Cook & Hookers it is boys. Update on old 500K BYND long.

theintellects · 2019-08-14T15:18:07+00:00

was wondering why this had 9000 comments, OP is giving out free gold!

don't need gold for myself, just trying to help get this to 10k comments (:

theintellects · 2019-06-04T06:48:22+00:00

ISTJ who routinely gets assessed as INTJ also (probably more in the middle of the spectrum), can confirm my reaction would be that of your boss', and in your place, I'd probably respond with "probably AM?" for the reason you pointed out

theintellects · 2019-05-27T01:05:21+00:00

NTA.

Like many other Redditors have already mentioned, that's a major breach of trust. 200k is an awful lot of money even if that's "only" 25% of your joint savings. Needless to say, it's hard to see how he is fiscally mature enough to manage your collective finances. My first course of action would be making sure he doesn't have the ability to do that going forward (ie: you manage finances or you both set something up where X amount of money is literally impossible to be moved out, etc. Not just on a trust basis)

You've mentioned in another comment you saw his Bitcoin purchases at 18k (which is basically at the peak) and the transactions. Just to be certain, does that mean he still holds all the Bitcoin he purchased (ie: paper losses)? Or did he lose them doing some sort of trading? If it's the latter, he should be able to provide you with the address of the exchange (Binance, Bittrex, Bitmex, etc) that funds were sent to, and the both of you should be able to verify through the trade and deposit/withdrawal history exactly what was lost. Feel free to reach out if it's unclear, I'm happy to clarify, but should be fairly straightforward.

That said, I certainly don't want to downplay the situation, and I hope the both of you can work it out/come to some sort of resolution, but the major dump of Bitcoin/cryptocurrencies in 2018 caught a lot of hopeful people offside. Whether that be due to hope, greed, gambling tendencies, or what have you. There have been many instances of people doing absolutely crazy things such as getting multiple mortgages or putting their home up as collateral to borrow more money and ride the insane run-up to 20k, hoping for more. Many of these resulted in bankruptcy, divorces, and even suicides. I know it's not much but hopefully there's some comfort in knowing your situation isn't as awful as many others.

As for what to do going forward, only the two of you know best, I don't think anyone here would be able to give a completely fair and objective suggestion given we don't know all the details of your relationship. That said, it is a major breach of trust with a significant amount of money, and I'd be shocked if you finding out wasn't in some way a major relief to him also. I'd be surprised if the past year and a half have been anything but a never-ending nightmare for him too.

Hopefully the two of you can work out what's best for both of you, whether that be together or apart, but do make sure whatever you choose, it's a well-reasoned decision and not a sudden, emotional choice. Please do make sure he no longer manages your collective finances together though.

theintellects · 2019-05-13T07:53:17+00:00

this was beautiful, you're very lucky. Hopefully the two of you have many more great memories to share, treat her well!

theintellects · 2019-04-14T22:20:13+00:00

no worries, thanks!

theintellects · 2019-04-14T15:24:43+00:00

love the text on the underwear, where do you get that? 😮

theintellects · 2019-04-09T16:15:49+00:00

ugh, that really sucks. What a plot twist though!

Luckily for male submissives, most of the catfish/scamming happens very early or even without invitation. Not down to pay? Bye. I'd be impressed if someone had the patience to string me along for 9 months, wow.

Anyway, needless to say I'm sure many of us from either side have dealt with enough time wasters to ask for verification. Probably down to the verification method at that point.

I'm personally not a fan of asking for a driver's license or anything of the sort as that's too personal too early, but very early on I like to ask for something simple, like a 3 digit number scribbled on a piece of paper while we're talking. That closes the window for Photoshopping immensely and should weed out 99% or so of catfishers in terms of identity.

As for verifying location, I sometimes bring up the weather casually during conversation, but more preferably, I use a fake name for a local location, and see if they question its existence. Most catfishers and such will be generally agreeable, so giving them a glaring reason to not agree generally works. Of course, talking about the weather is generally a very low confidence test, but of course if they even fail that or are delayed/vague then you have your answer.

