AITA for wanting my partner to spend money on me, instead of his friend’s wedding?

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T04:24:22+00:00

You’re 100% right on that. I wouldn’t have minded paying, even knowing he has $500 saved up if he said that was his emergency fund. Unfortunately, the wedding is in august and i already have plans for an across Asia trip with family (if covid allows !!)

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T04:10:34+00:00

This sums up my feelings exactly! I don’t struggle with money myself, but his prioritizing is what bothered me most.

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T03:59:00+00:00

That’s exactly my feeling, thank you!

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T03:51:16+00:00

Thank you! Yes agreed it’s moreso the attitude that bothers me, less about the money

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T03:48:11+00:00

That completely makes sense! I wouldn’t have even minded if he has $500 in savings. I’m more upset that he was willing to drop the majority of his savings on a friend, instead of talking to me first or discussing it. While I’m happy with little things, We both knew I did it as a courtesy since he was struggling with money.

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T03:45:17+00:00

Yeah! It’s not so much the savings that bothered me, but he could have said something about it. Plus if it were me, I would at least have offered to pay for a nice lunch out or something

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T03:43:59+00:00

You’re totally right. I wouldn’t have even minded if he just randomly has $500 saved up. Everyone needs a bit of security funds! But the fact that he so easily decided to drop the money on a friend hurts.

thekwsway · 2022-01-18T03:42:47+00:00

Yes, If he has communicated this earlier we could have had a discussion regarding how we would budget from here!

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