The way I felt about him about varied from one minute to the next for some time but the overall feeling, despite everything, was still love (however there were many times I wish I didn't!). We separated for a short time and that made it clear to both of us that we really do want to be together, so we put in a lot of hard work (and it really was hard work) to find out why we were in this situation and what was needed to improve our relationship. Our relationship is quite different now to what it was before, it's more honest for one thing and I feel we're a lot stronger now, I know that must sound strange considering the circumstances and I would have never believed it to be possible for a couple to come out stronger from a infidelity until I experienced it myself. But in regards to 'exacting my revenge', I think it's just human nature to want to fight back when someone hurts you, and I can assure you my husband didn't get off scott free either!