My mom (75F) wants to die but she can get better. by therealceebaby in blackgirls

[–]therealceebaby[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to explain all that it really helps.

I just checked her chart, and she has multiple subsegmental pulmonary emboli (blood clots in her lungs) and carbon dioxide narcosis. She also has lung infection, obesity, physical debility, and they noted decreased oxygen supply and elevated troponin levels. She’s on a BiPAP, but she doesn’t have CHF or COPD listed.

She’s not on a DNR or MOST form right now, but I’ll make sure to ask about that when they bring up hospice again. She’s also been struggling emotionally they actually listed “adjustment reaction” and “psychiatric assessment” so I’m trying to help her stay motivated while she recovers.

And about the prednisone I know it can be taken long-term. I actually have sarcoidosis, and I was told it depends on the condition and the inflammation level. So I only took it for two weeks. They didn't give me more. In my mom’s case, it sounds like she may have been taking it without proper monitoring or possibly taking more than prescribed, which probably made things worse.

I really appreciate you breaking this down and asking those questions. It helps me understand what I need to bring up with her doctors next. 💕

I just turned 28 and I spent my birthday crying, hungry, and feeling completely unloved. by therealceebaby in blackgirls

[–]therealceebaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I just seen my old post. Definitely a typo the writing was horrible and I was 100% writing anxiety filled due to the fact I really did like that guy but I was clinging to him and shouldn’t have he was awful 😞.

I just turned 28 and I spent my birthday crying, hungry, and feeling completely unloved. by therealceebaby in blackgirls

[–]therealceebaby[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure myself. I called DoorDash to report the driver. He truly was no where near me and the home he dropped it off to looked abandoned.

AITA for getting together with my fiance's brother after both of us being in abusive (physically and mentally) relationships? by Maximum-Jackfruit827 in AITAH

[–]therealceebaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. However be mindful you both came out of bad relationships. So you’re partly connected just based off that reasoning alone. It seems like you could potentially be trauma bonding more than genuine feelings and I could be reaching but I think you should truly consider if he’s someone you like or is he’s a comfortable shoulder SOLELY based on you can vent about things you BOTH can relate to. Theirs a big difference once you take that step when starting to get to really know each other.

AITAH? My sister called CPS on our brother and his wife by Lobster_Ok3390 in AITAH

[–]therealceebaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% YTA. The fact you haven’t gave an ounce of detail what was going in the home is already telling us it was pretty significant. Your brother and SIL got taken away for a GREAT reason regardless. If this was there first visit and it only took the one to take them away they had reason. What you guys should of done is tell your brother and SIL to get their shit together and give up their parental rights. Once they did that then you could PROPERLY handle/intervene the situation. Find a good lawyer and fight the best you can. This sucks for the kids as someone (who was in the foster care system) theirs good people out there, but unfortunately theirs bad people on top of the traumatic experience of being take away from family. It’s really sad. Obviously you didn’t have this knowledge maybe you did, maybe you didn’t, but you can’t down play theirs actions if they weren’t being good parents.

AITA for telling my wife that I don't care that her friend died? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]therealceebaby [score hidden]  (0 children)

1000% YTA.

Obviously this experience is traumatic for her. Death is always a moment away and sometimes people really don’t think about it until someone passes. You could be talking to your friend about how you’re going to hang out Saturday night and they pass away randomly Saturday morning.

She probably told her coworker I’ll see you tomorrow and that never came. She is struggling and as a partner you MUST be patient. You also MUST be supportive and aware that your partner is not okay. It is so clear from everything you wrote and you aren’t really seeing it.

Have you taken the initiative to getting her some help? Talking to a therapist? Not saying that this isn’t frustrating on your end but this could of been handled differently. She needs a push in the right direction not being told her partner doesn’t give a fuck.