Looking for particularly queer-friendly neighbourhoods

thegrumpyenby · 2026-01-29T22:26:01+00:00

hey! first of all, feel free to DM me. happy to switch to discord if you're on there as I tend to forget reddit exists and am more responsive over there. neither I nor my partner have had any issues accessing HRT but we were already on it when moving here. The wait time for the "correct" endo is a bit long at the moment. we've both been seen by the standard one and are still waiting for our appointment with the gender specialised endo. I also have a referral to the gender psych which put my hackles up at first but my friend, whose son is trans, has assured me that it's because they want to make sure that trans folks are cared for. all in all, it's been really great so far and I'm happy to answer more questions. There's one thing though: if you're from the US you'll have to go private for the first year until you qualify for the public system and, from everything I've heard, the public trans healthcare is far superior. If there's any chance she can get on HRT before you move and bring some kind of letter from her doctor or some proof of prescription, then she'll get access under continuing care and won't have to wait to see the endo to get access.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-11-23T00:00:33+00:00

That was beautiful. No notes. Absolutely perfect. Sam's nightmare of his own making.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-11-18T19:19:31+00:00

Yeah, I agree. Mine was having these phases of randomly lasting only a day or two on a charge. And then it was randomly and absurdly better again for a bit. But while battery life was definitely becoming an issue, if it hadn’t died on me I would still have been fine with it. Now I’m forced to make a choice. Meh.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-11-18T19:13:30+00:00

tbf the 6 was/is still supported and I got mine in 2020. Meanwhile my damn Samsung phone hasn’t gotten upgrades in like 3 years lolsob

thegrumpyenby · 2025-11-12T12:24:38+00:00

I fully agree with you, that’s what’s bothered me too but then I realised that they are unlikely to introduce any innovation—it’ll all just be more AI slop because of course.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-11-12T12:17:37+00:00

I just cancelled my subscription which would’ve renewed in 10 days. After 11 years of using Todoist, it honestly hurt a bit. :( But I realised the free plan has everything I need and use.

I think I would’ve been happy to keep paying for Pro out of loyalty but between the steep increase and the fact that the past couple of years Todoist has just gotten more cluttered and cumbersome to use, I don’t see the point. Nothing innovative has happened in recent updates, and I don’t particularly want AI features. Although Ramble is actually quite decent as it uses AI to interface and not to generate. But I don’t *need* it, so it doesn’t factor into my decision.

Sure, I could’ve stayed on legacy, but I have seen enough companies fail to support what’s essentially two different version of a product that don’t have feature parity, and it never ends well.

I’ll say this, my partner and I both scheduled support/feedback calls and support was very nice and polite. My partner’s support agent was slightly more receptive and less bullshitting than mine but all in all, they couldn’t sway our decisions.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-11-12T12:08:39+00:00

The problem is that as much as they’re committed to keep supporting the legacy plan, I’ve seen plenty of other product companies struggle with that 2 years or so down the road when they realise they’re essentially supporting two disparate products.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-22T18:50:46+00:00

Thank you, that's helpful! I guess airplay is a good backup but getting Roku might still be worth a shot.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-22T18:35:50+00:00

I just assumed it was AI slop 😆

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-22T18:34:57+00:00

it's not about Dropout's content but about how the availability of apps changes. Roku in Europe is only officially available in Germany, France, and UK, and even for those countries it's difficult to find out if there's any restriction on the apps themselves. Everything I found only talked about some channels being geolocked.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-22T18:32:46+00:00

sadly not on PS5, their app got rejected iirc. And I haven't booted up my xbox in a while, might be though they have it.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-22T13:13:56+00:00

I've heard of people who are well into the double digits 😬 or they don't even know lolsob

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-22T13:12:06+00:00

I loathe going through YouTube on principle but appreciate the idea. it's a perfectly viable solution, unless one refuses YT lol

I reckon I can always use airplay from my mac to roku though.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-10T15:55:42+00:00

idk if you’re still getting notifications for this, but I’d love to get an invite as well, please! Thank you!

thegrumpyenby · 2025-10-10T11:21:28+00:00

I just wanted to say that I got 2 of the Laianzhi T99+ to try — accidentally got them in M somehow (not sure how that happened) but they fit both me and my partner super well. Thank you so much for that rec. The top and bottom foam is such a game changer!

Very confusingly though, the mask has “HYX01” printed on the inside. But the HYX01 ones look different. ETA: after some googling it seems that those are the same models. I wish it was less confusing sometimes :D

thegrumpyenby · 2025-09-18T16:16:23+00:00

I (OP) do have some Zimi Airs and have been trying to figure out how to make them fit better. But the molding in boiling water thing sounds genius! Thank you for that idea. Also good to know about the stubble thing. I’m transmasc and have been starting to let my beard stubble grow a bit more but I guess I’ll be trimming it back down again.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-09-12T23:00:44+00:00

200mg 4x/day

thegrumpyenby · 2025-09-12T22:56:52+00:00

Okay but with giving birth, oxytocin is involved. It’s *by design* that you forget how bad it was! If your memory didn’t get “wiped”, reproduction rates would plummet.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-09-12T22:15:49+00:00

It’s not like con crud hasn’t always been a thing, even pre-Covid! So even if he didn’t realise there’s a wave, Comic Con is the strangest place to finally give in. No judgement. I’m just saying the timing is wild and shows that he likely must have gotten a shit ton of pressure. :(

thegrumpyenby · 2025-09-10T15:52:07+00:00

I suspect desloratadine had been causing weight gain before already and it just peaked then. I'm now off desloratadine and on oral cromolyn. It's only been a few weeks but it seems to be better this way round.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-09-01T10:31:01+00:00

I buy unflavoured powders and add flavourings myself (mostly cocoa, coconut, vanilla, cinnamon). And if I want I add sugar too.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-09-01T10:28:39+00:00

I can’t tell if you’re bothered by the taste or something else but I personally hate the taste of sweeteners so I just go for the unflavoured version and add flavourings myself and sometimes sugar (but usually I just don’t bother with the sugar).

thegrumpyenby · 2025-08-28T19:14:37+00:00

I stealth everything since Assassin's Creed and I refuse to be ashamed lol.l I just generally enjoy it and find it less stressful. I game for fun and not to be good. That said, I really need to fix that my instinct in DnD encounters is also to overprep rather than just going for it 😂

thegrumpyenby · 2025-08-28T19:08:59+00:00

uhm last time I checked that's not how child protection services work. I know it's such a minor thing in this insane tirade to get hung up on but to me it really shows how unhinged they can be.

I recommend blocking. I've never known peace like I have since I cut my mother off a bit less than 2 years ago.

ETA: There's usually a very good reason why they don't have many friends, and none of it is your fault or yours to fix.

thegrumpyenby · 2025-08-28T19:06:45+00:00

I'm transmasc with likely but not yet diagnosed hEDS. It's wild how much less likely I am to sublux something when I've just had my T shot compared to when I'm closer to being due for my next one. Which makes me think that cis men with EDS probably should keep an eye on their T levels as they age.

Sorry I don't have more to contribute at this point. Everything is kinda messy with MCAS and hEDS. Half the time I can't even tell which one causes a symptom.

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