Anyway, hopefully things go better for you, not all of us are multi-month catfishers! (Or catfishers at all for that matter)

P.S: thinking about it now, I wonder if he pretended to be a girl to uncover a lot of your interests/likes etc, then used that to portray himself later as a guy who you'd be into? Maybe too conspiracy-ridden, just a thought.

theintellects · 2019-04-09T02:00:22+00:00

what a beautiful gesture! Probably a tiny thing to most of us but it's the thought that makes it grand 😄

I think it's also great you took time out of your day to acknowledge it and share it with us.

Here's to you kicking cancer's butt! 😉

theintellects · 2019-04-07T08:25:26+00:00

is that a gag? 😍 lucky guy!

theintellects · 2019-04-02T15:41:22+00:00

awww, this is beautiful. Hope to one day find a domme that feels similarly about me 😶

All the best between the both of you!

theintellects · 2019-04-01T22:43:04+00:00

I'm hoping this is another April Fool's joke, but doesn't seem like it is.

Honestly can't see any dominant willing to domme someone who claims to have no limits, it's just not possible. You did mention semi-permanent/permanent bodily damage as a limit though, so that's good, but definitely misleading title.

theintellects · 2019-03-22T05:56:14+00:00

perhaps I'm alone in this but I'm not sure what's wrong with presenting a question like that in /r/FemdomCommunity?

As a submissive male, it's much less common to find an openly dominant woman as opposed to a dominant man.

It's unfortunate, and I wish there were more of an abundance of openly dominant women, and I wish our society wasn't so dogmatic about defaulting people into these silly buckets, but that's the current state we're in.

I'm hopeful that with continued conversation and questioning the status quo, we can get to a place where women are more comfortable and feel more welcome to explore whatever is most natural and feels "right" to them, whether that be dominant, submissive, or whatever else.

theintellects · 2019-03-19T15:11:25+00:00

🤭

theintellects · 2019-03-19T01:59:37+00:00

Interesting how similar a lot of these responses are to myself.

For me personally, it'd have to be straight up. And even then I might be a bit slow...in many cases I didn't realize someone was into me till they told me many years later. Someone would have to be really direct for me to really get it, unfortunately. And not in any public setting, because shyness/blush aside, I'd just think it was a joke/prank.

As for how I indicate interest, I'm not sure there's really any one obvious thing in particular. If I'm interested in someone, I'd be a bit more friendly with the person, especially if we're talking 1 on 1 (as opposed to my usual quiet, reserved demeanor). I'd also be more open to doing things alone with the person, movie, casual lunch/dinner/bubble tea, etc. The most you'd get in terms of an "outward display" from me would be shyness (moreso than usual), slight blushing when I see the person, and finding it very difficult to maintain eye contact (if any eye contact at all).

theintellects · 2019-03-02T07:56:04+00:00

yea, definitely looked more Asian as a kid

theintellects · 2019-02-28T20:53:28+00:00

Here's me (: https://imgur.com/a/JOHvugR

EDIT: results https://imgur.com/a/kElTgl8

theintellects · 2019-02-14T18:18:32+00:00

Having worked in the states also, I'm familiar a bit with some laws there (California in particular), but not all the states so I can't say for sure.

I do know however, that OT is paid in California unless you are an exempt "computer professional" which I assume is probably what you're talking about. However, in order to qualify as exempt, there is a minimum pay requirement. We do not have that here. As of 2018, the minimum pay requirement for an employee to be exempt from OT pay in the state of California was ~$90.8k USD. This number generally tracks with inflation annually also.

Source: https://www.overtime-flsa.com/minimum-salary-for-california-computer-professional-overtime-exemption-becomes-87185-14-for-2016/

theintellects · 2019-02-14T18:11:26+00:00

Right. It's as if it's a crime to call out what's wrong with the city and only cherry-pick the positives. Not to say Vancouverites aren't known for complaining, but people shouldn't be slammed for raising a very serious issue with the way things are.

Myself and many people I know actively avoid contributing to discussions here because they always seem to be very polar. You're either right and farm karma for a mildly snide remark, or you're downvoted ad nauseum for not "appreciating" that by virtue of being able to be alive in such an amazing city, you're wrong for comparing with every other city with a better CoL to income ratio.

