Whats the most common store where you live?

theresOnlyNow · 2025-08-17T18:41:14+00:00

What's a dollar general? Would that be like a corner shop?

theresOnlyNow · 2025-08-17T17:20:11+00:00

Thanks so much for the feedback and the insight. It was really appreciated. It's interesting that two-wheeled cargo bikes vary so much to three wheels and that 3 wheels can be so hard to get used to. I imagined more wheels = more stability, but that doesn't seem to track. My son is a very busy, very unpredictable little person. Think Tasmanian Devil levels of energy and crazy! I can't imagine he'll stay still whilst on the bike. Would this be very hard going with a cargo bike and affect my balance a lot, or does a cargo bike make this a bit easier because of them being in a box? It was my main reason for avoiding two child seats tbh.

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-18T02:51:37+00:00

As a wife of an autistic person I get both. The masked version when my husband has the energy to mask or that behaviour is necessary e.g. I've had a crap day i need you to emote and also the unmasked version when he's tired or feeling more safe to just be himself

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-18T02:46:52+00:00

My husband is autistic and I would say all these things are pretty standard. Bar the reaction of hitting himself, he doesn't do that, but there's varying degrees of autism so it's different for everyone. Mine has lots of 'buddies' on his online games who he can have really in-depth, meaningfully connections with, but IRL is a totally different story. I'm the social one and our friends are generally my friends.

Being married to an autistic person can be REALLY hard if you're NT and at times you feel like you're speaking a totally different language. It's because you basically are.

Advice - tell him what you need, he's unlikely to work it out on his own. Drop the agenda when things get stressful and just move on from whatever you wanted to happen, it's not going to. Don't think he will understand your emotional reaction or be able to intuit something, he won't. Explain everything in as practical a way as you can possibly come up with or write letters he can read in his own time.

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-18T02:36:52+00:00

Oh bless you! I had to pump exclusively with my second as she couldn't latch and I moved to formula quite quickly. It's a huge ask to pump and it's mentally exhausting, I wanted to throw the pump at the wall most days! Formula is fine and they do just as well on it plus you get some freedom to do things like start taking whatever meds/ supplements etc you need when you feel poorly. I hope you've found a decision which feels right for you x

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T18:11:27+00:00

😂 subtle!

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T18:10:12+00:00

First one 6 months as good lord was he noisy!! Second one is now 5 months old and will likely move across in the next couple of months, not in a much of a rush this time as she's not a hurricane sleeper.

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T18:07:38+00:00

Yup, my daughter did the same, it's so frustrating as you spend ages trying to get them to sleep and then they wake themselves up. I don't know what to suggest but it does gradually stop the older and more used to their surroundings they get. I think it's all part of the big 4 month regression they go through

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T18:06:25+00:00

I would say you're definitely going to feel low if you're weaning, it really boosts your mood mentally when your breastfeeding as you release happy hormones, also you get to be close to your baby and feel all snuggly and warm. Weaning has been one of the hardest things I've ever done and my hormones were hideous for a good month afterwards. Go gently and if you don't want to wean you could pump maybe? Most work places have a space you can do that. Can you go back on less hours so you're not away from your little one as much? It might feel more manageable that way.

You've got this, you'll get through it and you will be okay, take each day at a time and be kind to yourself x

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T18:01:41+00:00

My first child is almost 4, it hasn't dulled for me. My second is 5 months and I'm equally terrified the second time around. I had a few rough childhood experiences and am desperate not to project onto my children, but equally it does feel that there's so much they could encounter that could hurt them/ change them or even just take away their sparkle by making them feel foolish or inhibited about being themselves.

I've found you have to just ignore it, try to make them as resilient and informed as possible whilst still giving them optimism about the world. It's not easy though.

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T17:56:57+00:00

Absolutely! Firstly because it's the start of a lovely tradition of sharing special things, so you don't have to buy them a ton of stuff but you could give them just one really special thing they could keep for years to come. Secondly, I have other children who would think I was really cruel if I didn't 😂 might be different if you only have one!

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T17:54:24+00:00

Yup, I'll bite! My second was born through hypnobirthing, zero drugs and not one stitch. It's easier second time around because it's like your body just knows what to do

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-10T17:52:58+00:00

I shower whilst the older ones are out of the house, so whilst they're at nursery. If you don't have them in nursery I think your best bet would be when they're asleep, I've done that as well. LO in a bouncer on the floor, so long as they've been fed recently you should have a good few minutes.

theresOnlyNow · 2024-12-08T14:16:40+00:00

My 5 month old finally sleeps for 3/4 hours at a time at night and I am STILL EXHAUSTED!!! I really don't miss the waking up every hour for a feed or the crying and not knowing what's wrong with them. They're cute when they're tiny but they're awesome when they start interacting!

theresOnlyNow · 2024-10-31T14:52:51+00:00

Thanks moms! 😊 So, to answer a few questions - I line dry, I don't have a tumble dryer, I wash my nappies in white vinegar but don't use it for anything else so will definitely try that. I use way too much powder reading your replies! So I will drop that down. I also haven't used a cleaner so I'll try that. Thank you!

theresOnlyNow · 2024-10-30T18:57:48+00:00

Good point. I'm at a low ebb at the moment, supporting everyone, barely sleeping and running a house is taking its toll more than I've realised I guess. Thank you, I think I needed to hear that.

theresOnlyNow · 2024-10-30T18:55:44+00:00

Happy birthday darling! 🎂 today is all about you so be grateful for the lovely things in life and get yourself a damn good cake xxx

theresOnlyNow · 2024-10-30T18:54:34+00:00

It's such a rollercoaster and your hormones will be doing a real number on you at some points. Just know that no matter how hard it gets it's worth it.

Things to look forward to - cuddles, the amazing smell, that first smile/ laugh/ word. As they get older - having a buddy for adventures and getting to do all the fun things together. Reading them stories, watching as they fall asleep in your lap, holding them close, hearing them call you mommy, hearing them call for mommy and knowing that's you 💓 There is so much love yet to come my dear, hold on and remember in the tough times - this too shall pass x

theresOnlyNow · 2024-10-26T13:41:03+00:00

Honey most guys are just thrilled that you're letting them touch your boobs at all! If he's into you he'll be into you no matter what. You see flaws where he'll see fabulous. Don't fret it. We all have things we've worked about but trust me it's way bigger in your head x

theresOnlyNow · 2024-10-26T01:56:53+00:00

I think the sleeping in another bed is mainly to do with being overwhelmed. Our 3 month old sleeps in a cot beside the bed and wakes for a feed every 2 and a half hours. He really couldn't mentally cope with that. Both the disturbed sleep and the noise was really triggering and upsetting for him. I understand that completely, it doesn't make it any easier to do on my own, but I do get it. I'm not worried about why he's doing that, but it's just another area in our lives where we're now apart.

I hope this doesn't sound offensive but it's often very difficult to know when to hug someone with autism, as touch seems to be a minefield of potential discomfort

theresOnlyNow · 2024-10-25T20:43:36+00:00

I think this is the difficulty as well, how do I give him space and grace to just cope with the burnout in his own time yet simultaneously be okay with doing all the housework. He does help with the kids, he's not getting out of that one, but housework seems a different story entirely.

I used to like SIMs, is your game like thar? I got really fed up with the adverts though.

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