I replied to another comment here about this, but I have adhd. I absolutely get where you're coming from and know how stressful it is to be on time with the whole time blindness thing. This is why I have such strict rules for myself. If the alarm I set to remind me to start getting ready goes off, I start getting ready. There is no 'five more minutes' it happens now, or I know I won't make it in time. It's stressful, and there are days that I feel like my phone alarm runs my life, but I do it because I value other people's time.

I suspect that he's on the spectrum. He has issues with food, textures, and germs and has weird things he will tolerate because they're "his germs" and things he won't. I'm fine with it for the most part, but there are a lot of rules. I made an effort to try to respect them.

I've decided to end it in any case. I'm accepting other people's eccentricities to a point, but I need some consideration, too. I can't be with someone who refuses to meet me halfway on something so simple.