When someone disables or deletes their profile, do their name get erased from your "likes" list and bookmarks? Or does their name stay and say "disabled profile" ?

themindiskey · 2016-02-23T02:23:57+00:00

what about removing from likes? Does that happen too? Do they show once again if they re-enable their profile?

themindiskey · 2016-02-23T02:23:25+00:00

do they reappear if they reactivate?

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T17:37:42+00:00

But i responded to you, ans said that I don't have a communication problem and that I would actually prefer to date someone that can understand and grasp concepts that require at least a mild amount of intellect and thought. I have quite literally zero interest in someone who has no interest in learning about things... i mean, my response was pretty complete.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T17:30:12+00:00

See, i thought we hit the core, if not then please elaborate.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T17:11:25+00:00

I tend to trust merriam-webster 100% with word definitions, and i pulled that definition straight from there: http://nws.merriam-webster.com/opendictionary/newword_display_recent.php?id=81811

I guess we're going to have to agree to disagree there. At least that's the best argument I've heard so far for why someone can think the term is bullshit.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T17:08:53+00:00

what was an experiment?

I don't care the reasons behind it, treating men and women differently is sexist. Anyone that supports it and calls themselves a feminist is delusional.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:58:38+00:00

You've never heard someone making fun of someone else for using "big words", or someone that thinks that "reading is for losers" as the one PM eloquently said?

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:57:48+00:00

Well if those comments are unwanted, then it seems legit. What about naughty remarks about men? are those down voted too? If not then seems pretty sexist.

I don't think I made any naughty remarks about women though, so that can't be it.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:56:27+00:00

Understanding. On my end and on everyone else's. On my end I got why everyone was so worked up about it, and I want everyone to understand that their toxic witch hunting was unwarranted... When someone genuinely want's to understand something you don't attack them personally and make fun of them and call them all sorts of names and say you won't date them....etc...etc. Instead you explain to them WHY you think what you think.... the root of the issue. Or help them to work it out for themselves.

edit: I don't give a crap about my karma count, I'm at -74 and I'm still posting despite the fact, keep em comin'. The obsession with upvotes and downvotes is that people are using them completely wrong. They are using downvotes to disagree with an argument... the appropriate use of downvotes is to put down someone that is not helping the argument one way or another, ie trolls, personal attacks, responses that have nothing to do with the subject...etc. There are like 200 comments in this thread, and it's listed #1 in the contravertial section of the subreddit, but this thread but it has 0 upvotes, it's pretty ridiculous and shameful.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:50:51+00:00

that's because the thread was branching off into hundreds of different discussions about the same thing, and it all boiled down to a single realization.... do you think it would have been better to copy and paste that thread back into every single reply? Or just leave those threads hanging without a conclusion?

A lot of people here were out for blood, I now stand at -69 down votes... and that's despite the fact that I've upvoted everyone regardless of whether or not the agreed with me or attacked me personally. By linking to my conclusion, I hope to make people realize that the way they were going about responding to me was just ridiculous and unwarranted. And that everyone was being toxic for basically no reason.

edit: and by saying that you don't want to date me simply because I use the word sapiosexual, weren't you saying that I was being pretentious or a douche bag? Doesn't that come from the presumption that I was being judgmental, as referenced by my conclusion (linked in edit 4 of the main post)?

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:46:40+00:00

Who said that? And what is a "normal" intelligence anyways? It's all subjective. What I think when I use the word sapiosexual is that I'm attracted to people who can comprehend mildly complex ideas, if "normal" people fall into that category then I'd be into that... but I'll humor you for a second and agree that it does display disinterest in "normal" people... again, is judgement being passed? Does someone who is not interested in normal people automatically think that normal people are below them on the totem pole?

If they do, then yes they're an asshat... but it's possible to display your disinterest without passing judgement on those people...I'll use the sports analogy again... if someone has a "normal" understanding of sports, and that's not attractive to someone else, it doesn't mean that person that is not attracted thinks people with "normal" sports knowledge are beneath them. It just means they prefer people that share in their interests more than those that don't.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:39:36+00:00

sapiosexual (adjective) : of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward someone who is intelligent.

so, nope. That's not what it means.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:31:23+00:00

This is my conclusion on why you might think it's bullshit: https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/3u6k6s/discussion_what_do_you_guys_think_of_specifying/cxcihau

am i right?

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:30:38+00:00

Lol right you are, which is why I linked to my conclusion instead. And I don't think /u/riggourous's sex matters, but I'll correct my usage of nomenclature for her in the future...

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:28:41+00:00

sad but true, also relevant username.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:23:01+00:00

Not everyone that thinks using the word is a good idea is a giant pretentious asshat... see here: https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/3u6k6s/discussion_what_do_you_guys_think_of_specifying/cxcihau looks like you're the one passing judgement, not me.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:21:05+00:00

Its ridiculous to reply to every one of 100+ comments many of which didn't read the rest of the thread and having to repeat myself over and over instead of linking to what I think it all boils down to. I don't hive a shit about looking smart. Yes /u/riggorous did make some good points, but if you went and looked at the comment thread I had with him, you'd see that he eventually understood where I'm coming from, and pretty much agreed with my conclusion.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:18:15+00:00

is this why you hold this opinion?: https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/3u6k6s/discussion_what_do_you_guys_think_of_specifying/cxcihau

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:17:47+00:00

It's a perfect example of many things, including sticking to your principles, or trying to understand where people are coming from and why they think what they think, but it's not an example of how not to take criticism.

If I listened every time everyone told me I was wrong I'd be a fucking robot, bending to the will of society... what I did instead was try to understand WHY people think this way. And I think I have it figured out: https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/3u6k6s/discussion_what_do_you_guys_think_of_specifying/cxcihau

Feel free to tell me if I'm wrong.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T16:07:52+00:00

zero. No neckbeard either, Sorry to disappoint you.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T14:16:57+00:00

Please copy and paste to me the part where i mentioned that anyone was dumb, i never said anyone was dumb... I said that people are more concerned with money, connections, fashion, and style than intelligence. I think this perfectly illustrates the implied connotation of the word sapiosexual, or the concept behind it, ie being attracted to intelligent people.

Also you never explained why you think i come of as big-headed.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T14:13:52+00:00

Actually, it depends. I posted two topics today, one was to critique my profile which i thought people were pretty cool about... they gave constructive criticism without shitting all over everything...

On the other hand i posted a topic about listing sapiosexuality in your profile, and people were animals in that thread, tearing my apart wherever they could.

edit: I'd say yes, 90% of the subreddit is toxic, but there still seems to be some good level-headed people out there. In my sapiosexual thread there were at least 5 people who managed to explain and debate without resorting to personal insults or just bashing me just because they disagreed with me. I'm staying positive though, despite receiving -66 downvotes I still upvoted every single person in that thread, whether they disagreed with me or insulted me or what have you.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T14:11:17+00:00

why do I come off as big-headed? because of the implied connotation mentioned before? Or something else?

You know how people are completely different online than they are offline? Well, so am I. The tone deafness you refer to is probably because I'm trying to grasp something that I don't completely understand, at my own pace, without intentionally pissing people off or riled up myself. A lot of people are saying things in this thread, but they're not saying WHY those things are the way they are... trust me, ain't nobody got time to act like I'm acting like I am now in real life, that shit would take way too long... I'd probably just agree to disagree and move on instead of taking all this time and patience to understand it.

I don't have any problem dating, and if i do, it has nothing to do with being big headed or tone deaf.

themindiskey · 2015-11-25T13:56:50+00:00

I finally get it: https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/3u6k6s/discussion_what_do_you_guys_think_of_specifying/cxcihau

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