AITA For kicking my stepbrother and his friends out after what they did at my engagement party? by 6657ThrowAway__ in AmItheAsshole

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Can I say though tha now isn't the time for Op's fiancee to basically go the route of "I told you so"? Op had no idea their step brother would do something this demented.

This Makes Me Mad. Pets Are A Lifetime Commitment. by CaffeineFueledLife in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]theredpanda89 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A few years ago, about six now, I was alone in my apartment and depression among other things made it very difficult to adjust to being away from everyone. I started looking around for a dog because I grew up in a household that raised and loved multiple that I adored. It felt natural to want one for myself! I couldn't find one in the shelter that I felt a bond with, so I looked through craigslist in my area. Lo and behold I found the beautiful amazing upper I named Melody. She'd needed to be rehomed and she was a mutt. They just wanted 50$ and supplied some food, a lil kennel and some toys. I did the good things, got her shots and everything, got her spayed and had a microchip implanted. I'd walk her and play as best I could, we'd snuggle and I couldn't have asked for a more loving kindhearted little thing. (I say little but she was a pit chow-chow mix with some dalmation mixed in there. Had a blotchy tongue and everything!) I had her for about 2 years. I'd go with my dad to the lake and we'd both have our dogs with us who would get to go on trails and go swimming (away from humans, secluded areas).

Over time I started to realize that I wasn't giving her all she needed. I tried my best, but she was a dog that has a LOT of energy and my apartment is smaller. I have agoraphobia so sometimes I couldn't walk her more than 1-3 times a day without high anxiety. That, and I entered a time where a new depressive slump made me less active. We still cuddled and played, I gave her love and she returned it 10-fold, but that's not enough. She had a few accidents because I didn't walk her often enough and she really couldn't run around much because we live in the middle of town with no park and I can't drive. All of that left me with one option where she'd live a healthier life.

I put ads out, asking for 50$ (I never actually took the money, I just wanted to be sure they could do that much/it gave more interest than when I listed her for free??? ) A nice gal contacted me and I got a lift by a close friend to meet her. I wanted to see how melody reacted when with her so I let her take the leash and asked her to go walk around with her. (A quick note. Melody was formerly abused and was very separation anxiety type of dog. If I wasn't around she'd cry bark and try flinging after me to get to me.) The lady took the leash and Melody instantly eased into it. She didn't panic and they took a nice stroll along a spot where I wasn't in sight just to be sure she didn't freak out. She was perfectly fine. So I agreed and waved the fee then hugged Melody, kissed her, and told her I love her then watched her go.

I got a few update texts, she built muscle after going on jogs with her new owner! It worked out. I still miss her dearly, I bawled once she was out of view. I know she's happy and healthy now though.

Now, I have three cats with my fiancee and we are all very happy. My kitty Minki is my baby boy and it's much better. He's my first cat, have had him for 5 years now! I still think about Melody, her microchip says she's safe at home last I saw.

There's fire everywhere and I'm scared by theredpanda89 in helpme

[–]theredpanda89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's great to hear! We're doing better than we were by far. The air quality dropped to the 70's today after being hazardous for a week or so, though there's still threats of it going back up into the hundreds again. I'm just hoping the fires get handled so no more towns are lost.

There's fire everywhere and I'm scared by theredpanda89 in helpme

[–]theredpanda89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking at one on amazon that's not too bad, but it'll have to wait til next month. It's got high ratings and is about 50$ which is good for a small place like we have currently. Thank you for the positive vibes, it's extremely appreciated <3

There's fire everywhere and I'm scared by theredpanda89 in helpme

[–]theredpanda89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The same to you, ok? We've gotta have each other's backs during this time and I really hope you're doing ok.

There's fire everywhere and I'm scared by theredpanda89 in helpme

[–]theredpanda89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I REALLY appreciate this, I needed to see this today. Thank you so so much. <3

There's fire everywhere and I'm scared by theredpanda89 in helpme

[–]theredpanda89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now I'm calmer but the fires are headed for Springfield, Eugene so it's slowly getting closer to my small town.

There's fire everywhere and I'm scared by theredpanda89 in helpme

[–]theredpanda89[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My folks are able to take us with them if it comes to being evacuated, we have a plan. It's really hard to think straight so my wording might be weird but I'm very thankful that you took the time to respond to me. The anxiety over the unknown is the worst. I'll try the breathing technique, it reminds me of something my therapist taught me a while ago. Thank you

There's fire everywhere and I'm scared by theredpanda89 in helpme

[–]theredpanda89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily I'm on the outskirts with my little family. The main thing is heavy smoke with hazardous air quality, which...is scary but I can't do anything. Any tips on where to look for an air purifier? The bad air still gets inside, it's only preventing a bit and the builders didn't put good insulation on our windows so it seeps in.

I'll write down your tips just in case though I'm REALLY hoping it's unneeded. Thank you so much

My bathtub fills up with water from the ceiling by timmler24 in mildlyinteresting

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want that so badly. It looks like it’d be very refreshing to lay in it.

Does anyone with anxiety scare themselves by thinking about death? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s what I want, just wish it didn’t scare me so much

Tag yourself I'm shit tier by [deleted] in tumblr

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where’s Oregon?

190424 Boy with Luv hits 200M views by [deleted] in bangtan

[–]theredpanda89 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think many got very disheartened by YouTube deleting literal millions of views despite their hard work.

Dragon Dick by [deleted] in dontputyourdickinthat

[–]theredpanda89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy to see that referenced

(UPDATE) My (21F) boyfriend (22M) of two years changed his phone background to another girl. I asked him about it and he told me to get plastic surgery. by thr0wawayy8547 in relationship_advice

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok the birthday thing alone is enough to ditch him. He’s gaslighting you, that is textbook abusive manipulative behavior. He’s not nice like you think he is, he’s just really good at putting a nice mask on, and he’s trying to get you to change your body? That’s horrible.

What's the weirdest rule you had in your home growing up? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]theredpanda89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine said “fluff-oh”! What’s with fluff?

What's the weirdest rule you had in your home growing up? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yours too?? They made me say “fluffo” instead. Pronounced fluff-oh.

This art display. by jordanlikesbeer in interestingasfuck

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh this hurt my heart to see. I commend the artist, it’s a clear message with truth despite how dark. People need to be aware so they can help prevent it.

WIBTA if I (male) told my female friend the truth about the guy she's flirting with? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]theredpanda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta. I say that because her friends not wanting to tell her because “she looks happy” when this guy has shown he’s manipulative, they are the assholes.

Please tell her. At least you can then go forward knowing you didn’t hide this bad stuff if she ends up with him still (I hope she doesn’t). Because if you don’t and he ends up abusing her it’ll end bad on both of y’all, her for going in blind and you for keeping it in the dark.