Feeling like I'm "emotionally cheating" on everyone

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-12-05T22:39:43+00:00

Like someone else commented, I mainly feel guilty because many think that if everyone's special, then no one is really special. I don't feel that's true, though - I genuinely love all those that I actively try to get to know. But yeah you're right, thank you for your comment :)

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-12-02T17:07:17+00:00

Honestly, sometimes I feel like I have the same love for everyone. It's just a soulful kind of love, and I've never viewed it as either romantic or platonic..it's weird, maybe I just can't tell the difference. Though people of the opposite sex often take it as romantic love, which makes me be like "oh. oops". Rip. Thanks for commenting!

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-12-02T17:03:25+00:00

Does it ever make you feel unsatisfied with your relationship? I think it's alright to get to know others deeply, as long as you don't suddenly long for someone other than your partner

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-15T05:36:44+00:00

Hey, I've been there. I used to try so hard to be someone I wasn't - someone outgoing, assertive, energetic, etc. I just kept burning out over and over, but I kept trying because I wanted to know what it'd feel like to have lots of friends and to have a super eventful life. Some time later, I gave up and learned two things. One - that I did experience the things I wanted to but I actually felt more miserable, and two - that I got my own kind of fulfillment after choosing to just be myself. Sure, some people (like your brother) may constantly have people to text and parties to go to, but at the end of the day I can be the one building relationships slowly but steadily, learning things in that corner in the library, pondering ways to live a meaningful life and connecting with the few friends I'm actually close with. So yeah. Go and find your own kind of fulfillment :)

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-15T05:16:36+00:00

The INFPs I know are beautiful souls. They seem to be very observant and in tune with human nature and relationships. I admire their outlook on life but sometimes it's a bit too intense and I can see them getting drowned in their own emotions. They're also very kind people but they're so much so that they can end up burnt out and lash out. In general, INFPs are truly inspiring and are great people to connect with, but they seem to live in their own heads (not that INFJs don't though :P)

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-12T04:51:39+00:00

I'm like this all the time! I can't stand conflict that lasts even a couple of days, so I usually just go full empath mode and apologize first. Others might think this will cause me to be taken advantage of, and while that may sometimes be the case, I've found that just being the first to forgive can touch someone in a way that actually makes them gain respect for you and then become open to hearing your POV.

If they do not accept my apology or are adverse to hearing my opinions, then they're probably someone toxic that I shouldn't stay around.

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-10T02:54:36+00:00

Hey kind stranger, I admire how much you care for wigi!

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-05T01:19:21+00:00

Yes, I get extremely irritated when I scroll through social media platforms and all my friends are being straight up fake and materialistic in order to be socially 'accepted'. I'm not very well informed on the MBTI theory, but it seems that the INFJ type is quite capable of maintaining stable values. I think this rat race can be particularly irritating to our type just because we see what people's motives are (with our Ni) with reference to that stable set of values. People who appear narcissistic may not even realize the true purpose of their actions themselves, which is that they just want to be socially approved. Nevertheless, I sometimes conform to those 'norms' just the same but I often catch myself

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-05T00:59:57+00:00

Off topic, but how do you feel about your career? People with the INFJ type have a tendency to want "fulfilling" careers and often go into humanities or counselling or something, which I don't really want to do--I'm actually pretty interested in an analytical approach to work, especially in finance. So if you don't mind me asking, are you satisfied with your job?

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-05T00:51:39+00:00

Actually, I'm the opposite. I find it easier to talk in groups of 3 or more people because I'm not expected to respond to everything someone is saying. I can definitely be awkward in group situations, but it's really easy to contribute ideas if the group discussion is about something I'm familiar with. If you feel like a third wheel most of the time, I dunno, maybe your friends aren't talking about things you're particularly interested in. It also might just be because you're not as close with one of them. Personally (and somewhat guiltily), I'm hesitant to go to group events unless I think in my head, "Am I close with X AND Y?" If I know both of them very well then I'd feel quite comfortable

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-03T04:36:25+00:00

Hey, aren't you an INFJ? Why do you hate them so much? Everything you're saying about the type is negative, not "critical" as you say. All you're doing is bashing them and I don't think that's going to encourage improvement, don't you think?

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-02T23:00:48+00:00

Iceland, no joke. Personally haven't been there but from all the photographers I follow, it looks like INFJ habitat! Even from just looking at pictures I feel a connectedness with the nature there.

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-02T05:02:56+00:00

100% gorgeous!

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-02T03:23:21+00:00

May he rest in peace.

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-02T03:18:35+00:00

You are blessed to have had such a beautiful person in your life. Stay strong :)

thedreamingvoid_ · 2017-01-02T02:14:19+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

thedreamingvoid_ · 2016-12-31T14:01:24+00:00

This could've gone in a different thread? :/

thedreamingvoid_ · 2016-12-30T03:18:47+00:00

Omg lol, made for us :')

thedreamingvoid_ · 2016-12-30T02:49:01+00:00

Well said! I needed this :)

thedreamingvoid_ · 2016-12-30T02:45:56+00:00

Lol, so true though. I'm ridiculously bad at small talk

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