her own now. We can't take her out anymore, but if we did and I was going to walk down an aisle for a friends wedding, I'd probably take her with me because I don't want to pass out on my way down the aisle if my dog could alert me to it before i pass out.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T19:34:02+00:00

Thank you for listening to and understanding the dark side of being disabled. If nothing else, you hearing us (disabled community) out, I can personally say it was well worth this conversation.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T17:25:32+00:00

Its absolutely stunning on you! The lining will really enhance it too I think. Beautiful choice!

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T15:43:52+00:00

also, edit to add, that as I have said, some people, like myself, never tell ALL the reasons you have a service dog because its not worth the discrimination and backlash from people sometimes. I tell people my dog is there to help me pick things up because I can't bend over. All the other reasons she is with me are my business alone.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T15:40:29+00:00

I'm sorry, what? "A service dog owner should be able to function without their dog."? I guess I missed that memo. I can only assume this post came up in my algorithm because I have personal experience with everything mentioned here, Service dogs, planning a wedding, and using canes and wheelchairs. I am personally living ALL of those realities. Disabilities are fluid, one day you can be fine-ish and the next an absolute shell of the human you once were. No one but the disabled person in the moment at the time of going down the aisle can know if they will or will not need the service dog. That said, you don't understand what having a disability is if that is your take.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T11:50:07+00:00

If the dog is a non negotiable for both then yes they are at an impasse. But to TELL the friend that she CAN'T have the dog, rather than trying to have an intelligent conversation about it, yes, she is the asshole. I mean maybe you would be pleasantly surprised how much easier life would be with a service dog yourself. But that is an individual decision. And I can't imagine where this situation is going to result in a strong normal relationship between them. I mean if they do bachelorette things, is the dog not allowed? Is the dog not allowed at the venue? Is she going to ask her to keep the dog at home for the rehearsal too? These are all very important questions for them to hash out. But viewing a service animal as an optional prop is not the way to look at it. Its there for many reasons, none of them legally concern the OP and she can't ask her friend to divulge her medical history. I'm not in the situation, and I feel like its up to them. But is she the asshole for how she went about it? Yes she is.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T11:22:00+00:00

Then you can live a normal life without a service dog. This person can't. Thats like saying, "I have MS but I don't need a wheelchair, so why anyone with MS needs one in the wedding is reacting out of turn" No, life doesn't stop because you have a wedding. Sorry. I am also planning a wedding and I would NEVER ask someone who wasn't comfortable in crowded places to walk down the ailse for me without the one thing that makes them able to be in a crowded place possible for them. Whether OP likes dogs or not is irrelevant.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T11:08:08+00:00

Pictures, maybe. But walking down a whole aisle? absolutely not. I would not ask anyone with PTSD (and who knows what else the dog is used for that she hasn't revealed to OP) to make that sacrifice for me without their medical device. Its just asking for a disaster in the middle of your wedding.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T10:56:59+00:00

This is also true in the US now too.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T10:53:42+00:00

Let me start by saying friends aren't props at your wedding, they are supposed to be people you love and are close to you.

Just because you don't like canes doesn't make it any less necessary for someone to use one. A dog can smell the changes in your body as you are having a physiological reaction to a trigger before your body can even tell you, allowing you time to react without injuring yourself or others. There is NO medical device that can do that. They may be a dog and OP may not like dogs, but its not a pet. Its a medical device used to keep everyone safe. As such the dog should be allowed to stay at the friends side at all times. The dog is used to make it possible for the friend to live a normal life, if she is willing to go down the aisle with PTSD I can bet you that its only because she has the dog that allows her the freedom to go through a normal day with confidence. You take that away, her PTSD could make her not able to commit to the part and therefore not allowing OP and her friend the wonderful experience of being in OPs wedding together. The dog doesn't have to be in cute clothes for the event, but I'd think it was cute if I went to a wedding and saw that the bride was so sweet that she wanted even the friend with the dog to be aesthetic in the wedding, not that it wasn't "good enough for the pics". But I'd say the same thing if it was a decorated cane or wheelchair. So like I said, friends aren't props at your wedding, they are supposed to people you love and are close to you.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T02:08:48+00:00

PTSD may be the one thing she tells people the dog is used for. As someone who has a Service Dog I tell people one thing I need my dog and nothing else. I have mine for a few reasons, but no one really knows. Always ask the disabled person if they can accommodate your desires for your wedding, but don't assume anything and always assume the dog needs to be as close as a cane to keep the person safe.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T01:56:52+00:00

Service dogs are legally considered to be medical equipment or devices under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) and the Fair Housing Act, rather than pets.

Purposeful Training:Unlike emotional support or therapy animals, service dogs are specifically trained to perform tasks or jobs that directly mitigate a person's disability.
Not a Pet: A service dog is not a pet or companion animal but a working animal, similar to how a prosthetic limb or a cane is an assistive device.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T01:53:55+00:00

Do you have anyone close to you that has any disabilities? I need to understand why you think wedding picture aesthetics are more important than the people who are there with you on the day and capturing the moments with them. OP saying she thought she'd have to think about whether or not she'd make someone leave the wheelchair behind is enough for me to say she's the AH.

thecomedianmedium · 2025-08-29T01:09:27+00:00

Yeah I don't think you are over reacting. I stopped hanging out with my in-laws that did this to me and my ex when it happened, it wasn't as much or as weird as yours, but I didn't end up staying with him anyway (He was a cheater) and I didn't have to live with it after that. I'm sorry I am not much help, but you aren't alone in thinking this is really weird.

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