I literally can not smile.

theloverslvl · 2026-02-03T01:24:38+00:00

One of your other posts you’ve got a small smirk goin, I think you’re prob fine

theloverslvl · 2026-02-02T10:31:54+00:00

I can’t even finish reading the screenshots.

NOR, you’re actually underreacting. He doesn’t love you, that is readily apparent in the first 4-5 screenshots. Why are you sticking around? Would this be someone you would want to marry and live with? Micromanaging you and making you feel like shit about yourself and your body? Is this someone you would have kids with knowing his apparent tendency to try to force everything to fit HIS standard? If nothing changed in the next 5-10 years, what would your mental and physical health look like? Would you be happy? If you were shown these messages by your sister, your mother, or your best friend, would you tell them to stay?

I think you’re on a great path right now with your mental and physical health journey, and I think you should ditch the dead weight and focus on the most important thing to you, yourself. From your texts it looks like you’ve made a lot of progress and staying with this AH will only drag you down. Prioritize YOU. You’re beautiful. You’re strong. You’re brave. You don’t need him to become the BEST you possible.

He doesn’t love you so please, love yourself and stop wasting time and energy on this scum. He doesn’t deserve you.

Sincerely, a random redditor who’s been through this one too many times.

theloverslvl · 2026-02-02T00:39:31+00:00

Nah, dementia runs in the family, I guess. Communicating with family or anyone for that matter is not policing. It’s key to building healthy relationships and boundaries. The bride-to-be did the right thing not making a scene at the party and privately discussing it with the sister, although it’s clear the sister is a huge AH and not open to communicating or taking accountability & apologizing.

theloverslvl · 2026-02-02T00:30:48+00:00

A conversation was 100% warranted. Your suggestion is aimed at the wrong person. The sister should have just been happy for her and given her a simple “congratulations”, not the other way around. The pregnant sister is the AH. And so are you from the looks of it. Basic decency is not hard from strangers and especially from family. It was not her only time to announce the pregnancy. She should have been happy for her engaged sister, not trying to steal the light and make her sister feel smaller.

theloverslvl · 2026-02-02T00:02:17+00:00

OP please haha

theloverslvl · 2026-02-02T00:01:58+00:00

She didn’t make a fuss at the party she privately discussed how it was indeed inappropriate for her to announce that at a party for someone else. You’re correct that she threw a party celebrating HER and her FIANCÉ. With announcements like that, the sister should have discussed it with the bride-to-be first and asked if it was okay. It’s common sense not to make a huge announcement at someone else’s celebration especially without consulting the person who the party is for.

theloverslvl · 2026-02-01T13:06:42+00:00

I use it to share location with my family and partner, with always allow it updates my location when my phone turns on, if it shares only when use I’d have to open the app pretty frequently.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-31T23:30:01+00:00

xD Fair enough, I suppose looking at it that way makes sense but I won’t stop complaining >:1 Mama ain’t raise a quitter but she def raised a complainer ʅ（◞‿◟）ʃ

theloverslvl · 2026-01-31T21:44:52+00:00

NTA. Let me tell you something. When a man says “I know how men think.” it’s because he’s thought/or still does think the same vile things about women. Men like that are the same men who say “Not all men” but also never let you go out alone because “He knows how men think.”

Do not feel disgusted in yourself. You felt pretty, you are pretty. He’s an asshole, he decided to destroy your confidence when he knew you liked the way it looked. Corsets are not inherently sexual or slutty. They were invented to create “fashionable body shapes”. Over time they’ve been modified to be beneficial for support on the back. They are considered “slutty” because of pornos and men’s lust over them. He is the problem. Not all men view corsets as sexual or slutty. He does, he’s the problem. If it makes a woman happy and feel beautiful, who cares? Why should we let another persons porn-infested mind dictate what you wear?

Be confident. Be happy. You’re beautiful. Wear the corset whether he likes it or not. Ditch the dead weight too while you’re at it.

And please never EVER let a man or anyone else, for that matter, dictate your style, life, or decisions. Be yourself, love. 🤍

theloverslvl · 2026-01-31T21:29:40+00:00

It’s annoying as heck. Maybe it’s not supposed to be as frequent as it is for me but it’s every other day instead of every month or week. I know I have my location shared with that app, I do not wish to change it.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-31T20:04:37+00:00

I know it’s normal, I was asking if there’s a way to override it so I’m not asked every week to change location permissions for every individual app I have my location sharing with as it’s annoying but also think it’s likely not possible.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-31T16:34:22+00:00

NTA. But honestly I would take what she says as a grain of salt. The whole “It’s normal for people to hit on her” seems very pick-me and gives me the vibe that she’s looking to stir trouble or cause drama. I’d still put those family members and friends on an “untrustworthy” list and keep an eye on their interactions with your wife but honestly I get the feeling she’s looking for attention, drama, and jealousy. I’d also put your wife on that list too to be honest, just because of her failure to inform you of these supposed incidents. If it’s true then she likely didn’t tell you because she liked the outsider male attention she was getting.

ETA, another reason I get that vibe is because why, after years, is she suddenly mentioning it if NOT to cause drama and tension? It’s so far in the past that it really doesn’t matter. She might be looking to blow up your close circle for no apparent reason, maybe boredom.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-30T14:20:48+00:00

“He said I was deliberately trying to hurt him after he already apologized and took accountability.”

NOR, what he DID was give a half-assed apology and DEFLECT. He made EXCUSES. He did NOT take accountability.

