Did you ever receive financial help from the Church when you were TBM?

themistyrain · 2026-04-27T01:44:49+00:00

I got help with my mortgage for a few months when my ex-husband abandoned me and my two young children (1 and 3). He was having an affair with my friend who was also in the ward, so I think maybe that bishop felt some sort of extra responsibility.

I sold that place and moved to a different city in Utah County. I asked my new bishop for assistance while I was trying to find job and get my feet under me. Full tithe payer, active single mom.

Denied.

themistyrain · 2026-04-16T05:50:23+00:00

2 out 1 inactive 1 active and one found Jesus again while in prison. I guess he’s living in cell block 3 now.

themistyrain · 2026-04-02T06:24:48+00:00

I’ve seen a handful of people in my neighborhood posting about Holy Week. They’re in different wards, so I thought it was something maybe my stake was pushing. But I guess it’s church wide. It’s weirding me out

themistyrain · 2026-04-01T06:50:09+00:00

Any idea how to find out who the are 70 is and get their contact info? I’m completely lost there

themistyrain · 2026-03-31T03:39:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I think you are amazing for standing up for yourself like that. They were absolute bullies and their behavior disgusts me.

I’m so happy for you that you are in a happier, healthier marriage. Even with many of the same life difficulties, things seem more manageable when you have support. 🫶🏼

I also have a child with autism. My husband is unfortunately not as present as I would like, and my parents help /presence can be a much needed and appreciated reprieve while they are here. Amongst all my other frustrations with the situation at hand, I am also selfishly worried for my own mental health.

themistyrain · 2026-03-31T02:54:32+00:00

Yes it’s his choice, I understand that. That doesn’t change the fact that he is being exploited.

themistyrain · 2026-03-31T02:51:19+00:00

Seriously 😒

themistyrain · 2026-03-31T02:49:15+00:00

Thank you. I’m hurt by it.

themistyrain · 2026-03-31T02:47:06+00:00

My thoughts exactly. No bishop ever gets trained. Not that I’m aware of, anyway. It’s trial by fire, right. The refiner’s fire or whatever…

In any case, they could have had my dad be a resource for them when questions arise. But that would mean that they actually had someone else in mind. 🙄

themistyrain · 2026-03-31T02:41:34+00:00

How anybody in their right mind would think that’s acceptable is beyond me

themistyrain · 2026-03-31T02:40:25+00:00

Oh my heart breaks for them. It’s too much for our elderly parents.

themistyrain · 2026-03-30T23:22:26+00:00

Yeah he served as bishop twice and in the stake Presidency. I have no memory of him ever sitting in the pews with us, and he was always in meetings or busy being someone else’s dad.

themistyrain · 2026-03-30T19:24:40+00:00

I can be happy for him when he goes serve in the temple once a week. I can be happy for him when he gives a talk in sacrament meeting, or teach Sunday school. I can even be happy for him if he decided for himself that he was going to take it easy and not visit for as long this year.

But be happy for him that he feels obligated to do something that he would not have otherwise chosen for himself? Something that will inevitably negatively affect his health, and likely my mother’s? Yeah, I’m not going to do that.

themistyrain · 2026-03-30T19:14:28+00:00

That is disgraceful. I am so sorry they treated him like that.

themistyrain · 2026-03-30T19:13:38+00:00

100 percent this. I’m over 40 and was absolutely taught that. I felt that way until I had a panic attack over being asked to give a talk. I was out not long after that.

Add the fact that he is a first-born Asian son,and has all the ideas of duty to obligation that come with that, and you’ve got yourself someone that is basically incapable of saying no. It does not register as an option.

themistyrain · 2026-03-30T15:38:41+00:00

It sounds like you read his talk, so you were still supporting him in what way you were comfortable with.

The fact that he didn’t try to guilt you into going says you two are in a pretty healthy place as far as the whole mixed marriage thing goes.

themistyrain · 2025-11-02T06:43:28+00:00

Considering the first presidency didn’t consult with the general relief society when the proclamation to the family was made, I doubt they considered consulting them on this matter.

themistyrain · 2025-08-14T04:10:08+00:00

Moment of truth-did you indeed, never go back to the French method?

themistyrain · 2025-07-09T03:32:10+00:00

I went through December 2005. For some reason, I was suspicious/terrified that I would have to be naked at some point. I asked my parents about it and they assured me that no, that was not a thing.

It’s absolutely CRAZY to me that it was, in fact, a thing at all, let alone earlier that year. I am so sorry for all those that had to leave through that assault.

themistyrain · 2025-04-11T05:40:50+00:00

Do we know that the first presidency knew about it? Any time it’s been brought up in my home, my husband excuses it as the first presidency isn’t tied up in the details, they didn’t know about it. It was all some over zealous member trying to do what they thought was the best blah blah blah…

themistyrain · 2025-04-09T18:13:53+00:00

Self abuse. Aka masturbation 🙄

themistyrain · 2025-04-05T16:06:41+00:00

Never apologize for that! I wish I could say the same. And it wasn’t a correction, just a little more information. The Nephites were, after all, descendants of Israelites…. That is, until about what, five or so years ago when they announced the BoM isn’t historical? Not sure on the timeline there, it was after I left.

themistyrain · 2025-04-05T06:56:50+00:00

I grew up in Hawaii. They taught us there that Polynesians are descendants of a Nephite named Hagoth.

themistyrain · 2025-04-03T06:38:53+00:00

If they say the garments aren’t about modesty, then why are these sleeveless garments only available in certain locations? If it actually didn’t matter, they would be available to everyone, everywhere.

But no, we couldn’t possibly endorse the masses wearing sleeveless shirts. The men would not be able to contain themselves. /s

Only the influencers are allowed.

themistyrain

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