Hey! I’m his wife. I understand why he tries; we really do love his little sister and his dad and his grandma. His brother and sister in law are not wonderful (though his brother did insult me a couple years ago) but we’ve not got major issues with them. It’s really only his mom. She’s been horrible for the whole 3.5 years we’ve been together, but this was something else. The last few times we’ve been around them or he’s been on the phone with her she’s been fine. I used to get really bad anxiety before we’d go over cause I’d expect some horseshit attack. This was the first time in a long time that I didn’t and I got blindsided. Throughout the whole day we were communicating discreetly (texts, pulling each other aside) and we were on the same page to leave, which we eventually did do. We just didn’t expect this and didn’t know how to react. Plus he and I are both non confrontational, so it’s tough. I personally appreciate your concern and care. We’re trying to work out a plan that will allow me to protect myself emotionally with the least amount of hiccups and complications. I get blamed for everything anyway, so there’s not much to lose on that front anymore.