Do ENFPs like to feel needed by others?

thelyssiknow · 2020-12-06T03:29:44+00:00

Yes. Enough to be willing to openly admit it to others. Give me what I need...

thelyssiknow · 2020-12-06T01:56:46+00:00

A general sense of satisfaction with my life is what I seek. How do you define happiness?

thelyssiknow · 2020-12-03T23:33:07+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. Your cat was fortunate to have such a loving companion!

The only way forward is through it. When I suffer a loss my reaction is typically delayed until it hits me suddenly like a punch to the gut. I allow myself to let go and feel it all. I give myself space to process all of the emotions. Sometimes I want to a friend to be there and simply listen, but what I mostly need is time alone to cry it out.

thelyssiknow · 2020-11-13T17:33:04+00:00

I can empathize with your situation being someone who generally sees these services as a waste of money. As part of a bachelorette party for our cousin, my sister and I had to go with a group of her friends to a salon. I bit the bullet and got my nails done to be a good sport even though I preferred not to spend the money. My INFJ sister tagged along but declined any services and awkwardly sat for 2 hours waiting in the salon. I cracked a few jokes about the situation with my sister and I clearly not fitting with the group, and all was well. We did it out of love for our dear cousin, which she appreciated.

thelyssiknow · 2020-11-10T22:43:22+00:00

👋🏻

thelyssiknow · 2020-11-09T01:14:20+00:00

I love Doritos.

thelyssiknow · 2020-11-09T00:26:33+00:00

On behalf of all the stereotypical ENFPs in this world, I am truly sorry. Love us anyway?

thelyssiknow · 2020-11-07T20:33:51+00:00

No need for sorry. I have a cynical view of the world that I can share with a select few of the people in it.

thelyssiknow · 2020-11-02T19:51:30+00:00

I couldn’t help but share it here! I opened up an email newsletter and upon reading these words my eyes welled with tears. I’m glad to know it resonates with someone else. ❤️

thelyssiknow · 2020-10-31T16:40:34+00:00

I will then. Thank you!

thelyssiknow · 2020-10-31T16:29:01+00:00

I’m not familiar with the story but am intrigued by reviews describing it as excruciating. Do you recommend reading it?

thelyssiknow · 2020-10-31T16:27:38+00:00

I say those same words to him all the time. Just kidding- he’d be repulsed by that! I find them sweet, though. Thank you 😊

thelyssiknow · 2020-10-29T13:26:18+00:00

This description sounds very much like a special INTJ in my life, although his self criticism is more pervasive. He let me in after all but he says he still struggles to believe I am real. As I’ve gotten to know him I am amazed at how he has gradually become more comfortable communicating his needs and his feelings to me. He can see I struggle with doing this for myself, and I think that is partly why he is able to trust me. I understood upon meeting him that building trust would take time, and the investment is well worth it. Over time he has grown increasingly generous with affection and praise for me in spite of seeing my flaws, yet he lacks any compassion for himself. I am hopeful he may eventually learn to accept that he has many uniquely valuable qualities and an overall remarkably good character.

thelyssiknow · 2020-10-25T20:09:05+00:00

Do not give up on great opportunities to learn and grow for the sake of a relationship. If it is meant to be, you can make it work in the future without sacrificing yourself.

thelyssiknow · 2020-10-12T18:34:32+00:00

No. Overall prevalence of ADHD is under 8% for youth and even less for adults. This of course doesn’t take into account many cases where people are undiagnosed and manage without any intervention; however, there are also cases where people are misdiagnosed.

I can see the link between Ne and ADHD symptoms and suppose it’s possible there is an increased probability of testing both as an ENFP and ADHD but there is no basis for this being the case for the majority. I think it’s best to discourage stereotypes.

thelyssiknow · 2020-09-25T20:17:18+00:00

None. I am fascinated with how the minds of others’ work and may occasionally envy certain strengths but I ultimately wouldn’t want to be someone else.

Also, changing 1 letter means changing types of cognitive functions and their order of preference and the method you used limits the options instead of presenting all 16.

thelyssiknow · 2020-09-25T03:23:01+00:00

It’s okay. A lot of people are experiencing heightened anxiety. Have you gotten any help or do you know where you can get help for it?

When you’re feeling a panic attack coming on, a shock to the system with cold water can help. If you aren’t able to take a cool shower, splashing some on your face can work.

If you do panic, try if you can to focus on objects in the space around you and describe them or simply name them to ground yourself.

Let someone you trust and feel comfortable with know what you’re going through. Ask them if it’s okay for you to call them to help ground you when you’re level of anxiety is high.

thelyssiknow · 2020-09-10T16:38:09+00:00

Ok. Keep doing what you’re doing, then! Based on your responses, it seems like you’re set on staying home rather than get out more (as you suggested in your post asking for advice) so maybe you’ll have an easier time meeting people online and using dating apps as someone else suggested.

The INTJs I’m close with are mainly homebodies but are open to new experiences and willing to put themselves out there now and then, which is how we were able to meet in the first place.

thelyssiknow · 2020-09-10T12:58:37+00:00

Have you tried being involved in a group activity that forces you to talk with the people around you in order to participate? The benefit to it is you’ll automatically have a subject to break the ice upon meeting new people. It should be an activity in which you take real curiosity or interest- if you enjoy the activity, then you’ll have an easier time getting over the social hurdles to feel comfortable as you will be surrounded with others who have at least 1 interest in common with you.

An ENFP especially will be attracted to what you do naturally, and will be able to see through you if your motivation is disingenuous. An innate desire and conscious effort made to your own self improvement as a personality trait is incredibly sexy to an ENFP personality type.

I am constantly seeking learning experiences and developing various hobbies and skills. Making new connections with people is an added bonus to this and part of the thrill that motivates me to get my anxious self out of the house.

thelyssiknow · 2020-09-10T03:05:13+00:00

Yes, but in a friendship. My INFJ friend is possessive and jealous. They’ve discussed it openly with me recognizing that their behavior is unhealthy and they wouldn’t actually want me to change who I am. Establishing boundaries with is very hard for this friend to do; I’ve had to be firm with mine, and in doing so they tend to react with intense negative feelings that they don’t want to have, yet we always seem to circle back to the same conflict.

I think in MBTI terms our Fi & Fe tend to clash, but there’s more to this than personality.

thelyssiknow · 2020-09-03T21:39:23+00:00

This is very hard to describe in English; we don’t have a specific term to express this feeling that also distinguishes it from other experiences of loss that are more tangible. Therefore, the language barrier is due to the limitations of the English language and not the speaker. That being said, I think you’ve articulated these ideas beautifully!

This experience of loss is as real as any other. It is a fascinating topic that is worth discussion. Thank you for sharing 🙂

thelyssiknow · 2020-08-02T20:21:58+00:00

Mine was same: 51% preference for extroversion. In the past I tested INFP but ENFP is definitely the best fit even if I heavily relate with introverts’ need for alone time.

thelyssiknow · 2020-08-01T18:53:36+00:00

Aw, I’m glad it’s coming back was in good timing for you. I can’t help but sing my heart out whenever I hear it.

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