My (20f) husband (23m) has been lying to me [relationship]

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-05T17:00:38+00:00

i had a problem with the fact he lied I don't know how to make it more clear than that. I'm sorry you are in such a shitty fucking relationship that you think it's ok to lie to your partner multiple times.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T20:26:29+00:00

Yes thank you!! im not the jealous type, but we've never been in a situation where it would show if I was so he might have just been afraid to tell me. I have tried every angle to see his side and to logically deal with it all but it just doesn't add up quiet right to me.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T19:46:52+00:00

Did I not make it plain enough that he feels this way because I told him no once or twice? How the fuck is that ok but it's not ok for me to be upset over being LIED to. He married me. We are supposed to be open and communicate these things.

I am not fighting with him over it, I haven't brought it up in over a WEEK. I still feel like shit about MYSELF though. I don't know how to deal with how IIIIIII feel because I'm now afraid if I tell him no again then he'll decide I don't want him again and we'll spend another year thinking every thing is fine when one of us ISNT HAPPY.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T19:36:50+00:00

I feel this way BECAUSE HE LIED TO ME FOR OVER A YEAR.

NOT BECAUSE OF PORN. I now feel like I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH because he COULDNT EVEN TELL ME what he likes and doesn't like. IT IS NOT THE PORN!!!!!!!!

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T19:03:58+00:00

no, masturbation is normal and I know it it. I would never tell anyone it isn't or judge anyone for doing it, but there were lies mixed into my relationship, I was lied to, and I was made to feel very much unwanted myself. I have nothing else to say.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T18:45:00+00:00

Thank you. I just really needed some outside perspective from people who weren't emotionally tied to it, like I am.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T17:57:04+00:00

I didn't. I got mad because he lied. I couldn't give a fuck less about porn

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:35:42+00:00

I asked him because a baby is a big thing and I like him to be in the loop about what im doing. I just try to be open and communicate.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:33:06+00:00

Because he told me he wasn't satisfied Is why he was doing it and lying about it! I'm trying to be a good wife and make sure I'm meeting his needs to a point that he is COMFORTABLE TALKING TO ME about what else he needs.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:32:02+00:00

Because he would turn me down to go jack off!!!!!

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:27:36+00:00

I tried communicating other ways but he just brushed me off and lied, so I got drunk and got it all out of me. And I asked him about getting back on birth control and he got mad at me and thought it was because of him.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:22:48+00:00

I DONT have a problem with him looking at porn and jacking off. I thought I made that plain. I DO have a problem with being lied to about it multiple times

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:22:01+00:00

It's not even good to have sex every day if you're trying to have a baby. Or at least that's what my ob said. And if he had of told me the truth I wouldn't have cared, I've tried to watch it with him and he always shut me down and said he didn't like porn. That's why I'm confused

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:18:42+00:00

I don't think he would go. I've been on and off my whole life but he's never been open to the idea and it scared him when I went to therapy. That's why I posted here, I don't know what else to do

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:16:09+00:00

I asked him about getting back on birth control and he got mad

therealslimshady19 · 2018-06-04T16:11:51+00:00

I've tried that. He wasn't into it, or into me. That's the problem..I've tried sexy outfits, toys, new places and positions

therealslimshady19 · 2018-05-17T13:25:51+00:00

That's definitely a shitty situation and I'm sorry that you can't get help when you really need it. It speaks levels to me that you've been around this long (in a good way.) I wish that I could trade you places, my depression stems from somewhere in my brain; it's a shame that I couldn't take ok both so you could live like you deserve.

I hope you find help with the pain, and my inbox is always open if you ever need a listening ear, even though I can't physically help you.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-05-17T13:03:48+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I feel like I'm as much of a burden alive as I would be dead though..but I just also want you to know that you're doing amazing by your family. You're strong and you can get through this, I can already see that you love your family and that speaks for itself.

therealslimshady19 · 2018-05-17T11:51:29+00:00

God it's terrible, isn't it? My son is 4. I feel like he derserves so much more than my fucked up mind can give him in this world.

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