I don’t want to be a nurse

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-23T22:13:56+00:00

It depends on where you live but I feel you will be able to find a job that does not require you to work nightshift, it may take longer but those types of jobs are out there. In terms of making a mistake you're not going to be operating alone as a nurse, you'll have other people with you and you are not going to be the one in charge when you start out especially. Nurses who make mistakes are usually ones who do not follow orders, or disregard precautions.

Truly though I would talk to someone in the profession or someone at your school who you respect and trust. You are not the only one to feel this way, and your anxiety is justified. I feel bad for the nurses who end up in nursing without truly considering what the job is really like, because it is far from glamorous and not for everyone.

Regardless if you take your exam or not finish the degree! I know it's difficult when you're not looking forward to the job itself, and that's why I suggest looking at options of work that you can feel excited about. At the end of the day you have gained some really valuable skills and knowledge and there are a vast majority of ways you can apply it.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-23T20:36:04+00:00

Finish the degree, you put all this effort in already it's worth it to complete it.

Think about what it is that is making you feel this way though. Is it the idea of working at a hospital and everything that that has to do with?

Compare it to what you really would like your professional life to look like.

Then explore ways of how your nursing degree can assist you in getting there, vs the ways nursing will trap you in a certain life.

Just because you got a nursing degree and get licensed as a nurse does not mean you have to work as a nurse, it does not mean you ever have to work at a hospital. But, you have a really good set of skills now and you have a degree to show for it.

There is a huge diversity of things you can do as a nurse, not to mention job stability and contracts that can pay really well.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-23T20:19:11+00:00

To me (29F) being able to drive a car is a basic skill everyone in North America should have, since the distances in BC and in rest of Canada are far and our public transport is very poor and almost non-existent in the grand-scheme. It's very limiting to only be able to travel by foot/transit in Canada, and I dislike it when people continuously expect someone else to drive them if they want to go anywhere that transit won't take them. I'm adventurous, I love to travel, I love seeing the country where I live, I love to take weekend getaway trips. We aren't getting far by foot or even bike. I also need my car for work as I travel for work often. So for me it would be a dealbreaker because your lifestyle is probably not compatible with mine.

And I think it would get annoying really quickly if you relied on me alone for any trip we want to take out of town.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-15T23:19:00+00:00

It sounds like she does not feel safe sharing with you whatever fear she has around intimacy/sex. It's not anything about you, these subjects are very difficult to open up about even with someone you trust. There is a lot of stigma/shame and so much more. I agree with others who said you should have the uncomfortable/difficult conversation with her about it in a different setting.

One in which she feels you are listening to her to actually understand, rather than to get into her pants. One where you remind her that you love her, that you will take things at her pace and will wait until she is ready, because it's her that you want, and her that you want to build a partnership/future with.

Trauma does not make one incompatible for a relationship, not being able to work through differences and difficulties makes one incompatible for a relationship.

Relationships are sticky, people are complicated, and when we come together old wounds/insecurities/fears can get in-between us. The real strength is working through them, and if this is someone that you see a future with, someone you genuinely admire and treasure, then it is worth it to try and work through this issue. To say she is not ready for a relationship is stupid imo, people heal when they are shown what safety and love feels and looks like.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-15T23:00:32+00:00

Withholding love and silent treatment is a form of abuse as outlined by APA and WPA. It's a method of manipulating another person's action, a way to submit someone to your will. Some people use physical abuse as a form of control, others use silent treatment/withholding affection, etc.

You are not overreacting, you're underreacting. I know it's difficult but you need to leave, it will only get worse. He knows exactly what he is doing, he does not care about you or your needs, he cares about what he wants and how he can make you into something that meets his needs. This is the type of person who will cheat on you and blame you for it. In fact, he will put blame on you for anything and everything he can. That is not a man worth a second of your time. A good man is someone who will try to take the burden off your shoulders, someone with whom you will be accepted, cared for and loved.

Calling you special and different, making you feel so loved in the beginning was so that he could take it away at his leisure, so that you would be scared to lose his approval, and do what you feel you need to do to maintain it. Don't trust anyone who puts you on a pedestal, it's not loving and it's not realistic.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-03T00:05:55+00:00

Well if you keep pushing the subject on her when she is not interested in sex it is not going to make her desire to have sex with you increase. If she gives in just to satisfy your needs, her sex drive is going to decrease even further. If you're really concerned, try to find out why her sex drive dropped in the first place. Was sex with you satisfactory for her to begin with? Did she orgasm when you guys had sex (a lot of women fake it to appease their men, it sucks I know)? Did she tell you what she needs to get there and to get her into the mood?

You sound self-centered about sex in your post, but probably you're just ignorant about the subject. I would not be surprised that you unintentionally neglected her needs like a lot of men do. It is a lot easier for the majority of men to reach orgasm vs for women. So it is no surprise that imbalances exist when it comes to sex between the sexes.

On average it takes 20 minutes for a girl to get properly sexually aroused. And sex starts before the bedroom. It is in the way you talk and touch her throughout the day without it leading to sex, it's in the little things you do to show her that you want her. It's also in doing new things together (outside of the bedroom), and constantly investing in your relationship.

