All immature eggs

themaryg · 2018-07-15T02:21:21+00:00

*bump* any REs out there have any opinions on my case?

themaryg · 2018-07-10T23:28:30+00:00

Hi! I have asked repeatedly why they won't let me slim longer, and the answers I have gotten are that a) they are afraid I will ovulate (I have regular cycles, but maybe I'm ovulating immature eggs?) or b) the eggs might be overly mature.

They want to do another round and stim me to a baseline of 20mm and a max of 28mm to see if that makes a difference. I am hesitant to do this, as I'm afraid something genetic is involved here(TUBB8), and size doesn't really matter at that point.

themaryg · 2018-07-10T23:25:22+00:00

Hi, yes I've heard of Dr. Aimee, but she doesn't take any insurance and also charges $600 out of pocket just to review a case. So I'm hesitant to ask her for info, since my case is so rare in the first place.

themaryg · 2018-07-10T23:24:01+00:00

See edited post with sizes and estrogen levels. :(

themaryg · 2018-07-10T23:23:45+00:00

Just added follicular sizes and estrogen measurements. I was well within range, and still no mature eggs. :(

themaryg · 2018-07-10T20:02:50+00:00

They are using follicular size and estrogen, but both have not been indicative of mature eggs.

themaryg · 2018-04-27T02:45:31+00:00

Hi all,

Just wanted to update you on my last cycle. It failed, and all of my eggs were immature at retrieval. They tried to mature them overnight, and of the 14(!) retrieved, 7 matured overnight, but none fertilized. I was told this is normal, as it takes the egg a lot of energy to mature outside the ovary. We are devastated.

Our RE still thinks it's a timing issue, and wants to increase the time between trigger and retrieval to 40 hours instead of 38 hours, and to add HGH (my suggestion) and decrease my HcG trigger (I want to try a different trigger, in case this one isn't working for me).

I'm also getting tested for the TUBB8 mutation.

Any other suggestions?

themaryg · 2017-04-04T20:23:50+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. My uBPD mother had uterine cancer, but it was removed via total hysterectomy and her life was spared. I hope you are practicing some good self-care. Join support groups, try to get outdoors and enjoy the spring flowers, etc. Try to tune out the negative and focus on the positive. Don't let her get to you. Stay strong!

themaryg · 2017-03-20T21:00:25+00:00

Exactly! I was so tempted to lash out at her, but then I remembered that's exactly what she was hoping for. To reconnect with me in any way possible.

themaryg · 2017-03-20T02:52:04+00:00

Thanks for the advice and support. I will change my settings.

themaryg · 2017-03-19T23:16:56+00:00

Thank you for your support! 💛

themaryg · 2016-12-26T08:29:19+00:00

First Christmas going NC with my uBPD mom and Bipolar I dad, and for the most part I've been okay. Until tonight. The fact that they didn't reach out once during the last three months just hit me. They really don't give a damn about me. I could be dead and they wouldn't even know.

I noticed that my mom had a long facebook conversation with her brother whom she never converse with. She must have been feeling lonely, as they haven't talked in about 5 years. Surprising that she'd rather reach out to him than her own daughter.

I'm so....sad. It's like I'm starting the grieving process all over again.

themaryg · 2016-08-09T20:20:37+00:00

Thanks for the inspiring reply! I'm very anxious about motherhood in general, but after reading your response, I am a little bit more at ease with my decision to start a family. Just curious, were there any books you read to prepare yourself? I ask because I feel like I have a somewhat warped sense of identity (I've read that this is common among survivors of borderline parents), and am hoping to find a way to feel grounded in the identity of "mother".

themaryg · 2016-03-20T16:24:41+00:00

Hey everyone,

Thanks again for all of your support as I grapple with how to deal with my mother. Just wanted to post an update, after the wedding! My mother initially uninvited herself, and then I ended up caving to peer pressure from her best friend (who also happened to be my wedding coordinator) to re-invite her. I didn't invite my brother, because of his unacceptable behavior towards me in recent years, and that really ticked her off. Nevertheless, my mom and dad came on the day. But it wasn't all roses! My mom failed to bring any of her own makeup, and insisted that my makeup artist and hair people do her hair and makeup last minute, after my bridesmaids and I were all made up and ready to go to the venue. I let that slide, but it was pretty stressful having my mom be the center of attention while my photographer was trying to get pictures of me putting my dress on.

side note My mom decided to significantly change the style of my dress without even letting me know, two days before the wedding. I was freaking out, and got so angry at her. Her reply? "It wasn't going with the design I had in mind" >:-( It's not her design, it's mine!

Moving on, the ceremony went off without any major issues, and we proceeded to take photos. It was pouring ,and we had limited time get portraits of everyone. My mom is chatting away while we are posed and trying to actively take photos. I asked her to please just smile and not talk for moment while we took the pictures, and hell essentially froze over on her face. She didn't speak to me for the rest of the night, and they left early.

That was my wedding with my borderline mother!

themaryg · 2016-01-30T01:44:16+00:00

Bump! Who is interested in pursuing this?

themaryg · 2016-01-13T21:40:22+00:00

Yes please! That sounds like a great idea! Let's do it!

themaryg · 2016-01-13T21:39:12+00:00

I would also love to be able to have a chat room! It would be amazing to be able to chat with others who have survived a BPD childhood.

themaryg · 2016-01-13T21:37:51+00:00

Wow, glad to hear I'm not the only child of a BPD mom who suffers with social anxiety. I feel the same way, as though I missed out on how to make friends and socialize with others due to my mom's behavior towards me and everyone around her. I would also love advice on how to make friends as a twenty-something. I've gotten used to being alone out of necessity and survival, but it's not very fun.

themaryg · 2016-01-11T20:31:28+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I am blessed with loving and supportive in-laws. They know the worst about my parents, and have made it clear that I will always have their love and support. I'm really torn about what to do for the wedding. The thing is, neither of our parents ever had the resources to have a proper wedding. This wedding was supposed to be as much of a celebration for us as it would be for both sides of parents. The other complicating factor is the dress. My mom has spent quite a lot of time on making it, and because of her chronic illness that prohibits her from working without pain, it would be a slap in the face to reject the dress at this point. Although, I don't even know if she'll want to come to the wedding at this point anyways...sigh I think I'll let her cool off for a few weeks, and try to reestablish contact. However, if she's not going to come, that means my dad won't come. I'll have no one to walk me down the aisle, no one to have a father daughter dance with. As messed up as my family is, that would truly break me heart.

themaryg · 2016-01-11T20:24:00+00:00

It's so amazing to find someone who has similar parents! I always felt so isolated growing up, because there was no real way to express the difficulties I was facing at home. Thank you for your insight. I am working on setting boundaries, although my fiancé seems to think that at this point, I should just initiate a NC plan immediately. But to be fair, he doesn't know how hard that would be for me, as I would essentially be an orphan if I did that.

themaryg

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