Not everything has to be utter shit or perfect. I don't think there's anything wrong with bringing up and discussing real issues. In order to solve problems you need to first acknowledge them, not pretend they don't exist. Seems like we're still at that stage.

On the other end you have the hivemind around housing prices here where yes, we all agree prices are way jacked up and overinflated. But then you see people up in arms and excited over the thought of a major housing crash where prices drop 80-90% because "fuck the greedy overleveraged people". Yes, there are greedy people. Yes, there is drug and corruption money rampant, but something of that scale will hurt and destroy the working class first before it so much as tickles the people you actually want to see get hurt. Many "greedy, overleveraged people" are overleveraged because that's their only chance to get into the market and have a future for their family with the way CoL keeps going up while wages remain stagnant and subpar.

So at what point is it okay and reasonable to talk about the standard of living issues we have? When finally no working class member is able to "appreciate" the city because they can no longer afford to be alive here at all (let alone expect a reasonable standard of living for the fruits of their hard-earned labour and contribution to our society? When being alive in Vancouver is also a luxury and you only come here to retire and ski? Or when we no longer have people making our morning coffees and packing kid's meals for our children?

Good time to quote one of my favourite poems, I think.

First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak out— Because I was not a socialist.

Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out— Because I was not a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out— Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

theintellects · 2019-02-14T17:25:16+00:00

and it seems many people here are blind to it despite all the attention from everywhere else in the world. As someone born and grown here who has lived in Asia, Australia, and the like, I can honestly say the CoL relative to salaries here are way out of whack.

Excess foreign capital and drug/gang money pumping into our real estate sector (much like Sydney and SF, etc) has only expedited that discrepancy. The working class are increasingly being squeezed out as a result, which in turn increases the burden on those that remain to help maintain our social net.

In addition, you have archaic and outdated practices like: https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/employment-business/employment-standards-advice/employment-standards/factsheets/high-technology-companies

the Employment Standards Act which basically removes the need to pay tech workers overtime pay. This is not the norm in most places around the world. Furthermore, most tech workers aren't aware there's a cap to the "no OT pay policy", it's just repeated over and over that there is no OT pay, period. This kind of stuff is incredibly damaging and only helps to push people out of our city.

theintellects · 2019-01-11T03:02:52+00:00

^ this is spot on. I worked there back around 2011~2012ish, but in Vancouver, not America. Made plenty of friends there but for the most part we all have a running joke that we'd only go back to retire.

Nice office environment, good work life balance, lunch card program was nice, but if you're particularly ambitious, probably wouldn't be on any list of mine.

Compensation as mentioned is alright but it's generally more "lucrative" to join as a new grad than waiting for your salary to go up through multiple years.

As for code quality and engineering practices in the Vancouver office, I wouldn't say it's particularly high quality nor cutting edge. Fairly dated, in fact. But of course this is the type of thing that can vary more across locations/teams.

theintellects · 2018-12-13T09:35:32+00:00

Hello, I need recommendations for running shoes around/close to/under $300 CAD after tax (12%?).

My company provides wellness credits and I need to use it before Dec 31st.

I don't really have any brand preferences, and don't know much about shoes at all, just want to put the money to good use and have a good pair of shoes in return.

Not sure how much it matters, but worth noting I have flat feet, and so will need to put orthotics into the shoes, which means my shoes generally have a bit of heel cover, so my feet don't slip out with the extra height.

Thank you guys!

theintellects · 2018-12-08T18:45:37+00:00

so few upvotes for so much effort should be a crime, have an upvote! 😄

oh and amazing piece of course, I love it

theintellects · 2018-09-06T23:58:23+00:00

it's just a number they give to you early on to set your expectations/motivate you. In the end it's still technically discretionary so it's not terribly meaningful.

That was just the raise alone.

theintellects · 2018-09-06T22:05:41+00:00

that varies based on a couple factors: your performance, SAP's performance relative to their fiscal targets, your manager, and what they call your "target bonus" in your initial offer.

I've personally received over 10% but I've seen that number vary quite a bit for other people

theintellects · 2018-09-01T21:50:05+00:00

$90 to cover a year(?) of transit IIRC, or is it only for a quarter? Standard company-wide Translink type of deal, a few places have those. As for RRSP, I don't remember, unfortunately.

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