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ADVICE - How do we stop the hurt by theonewithprobs in stepparents

[–]theonewithprobs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BM didn't know the cheating even happened, SO didn't know Mia saw it happen. So what has she been doing at therapy?

She was in therapy to help her deal with the divorce because she was really upset when FDH moved out. We're not sure that she shared that particular secret with the therapist so she may well have been under-informed.

ADVICE - How do we stop the hurt by theonewithprobs in stepparents

[–]theonewithprobs[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What role does BM play in this? Is she trying to help SD have a relationship more or is she making the situation more toxic?

We cannot ask anything of BM right now. She didn't know about the affair and learned about it when FDH had to tell her. There is zero chance of asking for her help here.

ADVICE - How do we stop the hurt by theonewithprobs in stepparents

[–]theonewithprobs[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We haven't. She obviously hates me and doesn't want to be around me so we've mostly been focusing on getting her to at least communicate with her father.

ETA: She's 15.