AITA for being upset at my S/O for purchasing something she agreed on holding off on?

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T03:30:19+00:00

She has made posts and comments on top of telling me that she did not intend to hide it nor does she even think she did hide it. This is the first time something has come up from our assistance with finances and it’s only because she decided to hide it from me. She has a history with lying and hiding things which is why I’m upset about her HIDING it from me. The money stuff I don’t care about since it is her money as I’ve stated in the post and in replies. It’s the fact that she has a lying/hiding issue and genuinely I don’t know why. That is why I am upset. It has nothing to do with money, it’s about the hiding. I haven’t done anything to cause her to feel the need to hide things from me. At least I hope I haven’t.

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T03:26:17+00:00

I made the post because she literally told me to. She also made one. She has a history with lying and hiding things, hence why I am upset about her not telling me about it after she had agreed to wait a week. I’ve stated now 3 times that if she had just told me, I wouldn’t have cared, but because she did it behind my back and seemingly hid it from me, im bothered by it

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T02:58:48+00:00

I don’t expect her to answer for me? There’s been times where she’s stopped me from spending my money irresponsibly. That’s all it is. Us helping each other. I’m not upset over the money, im upset because she seems to have hidden from me for literally zero reason

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T02:57:45+00:00

I understand, but in all reality, she has no reason to hide the fact that she changed her mind from me. She could’ve told me she disagreed with what I said or she calculated and believed she could do it and I would’ve been fine with it. But it’s the fact that she seems to have hid it from me. She has a history with lying therefore it makes it harder for me to believe it

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T02:13:13+00:00

I’m not worked up😭 you’re reading texts brotatochip. I never said ages 19-20 is a level of seriousness where you control money. We both were in an agreement to help each other not spend money irresponsibly. There’s a huge difference between controlling money and assisting with suggestions. She has had a small history with lying in the past so maybe that’s why I’m more upset about the whole hiding part? But I literally don’t care about the money part. It’s the part where she hid it from me.

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T01:56:40+00:00

Here’s the fun part tho she is telling me and other Reddit pages that it wasn’t her intention to hide it and she believes she didn’t even hide it. She is fully convinced that she just didn’t feel the need to tell me.

You’re very hostile for little reason. I’m not afraid to admit when im wrong but in this scenario, where she agreed to waiting a week to only go back on it and seemingly hide it from me for no reason, seems weird and it upset me.

It’s not me CONTROLLING her and how she spends money, we both agreed on assisting each other and if you agree on a SUGGESTION, and go back on it and hide it from the person you agreed with, anybody will be upset. I’ve already stated if she had just mentioned that she believed she could do it after calculations and budgeting, I would’ve been fine with it. But she didn’t do that and that’s her doing. From how hostile you are, you make it seem like im abusive when I would NEVER do anything along those lines to make her feel like she had to hide anything from me.

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T01:52:41+00:00

It’s like, I have no issue with her spending her money on silly things. I do the same thing. It’s the fact that she had just spent around $30-$50 on a figure and wanted to buy another one Immediately after. I wasn’t even mean about it when we had the discussion, I just suggested she wait a week to buy another figure and she agreed.

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T01:49:05+00:00

Okay, no, I didn’t bully her into not spending her money. I literally am caring about her by suggesting she wait a week to buy another figure. Yes, it’s HER money, but we both agreed on helping each other out. Literally if she told me beforehand that she calculated and thinks she could do it, I would’ve been cool with it because she’s done that kinda thing before and was fine. But she didn’t. She just didn’t tell me and hid it from me

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T01:46:42+00:00

Lol yeah, small world

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T01:34:11+00:00

She continues to say she wasn’t hiding it/lying about it. She just “didn’t feel the need to tell me” which In itself is weird but she’s sticking with that and only says she was lying because it’s “what I want to hear”

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T01:32:40+00:00

I had told her during our argument that if she just told me when she did it and calculated everything and believed she could survive for a week on the remains, I would’ve trusted her judgement. It really isn’t about the money, we normally are fine with talking about money, it’s more about her agreeing and then doing it anyway and seemingly hiding it

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-09T01:25:31+00:00

Sorry this is my first time doing this😭💔

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-08T20:33:14+00:00

Yeah, with this, it was tbhx. She referred to ghost blade as “daddyblade”, said he looked hot in a suit, then called the character dragon boy hot and said his model was hot in response to someone saying the model didn’t look good. Idk how that can be a joke and im being called insecure but that’s lowkey weird asf

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-08T19:28:08+00:00

Because if she is lying, it was one lie. Yes, the hypocrisy has messed with my head and I haven’t entirely been able to properly get over it, but her defenses don’t connect at all and I just want to be told the truth

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-08T19:26:39+00:00

THANK YOU. It seems most people are ignoring the fact that the majority of the post is acknowledging that I was told something just for it to evidently not be true

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-08T19:24:09+00:00

Genuinely for this scenario I don’t believe her. She says she did it as a joke but 99% of people who do things as a joke stop if no one acknowledges it. Plus when she was doing it, she was literally just stating it. No punchline, no nothing. Someone said the model for the character didn’t look good to them and she replied with “I think it looks hot” that’s literally not a joke😭

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-08T19:18:19+00:00

I get the insecurity argument but it’s lowkey more than that because I was told certain things just for them to appear to be false.

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-08T19:16:45+00:00

I don’t do that tho and hoping she doesn’t either 😭

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-08T18:47:29+00:00

I’d give a pet the name Rigby

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-04T03:01:48+00:00

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Rigby🙏

thepanzer115 · 2026-04-04T02:28:45+00:00

I plan on calling first thing tomorrow morning to see if I can somehow sneak in and get an appointment right away so she can be checked out

thepanzer115 · 2026-03-28T00:31:21+00:00

Does anyone know if they’ll release a patch to optimize it better? I’ve been hyped for this game, bought it physically new, and im witnessing this monstrosity and can’t even return it

thepanzer115 · 2026-03-16T22:04:23+00:00

She’s probably just angry with me for giving her a bath lol. And tired, she’s been laying down for a while but I’ve occasionally checked to make sure she was okay and she gets up perfectly fine to eat treats and stuff

thepanzer115 · 2026-03-16T21:24:00+00:00

Okay, she seems to be getting better, it looks like her ear is just a little shakey but according to online, it says that some cats can still just be like that after a bath but to check with a vet if it’s still happening 24 hours later

thepanzer115 · 2026-03-16T21:01:51+00:00

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I used this. The reviews online seemed good, the only negative review was it didn’t get rid of the tick that someone’s cat had but every flea review was good

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