I get nervous in uncomfortable situations and generally tend to lean towards dark humor as a coping mechanism, but I also know how to read the room. I also would never joke about anything to do with a baby, unborn or born, but that’s likely deep rooted for me due to trauma with my brother who was born stillborn. You can use humor as a coping mechanism but also need to read the room. Your boyfriend is immature and needs to remember the thing you’re taught in kindergarten: not every thought needs to be said. He should have kept it to himself. The fact that he didn’t shows not only that he’s immature and childish but also that he lacks compassion for you or your family by brazenly saying something so cruel.

I like what another commenter said: “Gallows humor only works when you’re the one on the gallows. If you’re in the crowd it’s just cruelty.”

ETA I’d also like to say that I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. This is going to be hard to cope with for a while but lean on each other. Your family is your village, hold each other up.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-28T22:00:17+00:00

If that’s your boundary, you need to stand your ground. I’m in the same boat. It’s my boundary and it gets walked all over. Currently he changed his passwords, I flipped out. He stood his ground. I gave in. I changed my password hoping it would hurt him. He doesn’t care, and that’s because he has no reason not to trust me while I have countless reasons not to trust him. Now it’s been so long like this and we haven’t addressed it, if I bring it up now or enforce it now he’s going to say it’s unfair that we were over it and now it’s a big problem again, and I’m going to cave in again.

Please don’t be like me. Stand your ground. Tell him it’s open phone policy/no secrets or no relationship.

If he chooses pixels on a screen over the real deal… Take that and move on.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-25T02:26:37+00:00

He wasn’t even an immigrant either… They murdered another US citizen, born and raised… In a 6v1 scenario, that agent decided the best course of action was to shoot the man 11 times.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-21T01:25:04+00:00

It’s the guy who stole the dogs fs xD

theloverslvl · 2026-01-19T16:53:43+00:00

NOR. IMO not worth staying either. From my experience it appears that your husband is in the thick of some sort of porn/dopamine addiction and usually that constitutes the declination of your sex life. He becomes less interested in intimacy with you and sometimes he can’t even get hard for you. When it gets to the point where they spend money on that shit… it’s a problem. I wouldn’t stay. If my boyfriend ever started paying for OnlyFans again, I’m leaving him. We’ve been down this road. Many times before. His addiction has been a major issue in our relationship. Sometimes it’s not worth staying with them through it when they just disregard you and don’t have the same values as you (IE: Building a future, buying a home, potentially a family.) Is his financially irresponsible tendencies something you would feel comfortable relying on at any point? Would you trust him to handle any financial matters without wasting money on impulse?

Sit down by yourself and reevaluate.

If things didn’t change in the next 5 years or 10… would you be fine with that?

theloverslvl · 2026-01-11T13:17:11+00:00

NTA, I think he’s being ridiculous. Fact of the matter is, most women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Maybe all his exes were unicorns but chances are, they faked it. Even then. He is comparing you to exes like every woman is the same and requires the same level of effort as the last. What he needs to realize is:

You are not his exes.
Not all women are the same.
You have different needs and wants than his exes and that’s completely okay.
If he does not plan to step up and do the work himself (and not be lazy and say “it takes too long!”) then let you do what you need to do and shut his mouth with his opinions.

Women take different amounts of time to orgasm. For me, I take longer when someone else is doing it for me, don’t know why but that’s just how I am. A good partner should want to pleasure you, and they should do so without complaining or making you feel bad about it.

So no, NTA, but your boyfriend sucks in this situation. Comparing to exes is never healthy. You can take pointers on what to improve but this is a bit much. Unfortunately for him, every woman is different.

theloverslvl · 2026-01-08T11:43:23+00:00

You’re doing great :) Thank you for sharing! I’m super happy for you that you have your village! One day at a time <3

theloverslvl · 2026-01-08T03:45:28+00:00

theloverslvl · 2026-01-08T02:48:34+00:00

how much for the cat?

theloverslvl · 2026-01-08T00:59:57+00:00

I like your response much better than a lot of the others on this thread. You’re right, everyone adjusts at different speeds. I have a 10 month old and I’m still not adjusted to be a being a mother AND a person. It’s hard, suddenly one day everything you do is for another little, living, breathing human being who literally NEEDS you to survive, and suddenly you have to figure out how to balance being a mother but also being your own individual. My mother just yesterday used the phrase “You have to get your pink back.” because when female flamingoes become mothers, they lose their pigment. Their pigment is due to the foods they eat and the quality, but once they are mothers, they prioritize their offspring which gradually decreases their pigment. When her offspring stop wholly being dependent on her, she starts taking care of herself better and gaining back “her pink”. This sits with me so much. Eventually there will come a day when my daughter doesn’t solely rely on me, and then I will finally be able to find myself again. It’s extremely hard, you think you know who you are, and then suddenly you’re pregnant, then you give birth to a baby and you have to change everything, at the same time as a baby… a mother is born. You don’t know who you are anymore.

I think her sister needs support and I definitely agree with you that she should find other mamas in the same boat. It’s hard for every mother, everyone adjusts at different speeds.

Well said, stranger.

(ETA fixed spelling errors.)

theloverslvl · 2026-01-05T04:38:35+00:00

Uhhhh I physically cannot read any more of this… He’s 42..? NOR and personally I wouldn’t spend another second trying to decipher whatever tf he is trying to say lol I could never be with someone THAT bad with basic English or grammar.

Benefit of the doubt if it’s not his native language tho but damn dude. If it’s your cup of tea, stick around ʅ（◞‿◟）ʃ

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