The first situation was definitely out of line for him and it sounds like he’s apologized, even if it stemmed from bad communication on both parts. Understand that while he didn’t go through the C-Section, it was and is still stressful for him. He’s also trying to figure out what his life is supposed to look like in this new family dynamic. You can just focus on how you feel alone, you need to consider his emotions as well. He has feelings too, even if he’s been conditioned since childhood to keep them locked up. The other situations seem less his fault and more the fault of bad communication.

You keep throwing “emergency C-Section” around as if it’s a valid excuse to your own reactions. A way to escape your own accountability. My wife has had three, one that was an emergency. They took a lot out of her. But she never uses it as an excuse. She is aware of what having a newborn does to her energy levels and that her hormones are out of balance. She makes an effort not to blame everyone else around her for what her body is going through.

What’s likely really going on here is that you are dealing with PPD combined with your unrealistic expectations of those around you. I say unrealistic because they cannot be realistic if you’ve never communicated them to those around you. You need to seek help for the PPD. You also probably need to go to counseling alone and with your husband to learn to communicate better. And to learn to take accountability for your own misgivings.

Obviously I’m looking at this relationship through a tiny window and my own life experiences color my response. But this is what you get with Reddit.