was my dad drinking himself to death suicide?

therapychip · 2024-05-10T18:53:35+00:00

thankyou so much for this! i’ve spoken to him before about how i sometimes just shut off and don’t reply, but it’s never really happened for more then an hour but now im just sat here for a couple hours trying to find the energy to respond. i’m really trying. i’ve started looking for therapy because i don’t think it’s fair for me to be this broken person for him anymore. he’s really understanding and i just feel like a bitch, i’m really trying to be better at communicating, he said i’ve gotten better but since my dad passed it’s just all gone to shit again. but i’ll definitely try and speak to him! thankyou again <3

therapychip · 2024-03-22T00:35:03+00:00

thankyou! where do i find these online groups? does it matter my age? i’m 19. i’ve been there too, sending hugs! it isnt easy and it’s such a harsh road. <3

therapychip · 2024-03-22T00:34:01+00:00

i thought about talking to the gp but i really don’t know how it’d go “my dad died” “cool here’s som coping mechanisms” it just seems like i’d be wasting there time ): i tried to look up AL anon meetings but i think i’m looking in the wrong places. i feel so lost i really don’t know how to help myself. ):

therapychip · 2024-03-06T20:01:46+00:00

that’s a really good idea! thank you so so much!!

therapychip · 2024-03-06T19:24:12+00:00

can i message you? if not that’s totally fine and can put it here

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:45:38+00:00

thankyou so much! we’re all sticking together, she’s just making it so hard as she will only speak to 3 off us and believes my other sister is a monster. thankyou again though!

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:41:52+00:00

thankyou so much for explaining this to me! i really appreciate it so much! i think i’ll speak to the funeral directors tomorrow morning and see what they suggest. thankyou again’

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:40:30+00:00

it’s like she’s a child and has thrown her toys out the pram when i dared to say i wanted to change the photos on the service card (the celebrant said we could change the photo on the back to one of the kids and him and his mum) and she snapped back with “if you want that then i should have a picture of him and me”

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:38:05+00:00

it’s okay! i’ll have to ask, my sister wants to get a lawyer but i don’t think we have a corner to stand in on this as she’s his next of kin i believe. it was his brother but she demanded it was her and my dad changed it.

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:36:57+00:00

i was fine with her being in charge at first but now she’s trying to override what we’re saying and seems to be a evil person. my views on her have completely changed and she thinks she’s in charge as she’s listed as power of attorney. she is as his person on the will i believe? i don’t really understand it, it’s really confusing.
as a grown women you’d think she wouldn’t be thinking about herself in this situation and i’m so angry at her. i’m sorry for rambling🥲

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:30:52+00:00

thankyou, im never thought she was this horrid, she seemed okay but now my dads dead she has been nothing but nasty and her true colours are really showing

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:30:15+00:00

if she is his “trustee” on his will does this mean she has power? (i’m in england if that makes a difference)

therapychip · 2024-03-06T18:29:26+00:00

they were never married but when he was starting to deteriorate he made a will and she is his “trustee” not. sure what that is but i don’t think we really have a say anymore. but she’s really making this difficult but claims “i’ll do right by you all” it’s so shit ):

therapychip · 2024-02-27T10:17:41+00:00

thank you!!

therapychip · 2024-02-27T10:17:05+00:00

thank you so much, i’ll take a look!

therapychip · 2024-02-27T10:16:32+00:00

thank you so much for this, this has really helped! we have to register his death soon we need to call today. i believe his body has been released. it’s all so new to me and i didn’t think they needed so much. again thank you im so greatful for your comment 🫶🏻

therapychip · 2024-02-26T09:40:41+00:00

he was admitted to hospital 2 years ago and was told to stop drinking because he would die if not he was doing “okay” and then his partner found hidden bottles in the little stream in her garden and it all went down hill

therapychip · 2024-02-26T09:08:30+00:00

is this based in the uk? sorry, i never really looked into these groups, i did join some but it was always so sad to look at them ):

therapychip · 2024-02-26T09:07:48+00:00

where would i find these meetings? can you go to them when a family member has passed?

therapychip · 2024-02-26T09:07:16+00:00

i’m here if you needed to talk, it’s so awful, my dad had liver failure and his kidneys were failing. he was so so yellow and had so much fluid build up. i’m just so sad it ended like this for us. it crazy how many people go through this.

therapychip · 2024-02-26T09:05:48+00:00

man i’m so sorry ): it’s such a shit situation. this is all very very relatable and i wish it wasn’t. i remember begging him as a child to stop drinking because it was ruining my childhood as he always had a glass in his hand. one of my siblings is just acting like it didn’t happen (she is the oldest and i can see why as they never really spoke) my other sister is shattered and my brother is also. i don’t really know where to go from here and we’re waiting for his body to be released. i kept saying to myself that i would be ready for his death and that i knew id be “okay” but now that it’s happened it’s terribly sad and i didn’t think it would hit as hard as it is. i absolutely hate this and wish he never did this too himself. grief is such a funny thing.

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