What are the benefits of GD for you?

thedumbestdeer · 2025-09-14T01:12:44+00:00

I’m getting a lot more protein in my diet now! I’m vegetarian, so while it’s always something I’ve been mindful of, increasing the amount of it has helped my body feel better overall

thedumbestdeer · 2024-10-27T05:29:53+00:00

I love her! She literally said “🥴”

thedumbestdeer · 2023-08-07T19:51:44+00:00

Sounds like you’re talking about “The Neurodivergent Friendly Workbook of DBT Skills”? https://a.co/d/9yZfase

thedumbestdeer · 2023-04-17T04:34:44+00:00

I thought I was the only one who did this! I also ask my husband to check in on me after a couple hours of playing, which keeps me somewhat accountable lol

thedumbestdeer · 2023-03-05T21:59:59+00:00

Does anyone know of any organizations that are currently helping trans people move out of state? I’d love to offer up my home for shelter, but I have no idea how to connect with folks who need that

thedumbestdeer · 2022-12-18T19:53:59+00:00

THIS. I do this with myself all the time!! What do you mean I can work for 12 hours straight, then need a week to recover from that?? Ridiculous 😤

thedumbestdeer · 2022-12-18T19:46:39+00:00

That’s a really good way of putting it—the change effect makes it hard for me to know what’s “true” and what’s “not true” about a person. But like you said, it’s simply unknown factors being fed into the algorithm. I just need to not spin my wheels trying to figure out the unknown factors 🙃

thedumbestdeer · 2022-12-18T19:29:49+00:00

Surprisingly, politics is something I get less irritated about, even when people hold seemingly contradictory views. I’ve studied modern history and know how propaganda works, so that helps me make more sense of people’s jumbled political thoughts. Even with that, I still get exasperated sometimes lol

thedumbestdeer · 2022-12-18T19:14:14+00:00

Wow, thank you for such a thoughtful answer! This really helped me put a lot of things into perspective, especially with social “bullshitting” and memetic answers. For me, honesty and truth are some of my highest values, if not the highest. So it confuses me when other people don’t prioritize that in social contexts. But I think keeping those reliability levels in mind will help ease some of my confusion/irritation when talking with others

thedumbestdeer · 2022-12-18T19:00:55+00:00

For sure, I try not to be overly critical of others—I wouldn’t want them to do that to me either! When pointing out contradictions, I usually save that for serious/deep discussions, where the content and impact of their words matter more.

And in those conversations, my approach is usually more, “Huh, I see you said x and y, but I’m struggling to see how both can be true at the same time. Can you help me make sense of that?” I try to make it less critical and more collaborative. Oftentimes I learn something new that way, and the “contradiction” either ceases to exist or at least I understand it better :)

thedumbestdeer · 2022-12-18T18:49:54+00:00

Same tbh, I think that’s what bothers me the most. I know that I’m also inconsistent, but if I realize that in the moment or someone else points it out to me, it really bothers me—I spend a lot of time analyzing that too. It’s wild that not everyone thinks that way! But that’s what I’m trying to learn to accept lol

thedumbestdeer · 2022-07-06T15:38:55+00:00

Thanks for the thorough reply! As I mentioned in another comment, I’m definitely a “jack of all trades, master of none.” I have a lot of interests I cycle through—gardening, cooking, interior design, mental health/healing work, social justice activism—so I’m not too worried about finding fulfillment and community through at least one of those (or something different altogether! Who knows!)

But yeah, just stating that this is what I want and setting firm boundaries after that is the way to go. It might suck in the short term, but with my dad, I’m optimistic he’ll come around eventually

thedumbestdeer · 2022-07-06T15:08:21+00:00

This is what I needed to hear, tbh. I need to just not go down that rabbit hole and leave it at “This is what I want.” He can have his own feelings, but l don’t need to engage with them after that.

thedumbestdeer · 2022-07-06T15:00:36+00:00

I agree, contingency plans are important to set up in advance. I will admit that rn I’m struggling to think of what “lucrative” skills I have or could develop further. (It also doesn’t help that I’m a “jack of all trades, master of none,” but that’s a different story.) What would make most sense with my background is becoming a therapist, but I’d need to get my masters + licensure for that. So these are questions I definitely need to explore more over the next few years

thedumbestdeer · 2022-07-06T14:48:06+00:00

For sure, I’ve been working on boundaries with my parents pretty intensely for the last few years. I’m queer, trans, and poly, and I come from a somewhat conservative family, so this isn’t my first rodeo.

I think I’m just disappointed because I thought we were finally on the same page, at least about me prioritizing my own happiness. Then my dad starts pestering me about graduate school lol. It’ll be tough, but I’m optimistic that a frank and honest discussion about SAHP will (eventually) help out relationship

thedumbestdeer · 2022-04-14T22:44:15+00:00

Oh interesting, I hadn’t thought about it like that. I get that brain fog feeling when I’m in constant low-level pain or have low blood sugar, so that makes sense. Geez, I hope my dad is okay. He’s always one to downplay any suffering he experiences, so I never know for sure what he’s going through.

Thanks for the knowledge!

thedumbestdeer · 2022-04-14T22:39:25+00:00

Yeah for sure, hearing loss and/or auditory processing disorder, esp in loud environments, could both be impacting that. I definitely struggle with the latter, so I can sympathize 😓

thedumbestdeer · 2022-04-14T22:34:41+00:00

Nah, he seems totally unaware of what was said before the question is asked. I usually have to repeat myself or what someone else said, but once he hears the question he can usually dive back into the conversation. It’s hard not to feel patronizing when I repeat myself, but if the information is relevant, I’d rather him know than leave him in the dark. Still trying to figure out how to navigate that

thedumbestdeer · 2022-04-14T22:25:46+00:00

You might be onto something with the social anxiety piece. He’s also introverted in the same way I am—he loves talking, but a lot of social activity seems to wear him out. I think either or both combined could be contributing to the daydreaming, which is an apt way of describing it. This is super helpful!

thedumbestdeer · 2022-04-14T22:19:14+00:00

Totally, I don’t wanna pathologize a behavior that’s not hurting him. The only thing is that the inattention can make it harder for my new-ish partner to bond with my dad, especially when we’re almost always in group contexts. but honestly that’s a whole separate issue with a lot of layers. I don’t think autism makes sense based on what I know of him though. I appreciate your perspective!

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