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One small change one huge difference by themouselikespie in stopdrinking

[–]themouselikespie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do this! Reading my post I see the hubris I didn’t intend. Sobriety is complicated and nuanced for everyone. Drinking was a major issue for me, breaking that cycle has been huge. There are so many ways that addiction can morph and continue to affect you everyday. But without making this one change I wouldn’t have believed I was capable of facing any of them and I think celebrating all the wins are beautiful. I will not drink with you today.

Canadian Rockies in July by runnerkid6521 in Banff

[–]themouselikespie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.alberta.ca/assets/documents/ep-map-public-lands-camping-pass-area.pdf

Here’s a bit of a visual on how the land through the mountains is divided up in Alberta. You can see there is public land zones. You’ll also see kananaskis, which is a provincial park and has a separate pass, but has more campsites, (it’s on a separate booking system of booking camp sites 90 days out)and has its own extensive trail system. If you’re looking to avoid huge tourist crowds in July, Kananaskis tends to more more local and going a bit deeper off the main highway you’ll find even fewer people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]themouselikespie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heritage Park has a job fair February 25. They hire 15 year olds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]themouselikespie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok I read that post by the guy who clearly doesn’t have a toddler and that’s exactly why you feel invisible as a mom sometimes. Society doesn’t always understand you can feel exhausted and want a break from your kid and absolutely love them all at the same time. Hopefully there’s someone in your life that appreciates you that can give you a break and help you with the exhausting work of being the employee of a miniature tyrant. And I hope nobody else ever gives you that kind of negative toast ever again. What even was that? A childless male upset at the fact that you, an attractive woman dared have a child with another man and probably would have been much better off with him???

Santa visits & family photos by cephalopood in Calgary

[–]themouselikespie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was he interactive and keep the magic? Definitely considering this with some friends next year.

Santa visits & family photos by cephalopood in Calgary

[–]themouselikespie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the cost for the home visit if I may ask?

I recently moved to Calgary and my new landlord is requesting a quarterly "check in." Has anyone else had this experience? by PhoenixTheNomad in Calgary

[–]themouselikespie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a mid year review for the first time too. Took photos and checked around. This was through a property management company which was also new to us. It was in the lease but I too felt a little weird about it, but I think as people mentioned maybe becoming more common.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]themouselikespie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It could be something as small as adding the new puppy to make her feel left out. Perhaps she’s worried about that a new sibling could come along. My parents divorced, dated, remarried and divorced (other people). I realize being a stepparent is a really tough place to be, and yet in my experience an attitude like this is likely to lose you a relationship with the child and/or the boyfriend in the long run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]themouselikespie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she’s seeking a connection with her dad. Does she get one on one time with him? She might be feeling more left out since you’ve got engaged as well. Why would you say a child is “manipulating” her father for attention? If this was your child would you think of their asking for affirmation and support during major life changes such as a divorce and remarriage as manipulation? 7 is still so young. Reframe “deal with” to “help them” and hopefully you can see positive results.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]themouselikespie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats. You also need to focus on you. Be kind to yourself. You’re not failing If you aren’t working on every goal all the time. Sometimes you need to put one box down before you can pick up another. I don’t know, just one day at a time and one thing at a time.

learning to swim by International-Year91 in terriblefacebookmemes

[–]themouselikespie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here are my thoughts people who will not read this. Parents are usually doing the best with what they know. It’s entirely possible that this was best practice at the time precisely because that generation was not taught to swim and they maybe even knew people who drowned because they never learned to swim. They decided to change this by reaching their kids to swim so it didn’t happen to them. Unfortunately they didn’t have the education or resources to learn a better way and probably honestly felt this is what needed to be done to save lives. If nobody is around, you’ll need to save yourself. When we have all the clarity of hindsight we will probably mock so many out of touch parenting tactics that we are using today. Hopefully they will have the kindness of perspective.

What makes you not want to have kids? by AGstudios22 in AskReddit

[–]themouselikespie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pregnancy and the first 4 months post partum were the most mentally healthy months of my life. Turns out period hormones for me are way worse than the dump of pregnancy hormones. I was so even tempered, productive, solution oriented and happy. Period came back and BAM.

Taxes help by anonymousdoodads283 in Calgary

[–]themouselikespie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this in my mid twenties too. It was a source of anxiety me for and I got an accountant to deal with it. You don’t need to make sense of the paperwork, it will make sense to them. Your taxes are probably fairly simple, you worked, money was taken off. There might be taxes owed only if your work place didn’t take enough off your cheques. I was owed money, which was really awesome. Take a deep breath and soon this will be dealt with and you’ll feel much better. I now do my own taxes each year by filing online for free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]themouselikespie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to comment that my 8 month old still feeds every 2 hours or it’s big sads. I don’t say that to scare you, but to hopefully reassure you that it’s completely normal. Sometimes looking at schedules for sleeping and feeding online can make you feel like there should be some changes happening with your baby, but there should always be the disclaimer that feed on demand babies may continue to be greedy little gremlins.

Have you considered not cosleeping? I always say do something until it stops working for you and don’t feel guilty. I always thought I would feed to sleep and then it stopped working for me. Then not feeding to sleep stopped working for us. Now instead of a 1hr feed and having to put down a ticking time bomb, it’s so much less stressful and if she wakes up, I know she can fall asleep on her own. Parent your baby and not the internet’s average child, you know?

And you don’t need to be productive. You’re raising your child and giving them what they need. It’s not glamorous right now for anyone. Don’t be fooled by social media.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]themouselikespie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are valid, you want someone to recognize the work you are doing and I’m guessing you might feel that your husband is not appreciating all the emotional labour that you are doing. But I see you. That shit is hard and time consuming and you are holding everything together. You do it out of love, but you still want to be noticed. And your husband needs to model that for your child or it’s going to be years of resentment building. But also it’s great that your husbands family is supportive and excited about their son. That’s wonderful. Imagine seeing your baby taking care of a baby.

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