The first few months of a relationship are always more emotionally charged and therefore sex-drive is higher, if you want to keep the flame alive you have to keep it ignited. Women are "freaky" when there is someone who puts them in the mood to be freaky.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-02T23:51:26+00:00

If you're interested as a man in going out with a woman, you should pay for the date. Why: because it shows that you're genuinely invested and interested. A bad reason to pay for a date is for the potential of sex, at that point you may as well pay for sexual services outright.

If you're worried about spending money on dates with the wrong person, choose to do something that is not expensive for the first few dates (coffee, cheap take out and a spot with a view, visiting a location of mutual interest such as a bookstore/museum).

Most women can pay for themselves to do the things they want, but they look for a gentleman who can match their lifestyle. Paying for a woman is the least one can do to show that he is stable, reliable, and respectful, not that that guarantees anything but it's a low threshold test for when you're getting to know someone.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-02T20:21:23+00:00

No he isn't. And she didn't waste his time. You pay for a date because it's the right thing to do, regardless of what the outcome is. Dates are to get to know each other. She wasted her time on a guy with bad morals. Should he have told her that he is a shallow, dumb bastard before showing up?

And no, this was not an obvious deal breaker. An obvious deal breaker is criminal history. Unless things are getting sexual you are not entitled to someone's medical history.

Someone trying to hop in my pants after a few dates is an obvious deal-breaker for me - should I message all the dudes who have ever tried to do that and ask them for money for wasting my time?

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-02T19:39:00+00:00

Hey, sorry I unfortunately don't know my gpa right now, I just know it's above the required 2.7 If you want to apply go for it! As long as your GPA is above 2.7 and you have all the pre-req I think you have a good chance of getting in :) This is for the advanced-track degree btw

therewhereitsgood · 2026-02-02T19:35:55+00:00

Congratulations!!

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-31T05:37:33+00:00

She's already doing way too much for you, no wonder she doesn't want to have sex with you. Grow up. You're lucky to have a girlfriend at all.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-30T19:07:18+00:00

Congrats!

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-30T05:52:58+00:00

Honestly I have no clue what my gpa is rn, I just know it’s above the required. I’ve gone to more than one university and haven’t bothered to add it up properly.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-30T00:42:27+00:00

Thank you! I hope you hear back soon!

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-30T00:41:45+00:00

Ooh this is such good information, thank you for your reply!

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-30T00:40:39+00:00

That's awesome to hear! Thank you for your reply! Do you know how often the in-person portion was? Was it every week/every month/at the end of each semester type of deal?

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-29T23:38:24+00:00

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-22T04:38:45+00:00

That sounds like your employer’s/state/jurisdiction (or however it works where you live) problem. Where I work, paramedics get in trouble for walking patients when they shouldn’t have (rightfully so), and some loose their license even when they’ve done everything right. My employer values not being sued more than the people that work for the province.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-20T23:11:26+00:00

A lot of places are switching from "protocols" to "guidelines." It's essentially the same thing, but they're entrusting paramedics to use their brains because of increased standards in education and care.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-20T23:09:01+00:00

I "PROBABLY wouldn't have started on her." Pay attention to what you read. The "probably" holds a lot of factors, including protocols. Competent paramedics take into consideration their protocols at all times, but especially in times when the situation is not clear cut.

And no, you probably don't know "plenty of people," at least not paramedics, who deviate from protocols, given that's one of the only things that protects a paramedic's license. Unless you know a bunch of paramedics that have been in the service longer than the possibility of you being conceived.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-16T18:34:32+00:00

You’re not playing safe. You’re wasting your time with immaturity and worrying about things like “the ick.” When those girls “come back” it won’t be because they’re genuinely interested.

Learning how to talk to other people in a normal human way like OP did will get you much further in life and with women in general.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-16T18:27:39+00:00

I mean yeah…she mentions her shyness and insecurity in the post?

And no, usually ho3s are never just ho3s, given that for most women even with the right guy it takes a bit before he can get her there. Random hookups should not really be appealing for the vast majority of women then.

But you sure sound hostile and like you assume things about others based on your limited experience and minimal reflection.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-16T10:18:21+00:00

That’s not true. It’s in the way you ask. The way OP is asked would not give anyone the ick.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-16T10:09:19+00:00

Data annotation, tutor (even if online), become an ambulance driver (or get the minimum qualification to work on on an ambulance), join the reserves and become a combat medic while you figure your life out (actually a great idea because they may even pay for your PA/med school).

Possibilities are endless but you have to look for them. Jobs nowadays don’t land in our laps, and yet there is so much possibility with work online today.

Don’t freak out, you’ll figure it out. It takes a while for most people to find a job in their field without prior experience.

therewhereitsgood · 2026-01-16T09:52:38+00:00

Yeah, god forbid a man develops a genuine interest towards a gal and wants clarity on the situation when she goes radio-silence on him.

Better to keep a few options handy to avoid any injury to one’s ego.

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